Oh My Dog: How to Choose, Train, Groom, Nurture, Feed, and Care for Your New Best Friend

Oh My Dog: How to Choose, Train, Groom, Nurture, Feed, and Care for Your New Best Friend

by Beth Ostrosky Stern, Kristina Grish


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ISBN-13: 9781439160299
Publisher: Gallery Books
Publication date: 05/04/2010
Edition description: Original
Pages: 503
Sales rank: 689,662
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.20(d)

About the Author

Beth Ostrosky Stern is a spokesperson for the North Shore Animal League of America, the world’s largest no-kill animal rescue and adoption organization. She is also involved with The Wildlife Rescue in The Hamptons and English Bulldog Rescue on Long Island. Ostrosky Stern has graced the pages of many magazines and was named one of FHM's "Top 100 Sexiest Women of the Year" in 2002, 2003, 2004 and 2007. She also appears regularly on network morning and daytime talk shows and has been a guest co-host on The View. Beth is also known for her work as a television personality for Spike TV and G4 and as a special correspondent for EXTRA.

Kristina Grish is the author of three books, including Simon Spotlight Entertainment's Boy Vey! The Shiksa's Guide to Dating Jewish Men. She's currently a contributing editor to Marie Claire and has written for Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, Teen Vogue, Outside, and Vibe, among others. She lives in New York City. Visit Kristina at www.kristinagrish.com.

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Oh My Dog

By Beth Ostrosky Stern


Copyright © 2010 Beth Ostrovsky Stern
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-4391-6029-9

Chapter One

1 So You Want a Dog?

I'm really excited for you! According to the Humane Society of the United States, there are 74.8 million dogs owned in the U.S.-and you may be about to boost that number. Dogs can be affectionate, loyal, spunky, and respectful companions. Some make great exercise buddies, while others offer an endless source of affection. Come to think of it, dogs can be any jumble of qualities based on their background and breed, so the trick to finding one that's right for you is being able to combine research with instinct and a whole lot of love. When deciding on what kind of dog is best for your home, you'll need to think hard about what makes you tick and the canine qualities that are the right fit for your lifestyle. And remember: This is a commitment that you'll be making for approximately fifteen years. Then again, the oldest dog on record lived to be twenty-nine, so you may want to plan for a bit longer ...

Before you even get a dog, it's important to know exactly what you want from the pet and what you hope to get from your relationship with him. So in this chapter, I'll help you figure out your best canine match by suggesting specific ways to emotionally and mentally prepare for the new relationship. I'll take you through questions like: What are the benefits of full-grown dogs versus puppies? How active would you like your dog to be? Is anyone in your home allergic to dogs, and if so, what breeds lend themselves to hypoallergenic traits? I'll also go into the best and worst places for you to get a dog. Never forget that owning a pet requires an open mind and a welcoming heart. So let's get to it. You have some reading to do!

Where Do Dogs Come From?

According to Mary Burch, PhD, CAAB, an animal behaviorist with the American Kennel Club (AKC), the dogs that we know and love today are called Canis lupus familiaris to the researchers who study them. In fact, "lupus" is the word that indicates that dogs are connected to the ancestral wolf (though some dogs, like Shih Tzus, look more like descendents of the Muppet). Science tells us that dogs evolved from a group of domesticated wolves in East Asia about fifteen thousand years ago, with earlier ancestors documented as far back as forty thousand years. Through selective breeding for specific characteristics, modern dogs have evolved over the last five hundred years.

It took a long time to create the 160-plus breeds that the AKC recognizes today. If an owner had a large brown-and-white dog and wanted a smaller version, he'd breed the smallest female in that litter to the smallest male he could find. He would continue breeding smaller and smaller dogs until he actually created a mini-version of the dog he started with generations earlier. So, from the 180-pound Mastiff to the 2-pound Chihuahua, all breeds came from a common ancestor-including mixed breeds, an even more colorful variation on the domesticated-dog theme. How interesting is that?

