If you're looking for a heart-warming, inspirational account of saintly parents raising an autistic child, Queen for a Day isn't the book for you. Instead, what Maxine Rosaler offers us is the gut-heaving, throat-choking, darkly comic truth—about parenthood, marriage, love, rage, and hard-won survival. Here is life as it was actually lived in twentieth-century New York, in all its profane, crazy-making, transcendent glory.
Queen for a Day crackles with insight, energy, and New York City wit. Maxine Rosaler’s novel in stories revolves around an odd sorority of mothers brought together—and sometimes apart—by their autistic children. Rosaler is both compassionate and wonderfully unsentimental in her portrayal of their fear and fury, longing and isolation. She is also really good at capturing the random bursts of connection so endemic to New York City street life, and her take on the Kafkaesque bureaucracy otherwise known as the Department of Education is hilarious. I loved this book and recommend it highly, not only to parents dealing with autism, but to anyone who enjoys gritty, funny, heartbreaking, and ultimately affirming stories of modern family life.
These stories speak eloquently to the loneliness and isolation that can be an intrinsic part of raising a child with a disability. With unsentimental candor and edgy humor, Maxine Rosaler describes the surreal situations these mothers encounter, but she also reveals glimpses of the deep love and against all odds dreams these women have for their children.
Queen for a Day is a constellation of stories forming a vibrant novel about maternal love, its struggles, its ambivalence, and, ultimately, its persistence. Each is from the perspective of a mother in crisis, and each moves us in a profoundly different way. The stories shifting points of view create moments of dissonance and also of great empathy. Mothers who otherwise have nothing in common are brought together, often with sudden intimacy, through the challenges of their children. Queen for a Day poignantly evokes a maternal dance between denial and celebration.
I was both moved and impressed by this novel, and the intelligence and sympathy with which the author presents her afflicted characters.
Queen for a Day is a compelling collection that explores the terror and denial parents experience when realizing their child is ‘different’ in linked stories that are tender, unflinchingly honest, and at times, chortle-out-loud funny. The book takes us on a journey from Danny’s early years to his teen years, peopled with idiosyncratic characters and events (a doomed Bar Mitzvah party and an apple-picking expedition gone bad) that allow us to see Danny and his loving but star-crossed parents, Mimi and Jake, from a variety of perspectives. Maxine Rosaler deals with a difficult subject in deft and graceful prose that make everything from a trip to the doctor’s office to wheeling a broken grocery cart down a NYC sidewalk feel like an adventure fraught with danger and wonder. I loved this book—read it in two sittings.
Maxine Rosaler lays bare the turmoil of raising and loving a special needs child while navigating fraught adult relationships and nightmarish bureaucracies. There are no saints or queens here, just real, aching women in all their complexity. These artfully linked stories are at once biting and tender.
The stories in Maxine Rosaler's Queen for a Day are sharp and wonderfully off-kilter, filled with anguish and dark humor and a quiet, unmistakable pulse of hope. Rosaler's depiction of heartbreak and its flip side, fierce love, is unsparing and complex, and something to which we all can relate.
Everyone who has experienced the system of disability education, services, and healthcare has a story. With dark humor, irony, and compassion, Maxine Rosaler’s Queen for a Day recognizes that there are many sides to a story. There are no heroes and villains here, but ordinary people trying to live on with the pettiness, routines, and fleeting victories of everyday life. Compelling and sharply written, this collection is a must-read for parents, educators, and service providers, as well as anyone who just loves a good story.
Maxine Rosaler makes Mimi’s story come alive with humor, hard-won wisdom, and unflinching honesty. Queen for a Day is a closely observed, complex portrait of motherhood, where love and frustration, tenderness and bewilderment, are inextricably intertwined.
Queen for a Day reminds us that in family life, the stakes are always high. At the center of this beguiling novel is Mimi Slavitt: manager of the Slavitts’ modest income, frequent opponent of her husband, Jake, and mother to autistic Danny. Mimi is the best advocate that Danny could have: resourceful, fierce, and tenacious, with a voice that’s larger than life.
Queen for a Day is poignant and funny, the images startling, and the characters real. Rosaler's facility is with the narrative surprise, and the complex and conflicting emotions that reveal who we are. All throughout she exhibits an authority on her subject that carries us through from beginning to end in the confident hands of this capable storyteller.
Maxine Rosaler’s ‘novel in stories’ resembles Tim O’Brien’s The Things They Carried, except rather than surviving an absurd and unjust war, the burden here is one of mothering an autistic child. Like O’Brien, Rosaler explores the mettle and morality of Mimi Slavitt on the ‘battlefield of her existence’—as she seeks help for her son, and as her story is set off against other stories of different mothers with handicapped children. The failures of our institutions, especially schools, to confront special needs are one common minefield; and the dream of cures another. Rosaler continues throughout to plumb both Mimi’s humanity and that of her son Danny . . . . In all, the writing is generously unsentimental, spiritually probing and filled with piercing intimacies.
Maxine Rosaler's novel in stories is sharply observant and deeply poignant, yet at times so darkly humorous that the reader will laugh out loud. Queen for a Day is unlike anything you've read before, and is absolutely unforgettable.
This debut novel in stories circles around Mimi Slavitt, mother to an autistic son, with arcs into the lives of other mothers raising children with developmental disabilities in New York City.The book starts around the time of Mimi's son Danny's diagnosis at age 4, in the shifting period when New Yorkers still used subway tokens but Starbucks were starting to pop up around town. It ends when Danny is in his early teens. Little changes with him in the intervening years; he remains in his own world, fascinated by nature and facts, uncaring of other people or social conventions. But Mimi's experiences range wildly. She is at once loving and proud, anxious and outspoken, indefatigable and desperate—traits that repeat throughout her life as well as the lives seen elsewhere in the collection. "Two Mothers" shows Aviva Brodner preparing her son, Howard, for his bar mitzvah. She hopes with that event to distance sweet, yearning Howard from his association with Danny as one of the two weird kids in class. In the title story, Mimi tells of Amy, a woman who "cured" her autistic son only to have him return to form, and how parenting robs Amy of her other passion—painting. These stories afford the reader different interpretations of Mimi and, more significantly, different views of women coping with children who don't fit easily into the world. The mothers (and only the mothers) constantly battle an uncaring school district for insufficient resources while dreaming futilely of escape. When telling her own tales, Mimi sounds like a messy Nora Ephron—neurotic, talkative, and often funny in her sudden observations. When glimpsed, the children are distinct and wonderful.An engrossing and compassionate collection showing motherhood in its most unrelenting form.