An unlikely pair of voices-the world's most recognizable beauty icon and "America's rabbi"-comes together to diagnose how meaningful, passionate sex is on the decline in Western culture, and what is necessary to save it.
Sex is dying in America. Inundated with sex and starved for it, obsessed with it yet clueless about it, we are slowly forgetting how to make love. The crisis of modern sexuality is seen in high divorce rates, in the degradation of sexuality through pornography, and tasteless displays of empty, counterfeit erotica. Most of all, it's seen in sexless marriages and platonic relationships where cybersex has become more addictive than the real thing. Sex has become so trivialized, coarsened, and vulgarized that couples no longer feel its pull. The once powerful and irresistible magnetism of sex is being diluted and drained.
The authors propose replacing the 1960s' sexual revolution with a new sensual revolution, a rediscovery of intimacy that encourages and ennobles human relationships, elevates healthy lust, and gets us from looking up from the glowing screens of our smartphones to the people around us, most especially the people we love the most.
LUST FOR LOVE embraces the idea that what our most important relationships need most is lust. It is necessary to rediscover what's sexy again, how to bring back romance, and to understand that in addition to love, we need lust to repair our unfulfilling sex lives and broken relationships. LUST FOR LOVE proposes a return to what lovemaking was always meant to be: a desire to know and experience another person in the deepest possible way.
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About the Author
PAMELA ANDERSON is an activist, author, mother, actress, and model. A sexual icon since her youth, she is a frequent critic of contemporary cultural attitudes toward sex. A devoted vegan, Anderson has spent her life campaigning and advocating for human and animal rights and for environmental justice. She lives in Los Angeles, California.
RABBI SHMULEY BOTEACH, whom The Washington Post and Newsweek call "the most famous Rabbi in America," stands among the world's most recognizable and passionate voices on values, spirituality, and relationships. He is the international bestselling author of over thirty books, including Kosher Sex. The Winner of the London Times Preacher of the Year Competition, the National Fatherhood Award, and with thirty years' experience in relationships counseling, "America's Rabbi" lives in the New York metropolitan area with his wife and nine children.
Table of Contents
Preface Pamela Anderson xv
Preface Rabbi Shmuley Boteach xxi
Part 1 Have We Forgotten How to Make Love?
Chapter 1 The Art of Intimacy 3
Chapter 2 Our Deep Need 10
Chapter 3 A Sexual Famine 18
Chapter 4 Failure of the Sexual Revolution 25
Chapter 5 Is Porn for Losers? 38
Chapter 6 Loosening Sexual Tension 48
Part 2 What Happened to Erotic Love?
Chapter 7 Too Much of a Good Thing 59
Chapter 8 Becoming Sexual Experts 72
Chapter 9 Goal-Oriented Sex 79
Chapter 10 Eating Ourselves to Death 85
Part 3 The Feminine Erotic Mind
Chapter 11 Captured by Desire 93
Chapter 12 Erotic Fantasy 108
Chapter 13 Passionate Connectedness 113
Chapter 14 Give a Woman What She Wants 120
Part 4 The Masculine Erotic Mind
Chapter 15 Needing To Be Needed 129
Chapter 16 Masculine Duality 138
Chapter 17 Loss of Feminine Love 148
Chapter 18 Cheating: It's Not All About Sex 157
Part 5 Pillars of Eroticism
Chapter 19 Unavailability 171
Chapter 20 Mystery 186
Chapter 21 Forbiddenness 195
Chapter 22 Vertical Discovery 207
Part 6 Putting Passion into Practice
Learning to Make Love 223
Building Connection 227
Being Jealous 230
Channeling Your Femininity 232
Channeling Your Masculinity 236
Parents Are Still Lovers 240
Practicing Passionate Connectedness 244
About the Authors 273