Studies Show How Dogs Can Improve Your Life

When people talk about why they want a dog, they usually cite emotional benefits: company, love, a way to add a little fun to their current lifestyle. Dogs are thrilled to see you after a long day, they always want to hang out with you, and their positive spirit rarely fails to make you smile. But studies tell us that dogs add so much more to your life than games of fetch and slobbery kisses. In fact, dogs can benefit your physical and psychological health, in some cases even more so than human relationships. I've combed through a bunch of dog studies and found a few interesting perks that you can look forward to:


Dog owners have lower blood pressure, a slower heartbeat, and more relaxed muscles. It can take days or weeks before you benefit from meds, yet with only five to twenty-four minutes of petting or simply being in the moment with their pet, owners can relieve stress.

Dog owners live longer, since they deal with anxiety better and fight depression easier.

Dog owners have lower cholesterol and triglycerides and are at less risk of developing heart disease and other cardiovascular problems. These positive effects continue even when you're away from your dog.

Heart attack victims have a higher survival rate when they spend time with a dog. They may feel a need to recover quickly so they can care for the pet, who then buffers them from future stress.

Dog owners walk about 300 minutes per week compared with nondog owners, who exercise an average of 168 minutes per week. Dog walking lowers stress more than walking alone.


Dogs help slash the risk of many terminal illnesses, plus slow down the disease's progression.

Dogs can sniff out disease long before a high-tech machine or blood test, thanks to the body's chemical cues. A dog's sense of smell is up to a hundred thousand times times more sensitive than a human's.

Dogs can also detect certain health issues in humans and alert their owners to the illness's onset through various behavioral cues. These conditions include changes in blood sugar and blood pressure, melanoma, migraine headaches, and heart attacks.

Household dogs can be trained to detect early breast and lung cancer between 88 percent and 97 percent of the time by sniffing a human's breath. Dogs can also smell ketones on the breath and in the urine of diabetics when blood sugar is high; they detect this smell when glucose levels drop.

Seniors who own dogs make fewer visits to the doctor and are more physically active. Pet owners over age sixty-five make almost a third fewer visits to their general practitioner than those who don't have pets.

Elderly dog owners are four times less likely to suffer from depression than those without dogs.


Playing with a dog and holding his gaze can cause a hormone surge of oxytocin that makes you and the dog happier; it also reduces anxiety. The hormone is linked to friendship, infant care, bonding, and romantic love in humans; plus, it quiets stress, fights depression, and breeds trust. People who hold their dog's gaze for longer than two and a half minutes consider their relationship to be more satisfying than short-term gazers.

Dogs, like humans, often look left toward the right side of human faces, since it exhibits emotions more accurately and intensely than the left. This behavior is called left-gaze bias, because the left side of the brain controls these displays of emotion. Some think dogs adapted this behavior during hundreds of years of domestication, in an effort to make sense of their owners' emotions. When we look into the eyes of a dog that trusts us, we feel less lonely because we see a creature that's trying equally hard to connect right back.

Some dog owners can fondly discriminate between their pet's smell and that of a dog that isn't theirs. When blindfolded, study participants correctly identified the blanket on which their dog slept for three consecutive nights, when compared to stranger dogs of a similar sex, age, and breed. (Bianca's blanket would smell like fresh biscuits. I'd know her scent anywhere!)

Nursing home residents feel less lonely after visiting with a dog alone, versus with other people.


Studies show that kids who care for pets are more nurturing, empathetic, and socially competent; at school, they're more popular with peers.

Children who live with dogs are less likely to develop animal-related allergies later in life and less likely to develop eczema, asthma, and allergies to dust and pollen. Five- to seven-year-old dog owners also have fewer sick days at school, since pets may help boost a child's immune system.

Five- and six-year-olds are 50 percent less likely to be overweight or obese if they own a dog, compared to those of the same age who don't own one.


Ask Dr. Z!

What does it mean when my dog ...

