The New York Times bestselling, hilarious tale of Mary Karr’s hardscrabble Texas childhood that Oprah.com calls the best memoir of a generation—now with a foreword by Lena Dunham in celebration of its twentieth anniversary.
“Wickedly funny and always movingly illuminating, thanks to kick-ass storytelling and a poet's ear.” –Oprah.com
The Liars’ Club took the world by storm and raised the art of the memoir to an entirely new level, bringing about a dramatic revival of the form. Karr’s comic childhood in an east Texas oil town brings us characters as darkly hilarious as any of J. D. Salinger’s—a hard-drinking daddy, a sister who can talk down the sheriff at age twelve, and an oft-married mother whose accumulated secrets threaten to destroy them all. This unsentimental and profoundly moving account of an apocalyptic childhood is as “funny, lively, and un-put-downable” (USA Today) today as it ever was.
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About the Author
Mary Karr kick-started a memoir revolution with The Liars’ Club, which was a New York Times bestseller for over a year, a best book of the year for The New York Times Book Review, The New Yorker, People, and Time, a finalist for the National Book Critics Circle Award, and the winner of prizes from PEN and the Texas Institute of Letters. Karr has won the Whiting Award, Radcliffe’s Bunting Fellowship, and Pushcart Prizes for both verse and essays, and she has been a Guggenheim Fellow in poetry. Her other bestselling books include The Art of Memoir, the memoirs Lit and Cherry, and the poetry collections Sinners Welcome, Viper Rum, The Devil’s Tour, and Abacus. The Peck Professor of Literature at Syracuse University, Karr lives in New York City.
Lena Dunham (foreword) is the creator of the critically acclaimed HBO series Girls and the author of the New York Times bestselling essay collection Not That Kind of Girl. A frequent contributor to The New Yorker, she lives in Brooklyn and Los Angeles.
Brian Rea (cover illustrator) is the longtime illustrator for the New York Times’ “Modern Love” column and a former art director for the New York Times op-ed page. His design clients include Kate Spade, Honda, Billabong, Herman Miller, and MTV. Rea lives in Los Angeles.
Read an Excerpt
My sharpest memory is of a single instant surrounded by dark. I was seven, and our family doctor knelt before me where I sat on a mattress on the bare floor. He wore a yellow golf shirt unbuttoned so that sprouts of hair showed in a V shape on his chest. I had never seen him in anything but a white starched shirt and a gray tie. The change unnerved me. He was pulling at the hem of my favorite nightgown-a pattern of Texas bluebonnets bunched into nosegays tied with ribbon against a field of nappy white cotton. I had tucked my knees under it to make a tent. He could easily have yanked the thing over my head with one motion, but something made him gentle. "Show me the marks," he said. "Come on, now. I won't hurt you." He had watery blue eyes behind thick glasses, and a mustache that looked like a caterpillar. "Please? Just pull this up and show me where it hurts," he said. He held a piece of hem between thumb and forefinger. I wasn't crying and don't remember any pain, but he talked to me in that begging voice he used when he had a long needle hidden behind his back. I liked him but didn't much trust him. The room I shared with my sister was dark, but I didn't fancy hiking my gown up with strangers milling around in the living room.
It took three decades for that instant to unfreeze. Neighbors and family helped me turn that one bright slide into a panorama. The bed frame tilted against the wall behind the doctor had a scary, spidery look in the dark. In one corner, the tallboy was tipped over on its back like a stranded turtle, its drawers flung around. There were heaps of spilled clothes, puzzles, comics, and the GoldenBooks I could count on my mom to buy in the supermarket line if I'd stayed in the carriage. The doorway framed the enormous backlit form of Sheriff Watson, who held my sister, then nine, with one stout arm. She had her pink pajamas on and her legs wrapped around his waist. She fiddled with his badge with a concentration too intense for the actual interest such a thing might hold for her. Even at that age she was cynical about authority in any form. She was known for mocking nuns in public and sassing teachers. But I could see that she had painted a deferential look on her face. The sheriff[hmp1.5]'s cowboy hat kept the details of his expression in deep shadow, but I made out a sort of soft half-smile I'd never seen on him.
I had a knee-jerk fear of the sheriff based on my father's tendency to get in fights. He'd pull open the back screen with knuckles scraped and bleeding, then squat down to give instructions to me and Lecia (pronounced, she would have me tell you, "Lisa"). "If the sheriff comes by here, you just tell him you ain't seen me in a few days." In fact, the sheriff never came by, so my ability to straight-faced lie to the law was never tested. But just his presence that night flooded me with an odd sense: I done something wrong and here's the sheriff. If I had, that night, possessed a voice, or if anyone nearby felt like listening, that's what I might have said. But when you're a kid and something big is going on, you might as well be furniture for all anybody says to you.
It was only over time that the panorama became animate, like a scene in some movie crystal ball that whirls from a foggy blur into focus. People developed little distinct motions; then the whole scene jerked to smooth and sudden life. Sheriff Watson's jaw dipped into the light and returned to shadow with some regularity as he said things that I couldn't hear to my blond, suddenly cherubic-acting sister. Some firemen wearing canary-colored slickers started to move through the next room, and Dr. Boudreaux's thick fingers came again to rub the edge of my speckled nightgown the way old ladies at the five-and-dime tested yard goods. There must have been an ambulance outside, because at intervals big triangles of red light slashed across the room. I could almost feel them moving over my face, and in the window, through a web of honeysuckle, I saw in my own backyard flames like those of a football bonfire.
