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A Realistic Guide to the Marriage You’ve Always Dreamed Of
Is your relationship with your spouse far from the union you’d hoped it would be? John and Stasi Eldredge know about the realities of marriage—and they know why it’s so important to take hold of the dreams you once had and see God fulfill them.
In this eight-week devotional, John and Stasi will guide you and your spouse to see God’s heart for your marriage more clearly. This life-changing guide includes new insights, encouraging Scriptures, and practical exercises that will help you develop a personal plan for a vibrant marriage.
As John and Stasi write, “We learn to love moment by moment. Day by day. Week by week. Our marriages grow and become what God intended and what we ultimately long for in the same way. We are, all of us, learning to love.”
|Publisher:||The Crown Publishing Group|
|Product dimensions:||5.20(w) x 7.30(h) x 0.60(d)|
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Our lives are lived moment by moment, in increments we can actually handle. Our marriages are lived the same way. Not anniversary to anniversary or even month to month, but daily—in the ordinary ins and outs of time. The choices we make in the moments create the lives we enjoy—or don’t. Thus, a love and war devotional. This devotional is a tool for you, for your marriage. We invite you to walk alongside us for eight weeks—five days a week—and dive deeper into the tangible realities of your marriage. We’ll focus on Scripture and the heart of God and the heart that he placed in you and the heart he has placed in your spouse.
The journey of our lives is a journey of transformation. We are here to learn how to love. How do we learn? Moment by moment. Day by day. Week by week. Our marriages grow and become what God intended and what we ultimately long for in the same way. We are all of us learning to love.
Let’s learn together.
DAY 1: Romance Meets Reality
We love because he first loved us.
—1 JOHN 4:19
We probably ought to just start here: marriage is fabulously hard.
Maybe that’s an odd way to begin, but it is true, and everybody who’s been married knows this, though years into marriage it still catches us off guard, all of us. And newly married couples, when they discover how hard it is, seem genuinely surprised. Shocked and disheartened by the fact. Are we doing something wrong? Did I marry the right person? The wonders that lure us into marriage—romance, love, passion, sex, longing, companionship—sometimes seem so far from the actual reality of married life that we wind up fearing we’ve made a colossal mistake, caught the wrong bus, missed our flight. And so the hardness of marriage can also come as something of an embarrassment.
Or maybe it’s just us. Don’t you feel embarrassed to admit how hard your marriage is?
Yep. This is everyone. We might as well come out and admit it.
The sooner we get that shame off our backs, the sooner we’ll find our way through. Of course marriage is hard. In fact, if you look back at the first marriage, that fairy-tale start in Genesis, you see that Adam and Eve had a pretty rough go at it. And they didn’t even have parents to screw them up as children or friends giving them ridiculous advice. The fall of man seems to come during the honeymoon or shortly thereafter. (And how many honeymoon stories seem to reenact that little drama?) They hit rough water as soon as they set sail. This is the story of the first marriage, and it’s a bit sobering.
But it also gives us some encouragement. It’s normal for marriage to be hard. Even the best of marriages.
And God is in that.
In order to have the life we want, the life we are made for, and the marriage we long for, we need God. That’s a very good thing! Because without him, nothing is as it should be. With him, all things are possible. Yes, marriage can be extremely hard. But that is not a reason to despair. Nor is it the final truth. There are seasons in marriage—in every relationship. Marriage is meant to be wonderful, and most of the time it is. Though it’s sometimes so hard, think of the difficulty as a doorway. A doorway to all the more Jesus has for us in himself ! There is hope!
Dear God, as I begin this study, I offer up this time for your purposes. Please help me draw closer to your heart and deepen my marriage in every good way. Sometimes it is very hard. Even painful. I invite you into that as well. Have your way with me, with my spouse, and with our marriage. We need you. I am looking to you. In Jesus’ mighty name, amen.
Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us. (Romans 5:3–5)
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
in this day & age, marriage is definitely a battleground.even in the church. you would think that christians would not even dream of divorce or straying from their spouse, but that is not the case. apparently there is a dispute over the percentage of regular church goers who have ended up divorced (60% or 38%). regardless what the percentage is.the point is that it is happening. satan is having his way in our marriages. homes are being broken. husbands & wives are not being faithful to their spouse. the world view of "i deserve to be happy" is seeping in & taking over. if satan can have our marriage, he can take what God intended to be a picture of His relationship with the church & taint it into something very ugly. Love & War discusses how marriage is hard -- "fabulously hard" (3)-- & how it costs everything... "but so does every great, priceless, beautiful treasure that is worth having" (133). day 3 of week 5 puts it perfectly when it says, "you have an enemy, & it is not your spouse. the sooner you come to terms with the fact, the better. we live in a love story, set in a great & terrible war. if we will confront our battles for what they really are, against our true enemy, we can find our way back to the love story. it may take time & repeated bouts. of course the war itself on earth will not cease until the White Rider returns. meanwhile, our hearts are created for heroic love, & we will never feel more alive than when are are loving heroically" (76). all in all, it was a good book. full of nuggets of truth that we can all use in our marriage. truths that we may already know, but are certainly helpful to be reminded of. yes, marriage is a battleground, but the rewards of a Christ-centered marriage is what compels us. "when we abandon ourselves to love, we find ourselves closer to the one who is always doing that Himself. we find God" (132). i recommend this book to any married couple. for the couples who are discouraged, for the couples who are blissfully happy---we all need to be reminded of these truths.
