Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity

by Mark Chamberlain PhD, Geoff Steurer MS, LMFT, Deseret Book Company

Overview

How does pornography harm a marriage?

“It may be cybersex, but it can feel like real infidelity to your partner,” says authors Mark Chamberlain and Geoff Steurer. “There's nothing virtual about the damage pornography does to a relationship.”

The good news is that the marriage itself can be a couple's most powerful tool in healing in a pornography habit. This helpful, informative, and insightful book will help couples learn how to harness that strength to make their marriages more fulfilling than they ever imagined possible.

Love You, Hate the Porn helps couples draw together when pornography is threatening to tear them apart.

• Shows couples how to identify and address vulnerabilities in their relationship.
• Offers healing advice for spouses.
• Provides help for the struggling partner to avoid relapse.
• Focuses on how to make the marriage relationship strong than it was before.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781609088217
Publisher:	Shadow Mountain Publishing
Publication date:	03/22/2011
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	208
File size:	2 MB
Age Range:	18 Years

About the Author

Mark Chamberlain, PhD, is a psychologist and clinical director of ARCH, a counseling center in South Jordan and Clearfield, Utah, which provides intense treatment for individuals and couples healing from pornography and other sexual addictions. He has presented on this topic in cities throughout the United States. He and his wife, Jenny, are the parents of seven children.

Geoff Steuer, MS, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in St. George, Utah. He is the founder and executive director of LifeSTAR of St. George, a three-phase recovery program for couples and individuals affected by pornography addiction and other sexually compulsive behaviors. Geoff regularly presents at local and national conferences on topics related to marriage and pornography addiction recovery. He is married to Jody Young Steurer and they are the parents of four children.

Read an Excerpt

Pornography can afflict a couple’s relationship the way a malignant cancer ravages a body. The most devastating thing pornography does is come between a man and woman at the worst times and in the worst way. Right at those moments when a person is struggling and in need emotionally, pornography offers an alternative—a relationship counterfeit. Pornography becomes something that person can go to for soothing and an illusory sense of connection and vitality. And that, perhaps, is pornography’s real virulence, its ultimate price: When he’s going to it, he’s not going to her.

Table of Contents

Introduction

1. A Cancer That Can Ravage Relationships
2. We're Both Working, but It's Not Working
3. Getting to Tenderness
4. She Needs You Now More Than Ever
5. The Feelings That Fuel Addiction
6. Turning to Her Instead
7. Porn Is No Match for Real Connection

Acknowledgments
Sources
Index