The Perfect Family

The Perfect Family

by Kathryn Shay

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BN ID: 2940148990086
Publisher: Ocean View Books
Publication date: 12/17/2013
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
File size: 671 KB

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The Perfect Family 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 28 reviews.
bigbearphx More than 1 year ago
After struggling with "coming out" to his family, seventeen year old Jamie Davidson finally blurts it out to his mom, Maggie, a college instructor. As the revelation is also made to his devout Catholic father, Mike, and his jock older brother, Brian, we see the cracks start to form in the framework of this previously cohesive family. The fact that Jamie is dating Luke, a baseball teammate of Brian's, makes it even tougher for Brian at school, and he lashes out at Jamie for putting him in an uncomfortable position. Meanwhile, his parents, who had some communication issues - and a disagreement about Mike's blind adherence to Catholic dogma - even before Jamie came out to them, drift further apart, and are tempted to cheat on each other. Maggie is also dealing with her own mother, whose Catholic priest had advised her to disown Maggie's older sister, once she married a divorced man. That sister is now back in Maggie's life, and is helping her get through her feelings about Jamie's revelation. Meanwhile, Jamie is upset what this is doing to his family, but refuses to consider his father's religion-based approach to the problem. At the same time, Jamie is helping Luke deal with his own coming out, to parents who were not anyway near as understanding as his own. This well-written book is especially noteworthy, at a time when the suicide of gay teens has been in the news. It illustrates the conflicting psychological and varying religious perspectives on homosexuality, shows where support can be found in communities and with straight allies, and could be invaluable in encouraging a dialogue on such issues among families going through similar events. There is frank talk about suicides, and things that parents should be attuned to notice. The pace is engaging but not overly dramatic, providing a realistic journey for any reader. Give it five stars out of five. - Bob Lind, Echo Magazine
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Leaves one thinking
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I can under stand how he feels about coming out and telling the world somthing that may hurt everyone. I have not read this but by the preview i am def going to try. Everyone has a right to be happy and the boys parents should understsnd that. Could you imagine the discrimination he gets JUST for liking boys?
luv2read29 More than 1 year ago
Katryn Shay really hits a home run with this book. Being of Catholic faith, having an gay uncle and a son that is going into high school next year, I at times could not beleive how her family and friends reacted to the news of the young man being gay. And how the church took such a stand against the mother and son. I was not broght up that my uncle was any different then anyone else and thats how I raised my son. at times the book was hard to read, heart renching. I will be looking for more books by this author. If there is a book club or anyone that has read this book it would make for great discussion.
PGHKelly More than 1 year ago
Poorly developed characters and a poorly developed story, which is surprising since the author lets us know she, too, has a gay son in the notes at the end of the book. Gay son comes out. No background on whether he struggled with his orientation and no backstory on his struggle on deciding to come out. His relationship with another boy goes from zero to SERIOUS in no time at all. Mom is accepting, but has to spill her guts to her best friend, newly returned big sister, and counselor at every step of the way. Dad is devoutly religious and can't accept, acting abominally along the way. Big Brother is a depicted as a homophobic jock and behaves equally as abominally. Gay son's boyfriend's dad is far less accepting and understanding despite being a doctor. Gay son's longtime friend can no longer be friends with him because he's gay. Big Brother's jock friends exhibit every single homophobic behavior known to man. The priest at their church is hard-nosed and believes that the way of the Catholic church is the only way, everything is black and white and no other way or religion is right or acceptable. Along the way, every single gay stereotype is played upon and every single discriminatory thing possible happens, along with a few other big bad events that are glossed over (dysfunctional, abusive family, a prodigal daughter, a revelation about an abortion, near infidelity and a crumbling marriage, teen suicide, religion and religious tolerance). When the BIG BAD THING happens, all of a sudden, gay son's dad and brother are all changed for the better. Characters in the book who behaved horribly are suddenly changed an apologetic because they don't want to be seen as bigots, and all the world is A-okay. The book is full of high-school level conversation, exploited discrimination and stereotypes and is a contrived, preachy, poorly written, weak advertisement for PFLAG. Given the author's experience with her own son, this could have been a much better-written, better developed story.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This problem novel means well, but resorts to stereotypes, and substitutes expository passages for dialogue. Jamie, a high school student, experiences first love and comes out as gay to his family and friends. The story is very predictable. Just about everything horrible that could happen to a gay teen happens to him, although he remains remarkably well-adjusted. The focus of the novel, though, is more on his suburban family, and especially on how his being gay affects his liberal, educated, psychology professor mother. The boy's father is a conservative, devout Catholic. With the mother's protective instincts on high alert, she is not sure whether she can trust her husband to choose their son over the Church. A major weakness of the book is the author's tendency to infodump and editorialize, so that we read not only about safe sex, but also PFLAG, Dignity, blood bank policies, clerical celibacy, allies, the rate of suicide among gay and lesbian teens, and what it means for a United Church of Christ congregation to be "open and affirming." The grammar also goes to pieces in about the last 5 percent of the book. Although the kernel of the story is a teenage boy realizing he is gay, this is not a book primarily for teens. It would probably be most appreciated by gay/lesbian people's family members who have lingering concerns about whether they're doing the right things.
sociallife More than 1 year ago
INFORM US THAT SOMETIMES WE ARE WALKING IN A BUBBLE. THINKING EVERYTHING IS WELL THEN ONE PROBLEM BURST BURST THE BUBBLE. WITH TRUE LOVE THING CAN BE WORK OUT .. THIS IS gODS LOVE.
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This book so reveals what it must be like to handle such a delicate situation. Iit is so well captured and realistic. Your heart goes out to the entire family and rejoices with them in the end. I would highly recommend this book to anyone.
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Charmedreader More than 1 year ago
I loved this book. Everyone should read this. I agree with several characters in the book...... The person "coming out" is the same person they were before they told you.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Handled very well. If you know a teen who is trying to come to terms with their sexuality - this is a good insight. Discusses how families feel and handle the news.
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It really makes you understand the issues with the catholic faith and gay people.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Very good book i would truly recommend this to anyone
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Well written book - I would urge everyone to read!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is an absolute eye opener
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Is this book approprite for a twelve year old?
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Very good read. Some loose ends but maybe that will be another story!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
One the best stories I'v ever read
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Its a great book
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