And the volume on the night began to rise. People with heavy boots stomped through the house. Somebody turned off the ambulance siren. The back screen opened and slammed. My daddy's dog, Nipper, was growling low and making his chain clank in the yard. He was a sullen dog trained to drink beer and bite strangers. He'd been known to leap from a speeding truck's window to chase down and fight any hound he saw. He'd killed one lady's Chihuahua, then just shook it like a rag while Daddy tried to coax him out of her garage and she hollered and cried. When a voice I didn't know told some sonofabitch to get out of the way, I knew it meant Nipper, who disappeared that night into the East Texas bayou-or more likely, my sister later figured out, the gas chamber at the local pound. Anyway, we never saw him again, which was okay by me. That dog had bitten me more than once.
More door slams, the noise of boots, and some radio static from the cruiser in the road. "Come on, baby," Dr. Boudreaux said, "show me the marks. I'm not about to hurt you." I kept waiting to make eye contact with my sister to get some idea of how to handle this, but she was dead set on that badge.
I don't remember talking. I must eventually have told Dr. Boudreaux there weren't any marks on me. There weren't. It took a long time for me to figure that out for certain, even longer to drive my memory from that single place in time out toward the rest of my life.
The next thing I knew, I was being led away by Sheriff Watson. He still held Lecia, who had decided to pretend that she was asleep. My eyes were belt-level with his service revolver and a small leather sap that even then must have been illegal in the state of Texas. It was shaped like an enormous black tear. I resisted the urge to touch it. Lecia kept her face in his neck the whole time, but I knew she was scudging sleep. She slept like a cat, and this was plenty of hoopla to keep her awake. The sheriff held my left hand. With my free one, I reached up and pinched her dirty ankle. Hard. She kicked out at me, then angled her foot up out of reach and snuggled back to her fake sleep on his chest.
The highway patrolmen and firemen stood around with the blank heaviness of uninvited visitors who plan a long stay. Somebody had made a pot of coffee that laid a nutty smell over the faint chemical stink from the gasoline fire in the backyard. The men in the living room gave our party a wide berth and moved toward the kitchen.
I knew that neither of my parents was coming. Daddy was working the graveyard shift, and the sheriff said that his deputy had driven out to the plant to try and track him down. Mother had been taken Away-he further told us-for being Nervous.
I should explain here that in East Texas parlance the term Nervous applied with equal accuracy to anything from chronic nail-biting to full-blown psychosis. Mr. Thibideaux down the street had blown off the heads of his wife and three sons, then set his house on fire before fixing the shotgun barrel under his own jaw and using his big toe on the trigger. I used to spend Saturday nights in that house with his daughter, a junior high twirler of some popularity, and I remember nothing more of Mr. Thibideaux than that he had a crew cut and a stern manner. He was a refinery worker like Daddy, and also a deacon at First Baptist.
I was in my twenties when Mr. Thibideaux killed his family. I liked to call myself a poet and had affected a habit of reading classical texts (in translation, of course-I was a lazy student). I would ride the Greyhound for thirty-six hours down from the Midwest to Leechfield, then spend days dressed in black in the scalding heat of my mother's front porch reading Homer (or Ovid or Virgil) and waiting for someone to ask me what I was reading. No one ever did. People asked me what I was drinking, how much I weighed, where I was living, and if I had married yet, but no one gave me a chance to deliver my lecture on Great Literature. It was during one of these visits that I found the Thibideauxs' burned-out house, and also stumbled on the Greek term ate. In ancient epics, when somebody boffs a girl or slays somebody or just generally gets heated up, he can usually blame ate, a kind of raging passion, pseudodemonic, that banishes reason. So Agamemnon, having robbed Achilles of his girlfriend, said, "I was blinded by ate and Zeus took away my understanding." Wine can invoke ate, but only if it's ensorcered in some way. Because the ate is supernatural, it releases the person possessed of it from any guilt for her actions. When neighbors tried to explain the whole murder-suicide of the Thibideaux clan after thirty years of grass-cutting and garbage-taking-out and dutiful church-service attendance, they did so with one adjective, which I have since traced to the Homeric idea of ate: Mr. Thibideaux was Nervous. No amount of prodding on my part produced a more elaborate explanation.
On the night the sheriff came to our house and Mother was adjudged more or less permanently Nervous, I didn't yet understand the word. I had only a vague tight panic in the pit of my stomach, the one you get when your parents are nowhere in sight and probably don't even know who has a hold of you or where you'll wind up spending the night.
I could hear the low hum of neighbor women talking as we got near the front door. They had gathered on the far side of the ditch that ran before our house, where they stood in their nightclothes like some off-duty SWAT team waiting for orders. The sheriff let go of my hand once we were outside. From inside the tall shadow of his hat, with my sister still wrapped around him in bogus slumber, he told me to wait on the top step while he talked to the ladies. Then he went up to the women, setting in motion a series of robe-tightenings and sweater- buttonings.
The concrete was cold on my bottom through the thin nightgown. I plucked two june bugs off the screen and tried to line them up to race down a brick, but one flew off, and the other just flipped over and waggled its legs in the air.
