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Children need love. Parents need respect.
It is as simple and complex as that!
When frustrated with an unresponsive child, a parent doesn’t declare, “You don’t love me.” Instead the parent asserts, “You are being disrespectful right now.” A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts. When upset a child does not whine, “You don’t respect me.” Instead, a child pouts, “You don’t love me.” A child needs to feel loved, especially during disputes.
But here’s the rub: An unloved child (or teen) negatively reacts in a way that feels disrespectful to a parent. A disrespected parent negatively reacts in a way that feels unloving to the child. This dynamic gives birth to the FAMIL ¿Y CRAZY CYCLE.
So how is one to break out of this cycle? Best-selling author Emerson Eggerichs has studied the family dynamic for more than 30 years, having his Ph.D. in Child and Family Ecology. As a senior pastor for nearly two decades, Eggerichs builds on a foundation of strong biblical principles, walking the reader through an entirely new way to approach the family dynamic. For instance, God reveals ways to defuse the craziness with our children from preschooler to teen, plus how to motivate them to obey and how to deal with them when they don’t. In the Bible, God has spoken specifically to parents on how to parent. This book is about that revelation.
|Publisher:||Nelson, Thomas, Inc.|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 1.10(d)|
About the Author
Emerson Eggerichs, PhD, is an internationally known communication expert and author of the New York Times bestseller Love & Respect. Just as Dr. Eggerichs transformed millions of marital relationships with a biblical understanding of love and respect, he also turned these principles to one of the most important relationships of all in Mother & Son: The Respect Effect. As a communication expert, Emerson has also spoken to groups such as the NFL, NBA, PGA, US Navy SEALs and members of Congress. He was the senior pastor of Trinity Church in East Lansing, Michigan for almost twenty years. Emerson holds a PhD in child and family ecology from Michigan State University, a BA in Biblical Studies from Wheaton College, an MA in communications from Wheaton College Graduate School, and an MDiv from the University of Dubuque Theological Seminary. He and his wife Sarah have been married since 1973 and have three adult children.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I have been reading so many good books lately. I found one that I would tag as "the best parenting book" yet. I was offered the opportunity to read Love and Respect in the Family by Dr Emerson Eggerichs and jumped at the chance. I had read Love and Respect over the summer and loved the way that he covered all of the bases of marriage in that book. I was really hoping that he would do the area of parenting the same justice. I was excited to read the entries in the book from his children. I believe that really helped make the book a good go-to source. If his kids turned out as well as they did and can openly share their feelings about being raised, then this is a couple I want to learn from. "She was at Wit's End Corner and had to say something to send a message." How many of you mom's can relate to that sentence? I felt right at home there with all three of my girls. Dr Eggerichs did an amazing job teaching how to send that message with love in all situations we find ourselves. He also did an amazing job teaching us how to teach our children that they need to respect their parents. I cheered through the chapter on Teamwork. "We distinguished unity (a united and harmonious front) from unanimity (having to absolutely agree all the time on all aspects)." That made me feel better about some occurrences in my household. It's like submitting for the moment and if it still get's your hair up, you can talk about it when the kids aren't around (so you can keep the united front). "As our children grew, they did what children do - acted imperfectly." I remember that it took me a while as a parent to realize this one for the truth of it and I think there are many parents out there that still don't get it. Kids aren't perfect. None of are actually. They are a work in progress. All of us are actually. We have been blessed with the job of teaching our children how to act a little less imperfectly. Kids need to be kids and do what kids do. There is always a "with-in reason" but I think we try to make them act like small grown-ups way too often today. Dr Eggerichs covered so much in this book. He talked about how to work through some of the challenges of being a parent. He quoted the Bible in every teaching instance. He quoted Proverbs so much that I realized that I need to really dig into that book because there's more there than I had originally read. He discussed how to be better to each other as parents in order to be better parents. I really enjoyed the whole gambit of topics that he covered in the book. There were also seven topics that were expanded upon in appendixes on the website. I found this to be a bit of an inconvenience. The information was good enough to be included and I can understand why he would choose to leave them out. The book is the perfect size for the average person looking for a better way of life in their family. Dr Eggerichs uses the word GUIDES to help his readers remember how to be better parents. My favorite example he used is a prayer: "Lord may we... Give with a spirit of generosity Understand with empathy Instruct with wisdom Discipline with fairness Encourage with discernment and Supplicate with faith." It's a hard list to remember at "Wit's End Corner" but it will definitely be worth it. I would suggest this book to anyone who is expecting a child, all the way up through teenager. You can always work on your relationship with your children (grandchildren too). I really did love reading this book and cannot wait to hear your feelings about this book as well.