Laugh-out-loud, no-nonsense relationship advice from Loni Love—comedian and co-host of The Real on Fox and BET—reminding women that putting yourself first is the path toward lasting love.
A regular panelist on E!’s top-rated Chelsea Lately and a staple on Dr. Drew’s Loveline, audiences first fell in love with Loni for her relatable brand of social commentary and unique take on love, sex, and dating. Now as co-host of the new daytime talk show The Real, Loni doles out romantic advice to an audience of millions every day. Love Him or Leave Him, But Don’t Get Stuck with the Tab offers down-to-earth wisdom and guidance for single girls, girlfriends, wives, baby mamas, and the chick on the side (because she needs advice, too).
In a fun Q&A format complete with hilarious been there-done that tales, Loni delivers answers to women’s most pressing relationship questions—about love, sex, fidelity, finances, in-laws, and everything in between. In the end, she says, you may stick with him, you may bail out, but don’t ever be left “stuck with the tab,” or letting yourself be taken advantage of. Her message is consistent throughout: If women make themselves the priority, everything else will fall into place. “It’s something I think women need to hear over and over again,” she says. “Like multiple orgasms.”
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About the Author
Loni Love is a co-host of Fox and BET’s new daytime talk show The Real, a regular panelist on Chelsea Lately, Tru TV Presents World’s Dumbest, and co-host of the nationally syndicated radio show, Cafemocha. She is one of the few top nationally touring female standup comedians and has performed on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, Comedy Central, and other shows. She lives in Los Angeles and is happily single with no cats.
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Love Him Or Leave Him, But Don’t Get Stuck With the Tab
One of the things I love about the single life is that you get to go on a lot of first dates. I know many women dread going out with a new guy for the first time. The nerves, the awkward conversation, the not knowing if you should order the lobster because he might be a cheap-ass and expect you to go Dutch. It’s true some first dates can be awful. Like those times you go to a fancy restaurant and your date spends more time asking the cocktail waitress about her inner-thigh tattoo than talking to you. Or you tell him you admire the relationship he has with his mother and he says, “Great, because I’ve invited her to join us.” But instead of facing first dates with dread, consider each and every one a great opportunity to gather information while getting a free meal. On a first date a man will tell you almost everything you need to know about what kind of person he is. You just need to stay sober enough to remember the next day.
The next time you’re on a first date, look around the room. If you’re in a restaurant and notice that every woman there—from the coat-check girl to the manager—is giving your date dirty looks, then consider yourself warned. He probably owes them money, a phone call, or both.
When I want to know what kind of man I’m dealing with, I look at his shoes. If he’s wearing some nice hard-soled shoes, I know he’s solid, dependable, and is probably the type of man to carry a condom in his wallet. If he’s wearing sneakers, that’s okay, as long as they’re clean and have laces. I don’t trust a man who wears shoes that close with Velcro. That’s just lazy. Now, if he shows up for dinner wearing flip-flops, you better run for the hills. A man who wears flip-flops to dinner doesn’t take anything seriously. He’s the kind of man who will make fart jokes when you’re trying to tell him about your horrible day at work or laugh at you if you trip and fall on your ass before he checks to see if you’re okay. Trust me, even if you have a cushiony ass like mine, falling on your behind hurts. The last thing you need is your man laughing at you like he’s a five-year-old at the circus. You want a man who treats you like a prize, not a clown.
The other great thing about first dates is they give you a chance to refine your First Date Look—that’s the outfit and hairstyle that makes you feel most comfortable, beautiful, and confident. Even if you think your date might be a dud, it’s still a great opportunity to try out a new look, get a new weave, or buy yourself a dress that exposes, er . . . I mean shows off your best assets. For example, you might not know this about me, but I have exquisite knees, so whenever I’m on a date I always wear a skirt that shows them off. When I was growing up, Momma Love always used to tell me, “Don’t hide your light under a bushel.” Well, the same can be said about dating: don’t hide your best features under a tent dress. Got good cans? Show the girls! Well-toned arms? Wear a tube top! You’re going on a date, not to Bible study.
Most important of all, on a first date, pay attention to the way the man treats you. Does he give you his undivided attention, or does he check his cell phone every ten minutes? Does he order his meal before you or patiently wait until you’ve asked the waiter to list all the ingredients of every dish? Does he seem interested in what you have to say, or does he constantly change the topic to sex and when he’s going to get some? Even the way he walks down the street with you says a lot. A man who walks side by side with a woman sees her as his equal. A man who walks ahead expects to run the show. And a man who lags behind? Why, that’s an ass man! But if you’re built like Sofía Vergara, then congratulations, girl! You may just have met your Mr. Right.
Table of Contents
1 Meeting Up 7
2 Hooking Up 33
3 Moving In 63
4 Breaking Up 86
5 Making Up 108
6 Cheating 134
7 Friends and Family 163
8 Getting Hitched 188
9 Messy Messy Messes 214
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Simon & Schuster was kind enough to provide, through NetGalley, a copy of this eGalley for the purposes of reading and reviewing it. Although it was provided at no cost to me, I am under no obligation to give a positive review. A relationship and sex advice book for women? Somehow, I might not be the target audience for this book. :) But at the same time, it is always nice to see what advice is being given to the fairer sex. That said, this book was hilarious. Admittedly, I knew who Loni Love was, but wasn’t really familiar with her career or stand-up routine until reading this book. She’s definitely someone I find very amusing. The premise of this book is simple: ladies, don’t let yourself be taken advantage of. But what I also like is that Love doesn’t make it appear that a woman should be the center of a relationship, just an equal partner. At one point, she doles out the following advice: “If you want your man, respect your man”. Exactly. And she makes it abundantly clear it’s a two-way street. But the real catch of this book is the manner Love dishes out her advice. The format is much like an advice column, where Love poses a question from a woman and then replies in her own inimitable style. This is done in a very laid back, comical manner that is straight to the point. She also provides many real-world examples, many of which I presume are fabricated, to make her point. So if you want some great, no-nonsense advice about life and relationships, this is definitely your book. It’s a rocking, rolling, hilarious, and quick read from one end to the other. Rating: 5 stars (out of 5)
This book is great... all the advice she gives women is so humorous. you will laugh while reading this book its very entertaining and what I really love about her is that she reminds women single or in a relationship to always love yourself first. this book can relate to every race and you will be surprised about the questions people ask her. she tells the truth and not what women want to hear but what they need to understand. this books covers alot not just relationships, marriage, and sex but it also covers living a messy lifestyle(which is not good), dating, friends and family OH even cheating. this book is phenomenal!