At some point it dawned on me that my fate for the night was being decided by Sheriff Watson and the neighbor ladies. It was my habit at that time to bargain with God, so I imagine that I started some haggling prayer about who might take us home. Don't let it be the Smothergills, I probably prayed. They had six kids already and famously strict rules about who ate what and when. The one time we'd spent the night there, Lecia and I wound up in the bathroom eating toothpaste past midnight. We'd eaten a whole tube, for which we had been switch-whipped in the morning by a gray-faced Mr. Smothergill. He was undergoing weekly chemotherapy treatments for mouth cancer at the time, and every kid in the neighborhood had an opinion about when he would die. Cancer and death were synonymous. His sandpaper voice and bleak disposition scared us more than any whipping. His kids called him Cheerful Chuck behind his back. The oldest Smothergill daughter had been permitted to visit my house only once. (Our house was perceived as Dangerous, a consequence of Mother's being Nervous.) She was so tickled by the idea that we could open the refrigerator at will that she melted down a whole stick of butter in a skillet and drank it from a coffee mug. Lord, I would rather eat a bug than sleep on that hard pallet at the Smothergills'. Plus in the morning the boys get up and stand around the TV in their underpants doing armpit farts. Let it be the Dillards', and I'll lead a holy life forever from this day. I will not spit or scratch or pinch or try to get Babby Carter to eat doo-doo. Mrs. Dillard stood with the other ladies in her pale blue zip-front duster, her arms folded across her chest. She made Pillsbury cinnamon rolls in the morning and let me squiggle on the icing. Plus her boys had to wear pajama pants when we were there. But the Dillards had space for only one of us, and that on the scratchy living room sofa. Maybe Lecia could go to the Smothergills', I proposed to whatever God I worshiped, and I could take the Dillards. I wished Lecia no particular harm, but if there was only one banana left in the bowl, I would not hesitate to grab it and leave her to do without. I decided that if the june bug could be herded the length of a brick before I could count five I'd get what I wanted. But the june bug kept flipping and waggling before it had even gone an inch, and Mrs. Dillard went out of her way, it seemed, not to look at me.
I don't remember who we got farmed out to or for how long. I was later told that we'd stayed for a time with a childless couple who bred birds. Some memory endures of a screened-in breezeway with green slatted blinds all around. The light was lemon-colored and dusty, the air filled with blue-and-green parakeets, whose crazy orbits put me in mind of that Alfred Hitchcock movie where birds go nuts and start pecking out people's eyeballs. But the faces of my hosts in that place-no matter how hard I squint-refuse to be conjured.
Because it took so long for me to paste together what happened, I will leave that part of the story missing for a while. It went long unformed for me, and I want to keep it that way here. I don't mean to be coy. When the truth would be unbearable the mind often just blanks it out. But some ghost of an event may stay in your head. Then, like the smudge of a bad word quickly wiped off a school blackboard, this ghost can call undue attention to itself by its very vagueness. You keep studying the dim shape of it, as if the original form will magically emerge. This blank spot in my past, then, spoke most loudly to me by being blank. It was a hole in my life that I both feared and kept coming back to because I couldn't quite fill it in.
I did know from that night forward that things in my house were Not Right, this despite the fact that the events I have described so far had few outward results. No one ever mentioned the night again. I don't remember any subsequent home visits from any kind of social worker or concerned neighbor. Dr. Bouchdreaux seemed sometimes to minister to my health with an uncharacteristic tenderness. And neighbors dragged my sister and me to catechism classes and Vacation Bible School and to various hunting camps, never mentioning the fact that our family never reciprocated. I frequently showed up on doorsteps at suppertime; foraging, Daddy called it. He said it reminded him of his rail- riding days during the Depression. But no one ever failed to hand me a plate, though everybody knew that I had plenty to eat at home, which wasn't always true for the families I popped in on.
The night's major consequences for me were internal. The fact that my house was Not Right metastasized into the notion that I myself was somehow Not Right, or that my survival in the world depended on my constant vigilance against various forms of Not-Rightness. Whenever I stepped into the road at Leechfield's one traffic light, I usually expected to get plowed down by a Red Ball truck flying out of nowhere (unlikely, given the lack of traffic). I became both a flincher and a fighter. I was quick to burst into tears in the middle of a sandlot baseball game and equally quick to whack someone in the head without much provocation. Neighborhood myth has it that I once cold-cocked a five-year-old playmate with an army trench shovel, then calmly went back to digging. Some of this explosiveness just came from a naturally bad temperament, of course. But some stems from that night, when my mind simply erased everything up until Dr. Boudreaux began inviting me to show him marks that I now know weren't even there.
The missing story really starts before I was born, when my mother and father met and, for reasons I still don't get, quickly married.
My mother had just arrived in Leechfield. She'd driven down from New York with an Italian sea captain named Paolo. He was fifty to her thirty, and her fourth husband. My mother didn't date, she married. At least that's what we said when I finally found out about all her marriages before Daddy. She racked up seven weddings in all, two to my father. My mother tended to blame the early marriages on her own mother's strict Methodist values, which didn't allow for premarital fooling around, of which she was fond. She and Paolo had barely finished the honeymoon and set up housekeeping in Leechfield, where he was fixing to ship out, than they began fighting.