Q: Cocks his head when I talk to him?

A: Dogs receive slightly different signals from each ear due to the separation between them. Cocking their heads may enable them to get the best "stereo" sound from all angles, so they can better understand what it is you're trying to tell or ask them.

Stephen L. Zawistowski, Ph.D., CAAB, is a certified animal behaviorist and an executive vice president and science adviser for the ASPCA. Lucky for us, he also offered to answer every quirky dog behavior question I could think to throw at him. You'll find these questions, and his answers, in the "Ask Dr. Z!" boxes that are sprinkled throughout this book. Dr. Z's assessments are based on his expertise and experience. Remember that every dog is different, but I was thrilled to see how many of the explanations applied to Bianca and her friends.

How to Emotionally Prepare for a Dog

Of course, it's important to choose a dog based on your practical lifestyle: where you live, how active you are, if there are children in your home, and so on. And we'll devote time to these scenarios later in the chapter. But what most people don't do, and should do, is take a really good look at their emotional expectations to help inform their dog decision, too. A dog takes up space in your life and in your heart. You don't want to feel disappointed when the dog you've chosen for its convenient size and polished looks also acts aloof or stubborn.

To that end, I asked Irene Deitch, Ph.D., a psychologist who works with pet owners, to outline what you should know about yourself before sharing your life with a dog:

Recognize your own emotional needs. Are you a bleeding heart? Looking for a patient and attentive confidant? Personally, I appreciate a little empathy in a dog. Last year I fell down the stairs while wearing a new pair of heels, and Bianca ran over and began to aggressively lick my left foot. Sure enough, that was the foot that was broken.

Anticipate the dog's role in your life. Would you prefer unconditional love or an exercise partner? Are you controlling or relaxed? If you've just left your parents' home, are an empty nester, or don't plan to have children, you may want to choose a dog that satisfies a need to nurture. If you'd like a status symbol to show off at parties or carry in your bag, an exotic breed may be the way to go.

Be ready to share your expectations with a breeder or rescue facility. Acknowledge and welcome another person's role in helping you find a dog that's right for you. When the time comes, you'll need to openly volunteer your needs and wants, but realize that experts can help you choose a dog that suits your lifestyle and personality.

Trust your instincts. In most relationships, we spend time with people before we decide what roles they'll play in our lives. But with dogs, most of us don't have this opportunity (unless you foster first), so let self-recognition fuel your research and decision. Being able to follow your own intuition is also really important when forging a rapport between you and your dog, so consider this prep work for bonding efforts down the road.


Why Do People Look Like Their Dogs?

How often do you see people who look or act like their dogs? I don't think many people would say Bianca resembles either Howard or me ... but then again, Howard does snore loudly, like Bianca, and some days I feel really chubby. No surprise, then, that Dr. Deitch says a lot of people subconsciously cozy up to animals that share related traits. She says the reason for this is no different than it is for couples who look alike or friends who share mannerisms. Like attracts like, and this creates an immediate and automatic comfort zone, even if we don't realize it at the time.

Solving Seven Dog Debacles Before They Occur

If you have any fears about what to expect as a dog owner, Dr. Deitch says it helps to feel that the problems you anticipate are realistic but manageable. I pulled a survey from PetPlace.com that asked users: "What's the worst thing about owning a dog?" Below are my top seven answers to those problems, using some help from Dr. Deitch. Use this list to resolve common issues before they happen to you. You'll have seven fewer worries to keep you up at night.

7. Pet Odors: "Dog smell" is a hindrance only to the very sensitive. Even then your nose will adjust, much like it does when you work in a place with a distinct smell, or get used to a roommate's perfume after you've moved in together. Remember the study about owners who recognize their dog's scent? They identify it fondly. But when your dog's isn't so positive, Dr. Deitch says practical sprays and DIY remedies are a simple solution. For accidents, I've personally had amazing success with Nature's Miracle pet stain and odor remover, which works quickly, and is easy to use. As with any odor, the secret is to remove the smell's source and not cover it up with a Glade PlugIn.