This is another great book from John Eldredge. The book has short chapters that take only 3-5 minutes to read. It's easy to do as a couple over breakfast or before bed. It can be read separately or together. Love and War Devotional for Couples is inspiring and has some awesome insights about why we marry, why marriage can be difficult and how to keep focused on our desires as a loving couple. This is a great gift book for a newly married couple - or for a couple who is struggling. I can be read as a devotional or merely as a quick read. I highly recommend!
This is a well thought out and developed book. It has great examples and biblical principles on building and strengthening a marraige. Great format and it also allows you to created fun and new ways to to communicate with your spouse. This is a must read even if you thing your marriage is great it can always be better.
I really enjoyed the way the authors of this book uses Biblical truths about how God wants us to be loved and to love others. I really enjoyed this book and want to go back and go through this book with my wife for I know it will help our marriage. I highly suggest this book to couples who want to strengthen their marriage. I give this devotional a 5 star rating.
Fairytale romances are what many of us dream of. It's what we are taught from a very young age to expect, dream and hope for. So why is it then, so many of us are finding out that the "happily ever after" just isn't as easy as we thought it would be? Where did our happily ever after go? So many of us are hoping to someday have the marriage of our dreams but we just don't know how to get there. We were not taught how to handle the reality of life crashing in on our fairytale dreams! Love and War: Devotional for Couples is an 8 week couples devotional based on John and Stasi Eldredge's Love and War book released earlier this year. This is a faith based, sound and realistic devotional for couples to use together to build and maintain a marriage that is all they wish for. The authors clearly state that maintaining a marriage is HARD work but through that work, through prayer and God's help, the marriage that you dream of can be re-discovered. This book works well as a stand alone devotional but in my opinion it works best in conjunction with the Love and War book released earlier this year. I feel that everyone can benefit from this devotional no matter what state your marriage is in. I highly recommend this book! Many thanks to Waterbrook Multnomah for providing me with the opportunity to review this book.
Marriage can be tough! When you first embark on this new journey, you may think that everything will be rosy and magical, like it feels on your wedding day. Then reality hits! First of all, I must say that this little book is packed with extremely good, meaty nuggets of encouragement that are very candid and real! The authors don't hold back and it's nice to see their honesty about their own lifelong journey. Each day we read our daily devotion, we end up having great conversation with one another that leads to a better understanding of our spouse. The book is broken down into 8 weeks. You read a devotion each day for 5 days. We've been doing this together, both alternating paragraphs. You get your weekends off. So if you miss a day or two, it's easy to get back on track. I would recommend Love & War to anyone who is married and has been having a hard time, and even if your not. Whether you've been married 5 years or 25 years, this book has something for you.
I was looking for a couples devotional for me and my husband... and this is wonderful!!! It is a 8 week long devotional, 5 days a week. They are short and to the point. The topics range from expectations, to intimacy. Each day has scripture, prayer, and a short message from the authors. The devotionals are very easy to ready but with a very strong message. I would recommend all couples to read this together. Whether you are newly weds, and married for 20 years, all couples can gain something from taking 5 minutes a day to do this devotional. Note: "I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review".
Based on themes and ideas presented in their book Love and War, John and Stasi Eldredge developed this 8-week devotional study as a way to help couples thoroughly understand and completely transform their ideas about marriage. What the world sees as "just a piece of paper," God has meant to be an example and application of his great love for us. This devotional provides couples "new insights, encouraging scriptures and practical exercises" as tools for developing a better marriage. Though I have not read the book that this devotional accompanies, I was enlightened about some things I'd never given much thought to. I'd never realized the spiritual war that rages about marriage and how hard Satan works at destroying it; never realized that our marriages are supposed to be an example of God's love to the world. Reading this devotional has given me a new passion about my marriage; I want others to see God's love in my own marriage. I want to live up to the responsibility that God has placed on the marriage relationship. I would recommend this book to all married couples regardless of the state of their marriage. I am so intrigued and inspired by what I've read that I'm definitely going to be picking up a copy of Love and War so that I can learn even more. Disclaimer: WaterBrook/Multnomah Publishers provided me with this book free of charge for review.