So it was on a wet winter evening in 1950 that she threw her dresses, books, and hatboxes in the back of an old Ford and laid rubber out of Leechfield, intending never to return. She was heading for her mother's cotton farm about five hundred miles west. Just outside of Leechfield, where Highway 73 yields up its jagged refinery skyline to bayous and rice fields, she blew a tire. She was about twenty yards from the truck stop where Daddy happened to be working. He had a union job as an apprentice stillman at Gulf Oil, but he was filling in at the station that night for his friend Cooter, who'd called him in desperation from a crap game in Baton Rouge where he was allegedly on a roll.
All Mother's marriages, once I uncovered them in my twenties, got presented to me as accidents. Her meeting Daddy was maybe the most unlikely. Had Cooter not gotten lucky with the dice in a Baton Rouge honky-tonk, and had Paolo not perturbed Mother in the process of unpacking crates, and had the tire on the Ford not been worn from a recent cross-country jaunt (Paolo's mother lived in Seattle, and they'd traveled there from New York, then down to Texas, where divorce laws permitted Mother to quickly get rid of husband number three before signing up with number four). . . . All these events conspired to strand my mother quite literally at my father's feet on Highway 73 that night.
He said there was a General Electric moon shining the first time he saw her, so bright it was like a spotlight on her. She refused his help jacking up the car and proceeded to cuss like a sailor when she couldn't get the lug nuts loose. My mother claims that she had only recently learned to cuss, from Paolo. Daddy said her string of practiced invectives, which seemed unlikely given her fancy clothes (she had on a beige silk suit) and New York license plates, impressed him no end. He'd never heard a woman cuss like that before.
She changed the tire and must have made some note of his raw good looks. He was some part Indian-we never figured out which tribe-black-haired and sharp- featured. His jug-eared grin reminded her of Clark Gable's. Since she fancied herself a sort of Bohemian Scarlett O'Hara, the attraction was deep and sudden. I should also note that Mother was prone to conversion experiences of various kinds, and had entered a fervent Marxist stage. She toted Das Kapital around in her purse for years. Daddy was active in the Oil Chemical and Atomic Workers Union. Whenever they renegotiated a contract-every two years-he was known as an able picket-line brawler. He was, in short, a Texas working man, with a smattering of Indian blood and with personality traits that she had begun to consider heroic.
What People are Saying About This
“The essential American story . . . a beauty.” —Jonathan Yardley, The Washington Post Book World
“Astonishing . . . one of the most dazzling and moving memoirs to come along in years.” —Michiko Kakutani, The New York Times
“This book is so good I thought about sending it out for a backup opinion. . . . It’s like finding Beethoven in Hoboken. To have a poet’s precision of language and a poet’s insight into people applied to one of the roughest, toughest, ugliest places in America is an astonishing event.” —Molly Ivins, The Nation
“9mm humor, gothic wit, and a stunning clarity of memory within a poet’s vision . . . Karr’s unerring scrutiny of her childhood delivers a story confoundingly real.” —The Boston Sunday Globe
“Overflows with sparkling wit and humor . . . Truth beats powerfully at the heart of this dazzling memoir.” —San Francisco Chronicle
"Mary Karr's God-awful childhood has a calamitous appeal. The choice in the book is between howling misery and howling laughter, and the reader veers toward laughter. Karr has survived to write a drop-dead reply to the question, 'Ma, what was it like when you were a little girl?' " —Time
"This is the real deal; funny, painful, and hotter than Texas in September. This is what the memoir is supposed to be." —Stephen King, Entertainment Weekly
"Elegaic and searching . . . her toughness of spirit, her poetry, her language, her very voice are the agents of rebirth in this difficult, hard-earned journey." —The New York Times Book Review
Reading Group Guide
The Family Sideshow
When I set out on a book tour to promote the memoir about my less than perfect Texas clan, I did so with soul-sucking dread. Surely we’d be held up as grotesques, my beloveds and I, real moral circus freaks. Instead I shoved into bookstores where sometimes hundreds of people stood claiming to identify with my story, which fact stunned me. Maybe these people’s family lives differed in terms of surface pyrotechnicshouses set fire to and fortunes squandered. But the feelings didn’t. After eight weeks of travel, I ginned up this working definition for a dysfunctional family: any family with more than one person in it.
Maybe coming-of-age memoirs are being bought and read by the boatload precisely because they offer some window into other people’s whacked-out families, with which nearly everyone born in the fractured baby-boom era can identify. They also guarantee a central character emotionally engaged in a family narrative. Any writer’s voiceeven an omniscient, third-person narrator’s in fictionserves as a character in the text. But in memoir, the alleged “truth” of a given voice makes it somehow more emotionally compelling. It announces itself as real. Because family memoir lodges us in a writer’s personal history, we can almost see the voice being shaped by factors of geography, socio-economics, psychology. Like a ghost that assembles itself from mist, so the writer’s self seems to appear from her voice. Believe this, the autobiographer says, it’s real. If metafiction has been working double-overtime to explode the lie that fiction is true, memoir somewhat reestablishes the reader’s dream.