6. Aggression: This is a complex issue that's best resolved by a professional called in to specifically modify your dog's temperament (see "When to Hire a Trainer Versus a Behaviorist" on page 146 for more). But in general, Dr. Deitch wants you to realize that a dog's behavior is both nurture and nature; pit bulls, for instance, can be very gentle if they're properly trained and reared by a warm soul (chaining and physical punishment are never the solution, no matter how aggressive your dog is). If you detect hostile tendencies, behavior modification can be very effective. Dr. Deitch adds that you should be aware of dog aggression, but don't worry unless it becomes a setback-and know that most of the time, there is a practical solution that doesn't involve the pound.

5. Barking or Whining: Dr. Deitch says this may be more problematic in an apartment building than in a house, simply for noise reasons, but know that all dogs are territorial-and barking when a dog hears a noise or someone at the door is normal. Of course, stopping when you ask him to stop is also expected. When you eventually meet with the adoption counselors at shelters or breeders, ask them which dogs are more prone to barking than others and what situations might provoke this (some dogs bark at birds, others at the TV). If you find that your dog is barking for food or attention, or if barking accompanies separation anxiety or aggression, a trainer can help you resolve it. Eventually, you'll learn to understand what your dog's barks mean without help. (See "Listening to Your Dog" on page 139 for more on how to decode barks, whines, and howls once he's in your care.)

4. Potty Mistakes: If he's not already housebroken, you'll need to housebreak your dog shortly after you bring him home. Creating a regimented potty schedule will help this process. Dr. Deitch says dogs can make potty mistakes for any number of reasons, but once you get to the root of the problem, it's rarely a situation that can't be resolved.

3. Cost of Medical Care: If you're nervous about money matters, start by taking two initial precautions: 1) save for your dog and 2) buy pet insurance. Dr. Deitch says singles and couples without kids may be more liquid and may not need to make changes to their budget, but if your dog is part of a more financially taxed unit, you may want to save. See the box on "How Will I Deal with Time and Cost Concerns?" on page 18 for more on this.

2. Pet Hair: Dr. Deitch suggests researching hypoallergenic dogs if you're concerned about allergies. (President Obama, for instance, chose a Portuguese Water Dog because one of his daughters is allergic.) If you're worried about a hairy mess, you should look for low-shedding dogs. Note that hypoallergenic dogs and low-shedding dogs are not the same. See "What You Should Know About Hypoallergenic Dogs" on page 34 for more.

1. Boarding or Finding a Sitter: In my experience, this is a problem only if you wait till the last minute to find a dog sitter or an open kennel. Instead, Dr. Deitch recommends designating a few pet sitters before you even bring a dog home. Beyond professional facilities, I've found that responsible teens are game for dog sitting, as are friends from out of town who don't mind watching a dog in exchange for an informal "vacation" at your house. Some dog walkers are associated with boarding facilities, too, and will fill in, in a pinch. For more on this topic, see "Collect Your Contacts Before You Need to Use Them" on page 67.


How Will You Deal with Time and Cost Concerns?

Dr. Deitch says the two most typical concerns that her clients discuss with her before getting a dog are related to time and expenses. She adds that the best way to handle your angst is to tackle the problems logistically. The therapist's take on both:


