Raising Ryland: Our Story of Parenting a Transgender Child with No Strings Attached

Raising Ryland: Our Story of Parenting a Transgender Child with No Strings Attached

by Hillary Whittington


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This powerful, moving story—which has already touched more than seven million through a viral video created by the Whittington family—is a mother’s first-hand account of her emotional choice to embrace her transgender child.

When Hillary and Jeff Whittington posted a YouTube video chronicling their five-year-old son Ryland’s transition from girl to boy, they didn’t expect it to be greeted with such fervor. Beautiful and moving, the video documenting Hillary’s and Jeff’s love for their child instantly went viral and has been seen by more than seven million viewers since its posting in May 2014.

Now for the first time, they tell their story in full, offering an emotional and moving account of their journey alongside their exceptional child. After they discovered their daughter Ryland was deaf at age one and needed cochlear implants, the Whittingtons spent nearly four years successfully teaching Ryland to speak. But once Ryland gained the power of speech, it was time for them to listen as Ryland insisted, “I am a boy!” And listen they did. After learning that forty-one percent of people who identify as transgender attempt to take their own lives, Hillary and her husband Jeff made it their mission to support their child—no matter what.

From the earliest stages of deciphering Ryland through clothing choices to examining the difficult conversations that have marked every stage of Ryland’s transition, Hillary Whittington shares her experiences as a mother through it all, demonstrating both the resistance and support that their family has encountered as they try to erase the stigma surrounding the word “transgender.” In telling her family’s story, she hopes she can assist the world in accepting that even children as young as five, can have profound and impactful things to say and share. What emerges is a powerful story of unconditional love, accepting others for who they are, and doing what’s right, regardless of whether those around you understand it.    

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780062388889
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 02/23/2016
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 272
Sales rank: 631,103
Product dimensions: 5.20(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Mother of two Hillary Whittington has advocated for her children for years, serving as a classroom volunteer and public speaker. Through Raising Ryland, Hillary hopes to bring hope, strength, and humor to her experiences as the parent of a transgender child. In sharing her story, she encourages readers to have the courage to make the world a better place for all of us.

Table of Contents

Author's Note ix

Prologue 1

Part 1 Learning to Listen

Chapter 1 Ryland's Creation 7

Chapter 2 Baby Signs 25

Chapter 3 The Gift of Sound 59

Chapter 4 Clothing Catastrophes 67

Chapter 5 Immediate Attention 83

Chapter 6 Growing Family 101

Chapter 7 Canvas for a Cause 111

Part 2 Embracing Our Son

Chapter 8 Transitional Kindergarten 129

Chapter 9 Shaping the Future 151

Chapter 10 Gender Spectrum 164

Chapter 11 Heat in the Marriage 178

Chapter 12 Nuclear Reaction 186

Chapter 13 Educating the Educators 195

Chapter 14 First Day of School 203

Chapter 15 Spiritual Enlightenment 207

Chapter 16 Transgender Day of Empowerment 214

Chapter 17 Coming Out 225

Chapter 18 Child at Play 236

Chapter 19 Conclusion 243

Acknowledgments 255

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