Of course, most readers doubt the absolute veracity of a memoir’s reconstructed dialogue and so forth. Tobias Wolff noted in a recent lecture at Syracuse University that all memory involves imagination and vice-versa. Some memoirs also clearly wander into the realm of the fantastic to construct what read like family mythsMaxine Hong Kingston’s Woman Warrior, for instance. There the author steals her Chinese mother’s method of “talking-story” to meld her own somewhat conflicting Chinese and American selves.
Still, we presume that the truth’s skeleton underlay Hong Kingston’s tale. So the character speaking to us from those events also feels, in some way, like a more real escort through the drama than a fictional narrator’s. However “real” Ishmael may seem in Moby Dick, Mary McCarthy offers me as a reader what feels like greater intimacy with a living character in Memories of a Catholic Girlhood.
Don’t get me wrong. Greater intimacy with a narrator isn’t always what a reader wants: I haven’t given up reading novels. But in the cocooned isolation we occupy at this millennium’s end, a friendly voice on a page has value.
A child’s voice or perspective can also open the often firmly locked door to a reader’s own memories of youth. When I read in Harry Crews’s A Childhood how that backwoods Georgia boy made up stories about models in the Sears catalog, I identified with it wholesale, even though I grew up far from the savage poverty Crews lays out:
“Nearly everybody I knew had something missing, a finger cut off, a toe split, an eye clouded with blindness from a glancing fence staple. . . . I knew that under those [Sears models’] fancy clothes, there had to be swellings and boils of one kind or another because there was no other way to live in the world.”
Anybody would twig to some universal truth about the childhood Crews describes here, I think. We all lose our innocence in part by coming to marvel at the rift between one’s private lifefamily fights, sayand the glossy families sold by the media. Crews’s voice conjures that innocence for us, the time when a family universe was still so colossal that you could project that reality onto the lives of strangers. Crews’s private experience ultimately overrode the lie of the Sears catalog. The stories he made up with his friend gave him, he later wrote, “an overwhelming sense of well-being and profound power.”
Crews’s survival is also encouraging, a testimony of sorts. In a class on memoir I taught at Syracuse University last year, my students puzzled me at the term’s end by praising the genre’s sense of hope. Of the dark and dire stories we’d readmental institutions for Susanna Kaysen and rape for Maya Angelouhope didn’t seem the leading emotion (except perhaps in Henry Louis Gates’s Colored People). “They lived to write books,” one student said. “They grew up and got away from their parents,” said another. The fact that the writers outlived their troubled pasts, walked out of them into adulthood, ultimately served as empowering for that class of readers.
Not everyone’s so wowed by what memoir offers up. William Gass took a hard swipe at the whole genre in Harper’s last May (“Autobiography in the Age of Narcissism”) primarily scolding the genre’s lack of truth. “The autobiographer is likely to treat records with less respect than he should. . . . Autobiographers flush before examining their stools."
For “truth” Gass favors history without bothering to noteas Tobias Wolff did in the aforementioned lecturethat historians are no more neutral toward their subjects than memoirists are. Nor can such primary sources as letters and diaries be construed as “objective.” Gass also neglected history’s glaring failures. My high school history text cheerfully described the westward migration without a glance at the native peoples whose bones got plowed under in the process.
Gass also praised fiction for veracity because it doesn’t announce itself as true. I could borrow that same reasoning to defend memoir for its blatant subjectivity. In our time we’ve watched most great sources of “objective” truthchurches and scientific studies and presidents among themtopple in terms of their moral authority. So any pose of authority can seem the ultimate fakery. In this way, Michael Herr’s psychedelic memoir of Vietnam, Dispatches, seems way more authentic to me in describing that war than the Defense Department’s records “objectively” assembled under Robert McNamara.
In our loneliness for some sense that we’re behaving well inside our very isolated families, personal experience has assumed some new power. Just as the novel form once took up experiences of urban, industrialized society that weren’t being handled in epic poems or epistles, so memoirreliant on a single, intensely personal voice for its unifying gluewrestles subjects in a way that readers of late find compelling. The good ones I’ve read confirm my experience in a flawed family. They reassure me the way belonging to a community reassures you.
My bookstore chats did the same. On the road, I came to believedespite the dire edicts from Newt Gingrich and the media about the moral, drug-besotted quagmire into which we’ve all sunkthat our families are working, albeit in new forms. People have gone on birthing babies and burying their dead and loving those with whom they shared troubled patches of history. We do this partly by telling storiesfictional and non-fictional onesin voices that neither deny family struggles nor make demons of our beloveds.
1. A major theme running through The Liars’ Club is the difference between Mary Karr’s parents. “With Mother,” Karr writes, “I always felt on the edge of something new, something never before seen or read about or bought, something that would change us. . . . With Daddy and his friends, I always knew what would happen and that left me feeling a sort of dreamy safety.” Karr’s mother is artistic and glamorous, while her father is down-to-earth. How do these contrasts lay the foundation for the Karr’s family life? Did you empathize with one parent more than the other? Did your feelings change as the book went on and more was revealed about them?
2. Despite the horror that permeated Karr’s childhood, characteristics like humor, honesty, and courage pervade The Liars’ Club. Karr does not pass judgment on her family or tell us how she thought they should have behaved. Would you have liked to have known more about Karr’s feelings about the events that she recounts? In what instances? Or were you able to discern how she felt through her actions? What emotions did you experience while reading The Liars’ Club?