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Table of Contents

Introduction: The Best Kind of Pet Project 1

1 So You Want a Dog? 7

2 You're Getting a Dog? 55

3 Training and Behavior 101

4 Health 177

5 Nutrition 255

6 Grooming 317

7 The Bond 371

8 Emergencies, First Aid, and Saying Goodbye 429

All About My Dog! 479

Afterword: Now put Down the Book, and Go Love Your Dog! 483

Acknowledgments 484

Index 487

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Oh My Dog: How to Choose, Train, Groom, Nurture, Feed, and Care for Your New Best Friend 2.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 47 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I had trouble with my dog not doing what he was told ,so I read the book tryed some of the suggestions in the book and it really helped. Thanks Beth for doing the research.
SpookyToast More than 1 year ago
While I feel some of the reviews here are meant more to insult the author because she is married to Howard Stern. The book is meant to help people who own dogs or want to own one. Most of the information has been said in other dog expert books. Nothing in this book is new information. Its more information repeated before. I wouldn't recommend this book if you are an experienced dog owner. If you are a novice I would recommend it but there are other books out there that are just as good.
Elizabeth36 More than 1 year ago
On one hand, the negative reviewers dislike the book based on premise rather than substance. That is to say, they dislike the fact that the author seems to be putting out a product to further her cause (the NSAL) and to make money. I'm all for someone making money by selling a product, but they do have a point in that the NASL is a pretty low-rated charity. . On the other hand, there are obviously planted pro-reviews which all seem to ding the same bulleted talking points (i.e. she never claimed to be an expert) and ignore the fact that the book is only 2 days old, and yet they have not only already read the book cover-to-cover, but have also implemented the advice given in the book and seen results. Its either an amazing book that will let you see results so quickly, or someone's lying about having read and/or implemented said advice. I have to admit, the reviews have piqued my interest in purchasing the book yesterday, and, after reading a substantial portion of the text, I rate this a definite pass (as in try something else). The book reads like it was written by Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde in that there was minimal attempt to blend the writing styles of the two authors. The so-called "tips" in the book are somewhat interesting at times, but I found it odd that there is a lot (too much for my taste) of steering the reader into purchasing products in which they apparently share some monetary benefit to the authors. The book seems hastily written and thrown out to the public in the intent of solely providing revenue streams for the authors. Sadly, I feel that the negative reviewers are more correct in their assertions than the positive reviewers and the "advice" given in the book is nothing more than what anyone with access to the internet can find on a common search engine
phillyguy1701 More than 1 year ago
Very informative book for dog owners with questions.I bought an extra copy as a mothers day gift.
Kingofall More than 1 year ago
If you've ever heard Beth talk about animals, you'd completely understand the passion she has for animals. She spent over a year working, writing and compiling this book to help people care for their animals/dogs. If you need a guide to lead you tru the bumps and bruises that come with dog care, this book is for you. All haters need not apply.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It seems that ALL of the negative reviews written here are more personal attacks on Beth than actual reviews. I doubt any of these alleged reviewers read her book, or can read.
J_Sash More than 1 year ago
Simply put, this book is filled with valuable information regarding dogs. Some of the information you might need, some you wont. But the information inside I found to be very insightful. The 1 star reviews seems to be coming from people who haven't read the book. These people are attacking the author for who's she's married to and claiming that its a shameless attempt at making money. I'm no expert on her husband, but isn't he one of the highest paid entertainers in the United States? So why would she need to write a dog book to make money? This just goes to show you how absurd these people are who haven't read the book. All I can say is that I think the information in the book is valuable info and would benefit many dog owners. Try finding a review from a qualified reviewer, because the independent reviews online are misleading and actually have nothing to do with the content inside the book!
Piano More than 1 year ago
I especially like the mini box columns throughout all the pages that say 'What does it mean when my dog,...?' great questions and astute answers. I especially like the chapters on Nutrition and Health. Written very well, easy flow and a cozy read while you're learning a ton! I learned so much about how to read nutrition labels, different types of vets, health symptoms and what it could be plus CPR and emergency care. Many helpful web site addresses offered throughout the chapters that you would never think to look up, this is very beneficial and I highlighted all of them. This book covers everything from 'You're getting a dog, to Training, Grooming, Health, Nutrition, Emergency and Loss' all chapters are packed with helpful information that you don't find in other books. A must read for newly and existing dog owners!!!
Kaitlin Meiners More than 1 year ago
this book is amazing and it said all i need to know about my new best friend, my chihuahua peanut.
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