3. Karr is a character in her own book, as well as its author. On the page, she’s a tough, scrappy kid who also has a tremendous sensitivity and devotion to the people around her. As readers, we understand the interior joys and terrors that make her such a rich and vivid character. How do you think she seemed to the people around her? If her mother was to make a list of her strongest characteristics, what would they be? If her father made such a list, would it differ in any way?
4. Karr tells her story for the most part from the point of view of a child, and what a child sees and understands. How might the storyand Karr’s perceptionschange if she had told it from the point of view of an adult, with the benefit of everything she has come to understand about her upbringing and her family? What would be gained, and what would be lost?
5. The author’s mother, Charlie Marie, never fully realized her dreams of becoming an artist. The author, who as child began to write poetry, was able to realize her creative ambitions. What gave Karr the strength to pursue that ambition? Was it “sheer cussedness,” one of the traits that characterized her as a child? Do you think the sadness of her mother’s unfulfilled dreams somehow propelled her? Do you think it had anything to do with her relationship with her father?
6. After Karr’s grandmother dies she sings, “Ding dong the witch is dead.” Were you surprised that she was happy her grandmother passed away? What in the grandmother’s character was so oppressive? Do you think her grandmother contributed to her mother’s despair and alcoholism? How important a part did she play in Karr’s life?
7. How would you characterize Karr’s relationship with her sister, Lecia? Does it change as the book progresses?
8. In an interview Karr said that she had previously tried to write a novel based on her childhood experiences: “When I tried to write about my life in a novel, I discovered that I behaved better in fiction than I did in real life. The truth is that I found it easier to lie in a novel, and what I wanted most of all was to tell the truth.” What do you think of this statement? Karr’s father was famous for the tales he told during meetings of the Liars’ Club. At any point did you feel that the author was perhaps altering or stretching the truth?
9. In the introduction to this guide, Karr states that while on tour to promote The Liars’ Club people from all walks of life told her they identified with her story. Do you identify with the Karr family? Did this influence you while you were reading the book? Is it “the essential American story,” as one reviewer stated?
Before the live bn.com chat, Mary Karr agreed to answer some of our questions.Q: What is your favorite room in the house? Why?
A: Kitchen: The food's there. Or bedroom: My fella's there.
Q: As a teacher are you a tough grader? What's your policy on extensions?
A: Grades don't interest me, but I don't grant incompletes because they become F's.
Q: As a mom, what do you do that drives your son crazy?
A: Not practice the slavish obedience he expects.
Q: You're invited to royal gala . . . what do you wear?
A: A black dress, which is what I wear mostly anyway.
Q: Off the top of your head . . . an unshakable line of poetry?
A: "You were a beautiful part of us, and I'm what's left . . ." By John Engman, a friend of mine who recently died.
Q: What do you consider our most important national holiday?
A: Mary Karr Day -- it's unofficial, but I have hopes.
Q: How do you know when you're in love?
A: The world goes from black and white to Technicolor.
Q: How do you fare on the Little League diamond? Is your talent in the outfield, on the mound, or at the plate?
A: I fare best on the bench with whistle and clipboard, teaching the lineup to do the wave.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I just finished The Liars' Club last night. Her writing style was, at times, difficult to follow. This book is not for the faint of heart. The events she portrays are at times horrific. I found it difficult at some points, not because I found the situations she writes about shocking, but because they brought up similar memories of my own childhood. At one point I even considered putting the book down because I was flooded with so much backwash from the past. I am glad that I persevered and finished, because the ending was truly worth it. It spoke of healing and things were revealed that shone a different light on her Mother. I will say the book may not be for everyone. As I have experienced, some folks simply do not want to look in the face of those kinds of evils, those dark realities of life, and honestly, if given a choice, those of us who have experienced such things wouldn't want to either. I admire her courage for revealing not only these kinds of things, but such a personal intimate side of herself for the entire world to read. I am not certain I have that same courage, not just to share those intimate stories of my past, but simply to summon and face again those skeletons and red eyed demons.
I read this years ago, and it remains on my top 5 favorite books I've ever read. Karr blended brutal, sometimes disturbingly graphic, truths with humor and deep insight. She didn't hold back! The gruesome integrity of this book was stunning. I can't say enough good things about it. Really.
I heard Mary Karr started the memoir revolution with this book, but until I read it, I had no idea a memoir could be so fun to read--so funny and sad at the same time. I couldn't put it down. I've bought 8 copies since I closed it, and I'm ready to open it again. Wow
I see that Mary Karr is a noted writer, but I found this memoir hard to follow. The memories and the coherence in the writing were disjointed and just not for me. I have read The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls so I found this memoir disappointing next to it. I highly recommend The Glass Castle - could not put that memoir down and was sad to finish reading it.
Mary Karr has a lyrical way of writing that is captivating. I loved the book and will plan on reading her latest, LIT.
I kept seeing this title as a recommeded read as I browsed through the internet site and read other's critiques. There is no doubt that this woman can write! Her story is told in a thoughtful manner, honest and intelligent. She doesn't want you to feel sorry for her life nor her circumstances. This book is outstanding and well worth the time it takes to read it! Even if you are not into biographies, read this one!
The Liars¿ Club is a memoir in which Mary Karr describes her difficult and challenging childhood. With an alcoholic mother who wavers in and out of sanity, and a father that would rather work overtime than to deal with his wife¿s outbursts, Mary and her sister, Lecia, are forced to quickly grow up. Mary and Lecia took care of their drunken mother on their own, and were put in near-death situations as a result of her drinking. As a child, Mary gets picked on because of the state her mother is in, and immediately develops an attitude in which she uses profanity and violence as a way to tell the world to leave her alone. Consequently, their family becomes the most feared and gossiped about family in their little town in Texas. Despite the circumstances that Lecia and Mary are put into, they stay with their mother through everything because they love her and don¿t want to see her die as a result of her bad habit. The major message in this book is that family is more important than anything else. The reasons behind the mother¿s actions will eventually be revealed to Mary and the reader, and they are all based on family ties. Even though Mary¿s mother put her in bad situations and didn¿t take care of her as a mother should, Mary still loved her. In a family, there is a tight bond where unconditional love is always present, but isn¿t shown until a family is put into a difficult situation. Karr¿s detailed account of her childhood is amazing. She remembers the smallest details so vividly, but still tells the story through her memory, which doesn¿t always hold all of the answers and outcomes of what happened. She makes the story feel as if it happened to you. The reader can feel her pain, anguish and embarrassment as she recalls horrifying experiences. Simultaneously, Karr¿s detailed accounts of her often boring life can lead the reader to also feel bored with the book. Not only are her most horrifying and challenging experiences included in the book, but she also includes all of the less captivating experiences in between. If you like memoirs, then this book is probably for you. It is hard to believe that Karr was put through so much as a child, and yet her family survived. After reading this book, it can make almost anyone grateful that they have a better life than she did, and make those with rough lives understand that anything can be overcome.
The author weaves a wonderful story but too much bad language for me.
Brave, frank, funny, heartbreaking, self-deprecating and very, very smart. This is a great memoir that should define the genre. Read everything by Mary Karr because she's the real thing.
Mary Karr gives us a disturbing glimpse into three separate years of her life when she was growing up in a disfuctional family.
I¿m not a big fan of memoirs, but this is one of those genre defying books that I¿m so glad I read. The Liar¿s Club is the true story of Mary Karr¿s childhood. From a small dusty town in Texas to a mountain home in Colorado, Karr and her sister grow up with their rough father and glamorous mother; both of whom are usually too focused on their own lives to bother with their children much of the time. Some of Karr¿s descriptions are so visceral. I felt like I could smell her grandmother¿s bad breath and feel the anxious fear she had when something bad happens. Karr has a way of crawling in under your skin and making you feel everything along with her. Though it was written after this one, I was reminded so much of The Glass Castle. It shares many of the same themes: bad parenting, having to make the best of what you have, etc. Like that book, this one never feels like the author is whining, though Karr went through more than enough to justify doing just that. Instead it feels as though she is telling a story, but that she¿s had to distance herself from the pain in some ways in order to survive. She is unflinchingly honest about what happened in her life. No matter what sort of light it shines on her family. There were so many parts that left me with my mouth hanging open. I led an incredibly sheltered childhood in comparison and never had to experience any of the horrors described by the author. Yet somehow the book doesn¿t just feel like a dinner with Debbie Downer. Instead it¿s a glimpse into a foreign land where a gun-wielding mother isn¿t too far from the ordinary.
I don't know what my problem with this book was. The characters were interesting, the story was good. It came to me very highly recommended. For some reason I had a hell of a time getting into it though. I'd find myself reading for what felt like an hour and realizing it'd only been 15 minutes. Not a good sign.
This book never bored me. If time allowed I would've read it in one reading.
I read Lit first just because I happened to find it first, and I'm glad I did. Lit was fantastic and made me want to read more and more and more. I do think The Liars' Club was good, but I don't think it would have left me compelled to seek out her other books if I had started with it.
This book was PRETTY good...but not the best. I think maybe my expectations were too high because I'd heard so much about it. I guess I had The Glass Castle in mind as a similar read but of the two I prefer the latter. They were similar stories but told in different attitudes maybe.
A memoir about her childhood growing up in Texas and then Colorado. She goes back to be with her father in TX after he suffers a stroke, when she is an adult.There is not really that much here that is especially interesting or extraordinary about her story. Her childhood was certainly not typical of the middle class family in the 60's. Her mother drank too much and had some psychiatric problems. But, what made the book so enjoyable for me was the quality of the writing. And, the attitude of the child and her sense of humor were perfect to enable her to survive intact.
Without a doubt this is a powerful memoir, and it has been said that it is, in fact, the mother of the recent spate of memoirs. Mary Karr can turn a phrase like no one's business, but I don't know if I received the full impact of her story because of the tell-all age in which we now live. I appreciated LIT more, and this may be a product of my current life stage.
Growing up in a hard-scrabble town in Texas, Mary Karr's family life was marred by alcoholism, violence, and mental illness. But oddly enough, you don't end up pitying her, and she doesn't pity herself either. A fierce love for her family comes through loud and clear. For me, the most vivid parts of the book was her mother's mental illness and ensuing insanity and manic depressive episodes. The author brings you right into the room with her as her mother goes on a rampage, and you end up feeling a child's confusion and love for a mother she can't understand. Both parents come off as monstrously selfish but, deep down, you know they love their kids. It is a tribute to Mary Karr and her siblings that they survived their childhood and even flourished.
I¿m a sucker for memoirs! Okay, let me rephrase, I¿m a sucker for top-quality memoirs. Ms. Karr¿s book contains elements of all my favorites, [The Glass Castle], [Running With Scissors] and [All Over But the Shoutin¿], but with her own dark edgy style. On the back cover, it describes the book as ¿wickedly funny¿ but for me, it was no laugh fest. This is a very tough, almost brutal look at Karr¿s unusual and twisted childhood. Her early years, being raised in East Texas and then a couple tumultuous years in Colorado.The Centennial State never looked so forbidding. There are also some horrific descriptions of child abuse but I need to point out, that this is not a completely bleak tale, there are wonderful moments with Karr¿s father, a hard-drinking but hard-working man, who reminded me of Rick Bragg¿s grandfather, Charlie and these precious snap-shots, add some well needed sunshine. Highly recommended!
Karr's writing pulls the reader through scene after film reel scene of her tumultuous childhood. Over the entire range of emotion in The Liar's Club, and it is a great range, her ability to tell a compelling story stands above all else. It's vivid imagery, skillfully crafted dialog, and nearly all encompassing illusion of intimacy make this book a must read for anyone interested in memoir.
Gripping memoir of a girlhood in East Texas and Colorado. Born to an alcoholic but functional father and a mother who bounces between full blown alcoholism and active psychosis, the author and her older sister largely raise themselves. When their parents finally divorce, the girls opt to live with the mother, figuring she'd get into too much trouble if left unsupervised. But she and her new sleazeball husband prove too big a challenge for the girls.The book is both captivating and terrifying. Imagine the voice of Scout Finch relating the To Kill a Mockingbird plotline with periodic appearances by Hannibal Lechter. That's The Liars' Club.This is the first of Mary Karr's three memoirs. I'm eagerly looking forward to the second and third.
¿When it was published in 1995, Mary Karr's The Liars' Club took the world by storm and raised the art of the memoir to an entirely new level, as well as bringing about a dramatic revival of the form.¿ So says Barnes and Noble in the first line of their summary of Karr¿s first memoir. But it was the publication of her recent memoir, Lit, that sparked my interest and made me go back and start at the beginning. Now, I can¿t wait to get my hands on Lit. Karr tells her story of growing up in the white hot desert town of Leechfield in southeastern Texas in the early 1960¿s with her sister Lecia and her parents. In many ways, it¿s typical of other memoirs I¿ve read, particularly Jeannette Walls¿ The Glass Castle, in that each author led a life like no one I ever heard of. Yet, this type of memoir is published frequently enough to make me think that this may be the norm, and I¿m the odd one with a childhood bereft of crackpot parents who didn¿t drown their sorrows in booze and leave me and my siblings to fend for ourselves on the mean city streets.Because of course Karr¿s parents, Charlie Marie and Pete, do just that. And Mary Karr, who considers herself first and foremost a poet, tells the story of trying to survive under these conditions. And she tells it with such humor, wit, and irreverence that she had me laughing out loud at the escapades without ever feeling real sorrow at her plight. She lived through one apocalyptic childhood and yet it is her love for her family that shines through it all. Right away on page 43 she wants you to understand just how bizarre her life is:¿The four of us tended to eat our family meals sitting cross-legged on the edges of that bed. We faced opposite walls, our backs together, looking like some four-headed totem, our plates balanced on the spot of quilt between our legs. Mother called it picnic style, but since I¿ve been grown, I recall it as just plain odd. I¿ve often longed to take out an ad in a major metropolitan paper and ask whether anybody else¿s family ate back-to-back in the parents¿ bed and what such a habit might signify.¿A good part of the story centers on the Liars¿ Club that Mary¿s dad is a part of: a bunch of Texas oil workers who regularly get together to drink beer and swap tales, trying to out-do each other in the whopper department. Of course, so many people in Mary¿s life lie to her that the Liar¿s Club is a metaphor for most of the characters in the book that have anything to do with her during her young years. Highly recommended.
Like many other memoirs, The Liars' Club is the story of a disorderly childhood in small town America. Mary Karr's father, a refinery worker, keeps food on the table but grows more and more distant as his little girls grow up. Her mother self-medicates bipolar disorder with jelly jars full of vodka. What makes this memoir stand out from the pack is Karr's unique narrative voice. Her prose is so steeped in the rhythms of East Texas that it's hard to hear the words in your head without a Southern twang. She is such a masterly re-creator of dialogue that each family member is a fully-formed character whom we come to know as well as Karr herself. For all these virtues, I didn't think The Liars' Club was as good as The Glass Castle, another memoir that tackles the same themes. Where The Glass Castle excels at show-don't-tell writing, Mary Karr draws back at times to analyze her experiences. She's not whiny by any stretch of the imagination, but it took away from the immediacy of the book for me. With few references to Karr's age or the passing of time, the book is also a little disorienting because it's hard to tell how much time has elapsed between the events of the story. Although I'd pick up The Glass Castle first, this is still a good read if you're looking for an interesting story free of self-pity.
The book is described as "between howling misery and howling laughter and the reader vears toward laughter"......Not for me Mostly just misery, pretty sad misery.