Rules for My Unborn Son

Rules for My Unborn Son

by Walker Lamond

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ISBN-13: 9780312608958
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
Publication date: 10/27/2009
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 216,827
Product dimensions: 5.22(w) x 7.44(h) x 0.83(d)

About the Author

Walker Lamond is a writer and television producer. His documentaries have appeared on the Discovery Channel, National Geographic Channel, TruTV, and HBO, and he has written for numerous publications including Stop Smiling magazine, Valet, Babble, and Asylum. Lamond lives in Washington, D.C. with his wife and their son, who arrived shortly after the completion of Rules for My Unborn Son.

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Rules For My Unborn Son


By Walker Lamond

St. Martin's Press

Copyright © 2009 Walker Lamond
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-250-08745-4



CHAPTER 1

When in doubt, wear a tie.

* * *

Ride in the front car of a roller coaster.

* * *

See movies on the big screen.

* * *

Men with facial hair have something to hide.


Be a strong swimmer, especially in the ocean.

* * *

Avoid gossip.

* * *

Don't waste time with a fancy watch.

* * *

Talent is learned.

Learn to sing.

* * *

Stand up for the little guy.

He'll remember you.


Be careful what you set your heart upon, for it will surely be yours.

— James A. Baldwin


Avoid affectations, lest they become habits.

* * *

Buy seasonal fruit from your local stand or bodega.

* * *

Don't attempt a dialect other than your own, unless it's in the script.

* * *

Men should not wear sandals.

Ever.


Start a band.

* * *

A T-shirt is neither a philosophy nor an advertisement. It's a shirt. Wear it plain.

* * *

Know her dress size. Don't ask.

* * *

On occasion, pick up the tab.

* * *

Don't poke fun at contemporary art. Put it in context.

* * *

Don't spit on the sidewalk.

* * *

The key to good photography is not timing. It's editing.

* * *

Don't be shy in the locker room. They are all thinking the same thing.

* * *

Be a good listener. Don't just wait your turn to talk.

* * *

A vandal is the lowest form of scoundrel.

* * *

Yes Ma'am. No Sir. No exceptions.


Choose your corner, pick away at it carefully, intensely, and to the best of your ability, and that way you might change the world.

— Charles Eames


Know your furniture. But never buy it all at once.

* * *

On a road trip, offer to buy the first tank of gas.

* * *

Short pants are for little boys. Decide for yourself when you are a man.

* * *

Always meet your date at the door.

* * *

Make a rock and roll pilgrimage.

* * *

Make a hipster's day. Donate old clothes to charity.

* * *

Close the door, turn it up, dork out.

* * *

Audition for a play. Read for the lead.

* * *

Never pack more than you can carry yourself.

* * *

Live in New York.


Take the stairs.

* * *

Root for the home team, even when they stink.

* * *

Have a reliable hangout.

* * *

Nothing good ever happens after 3 A.M.

I promise.

* * *

Sit in the front of the classroom.

* * *

Finish what you start, especially books.

* * *

There is rarely a time to raise your voice. At the ball game is one.

* * *

Never eat the same meal twice in a row.

* * *

Don't show off.

Impress.

* * *

Make sure your clothes fit properly.


A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.

— Robert Anson Heinlein


At funerals, a dark suit is fine. You shouldn't own a black one.

* * *

Don't loiter where there is a dispute that does not concern you.

* * *

Don't be a mooch.

* * *

When speaking with a journalist, choose your words carefully.


Push-ups and sit-ups are all you'll ever need to build muscle.

* * *

Never criticize a book, play, or film unless you have read or seen it yourself. Art is full of surprises.

* * *

Support friends in the arts. Especially if they stink.

* * *

Learn to sail.

* * * The most expensive restaurant is never the best.

* * *

Remember, the girl you're with is somebody's sister. And he's perfectly capable of kicking your ass.

* * *

Be a good passer, but don't forget to shoot.



Every time I see an adult on a bicycle, I no longer despair for the future of the human race.

— H. G. WELLS


Wear a sport coat when traveling by plane. It has easily accessible pockets.

* * *

Spend as much time as you can on the water. In a pinch, even a creek will do.

* * *

Keep your word.

* * *

Never side against your brother in a fight.

* * *

Memorize the Bill of Rights and your favorite poem.

* * *

Respect fire.

* * *

Philanthropy is not measured in dollars and cents.

* * *

Never go out of your way to be on TV.

* * *

On a city sidewalk, walk briskly and don't impede pedestrian traffic.

* * *

Never hog a microphone.



Take the train.

* * *

Run for student government at least once.

* * *

Let the axe do the work.

* * *

Feel free to crash a tailgate party.

* * *

You don't get to choose your own nickname.

* * *

Enough already. Learn the rules of cricket.

* * *

If you're going to reinvent yourself, be original.

* * *

Bodysurf.

* * *

Be subtle.

She sees you.

* * *

Give credit.

Take the blame.

* * *

Don't underestimate your fertility.

* * *

Write down your dreams.


When things go wrong — don't go with them.

— Elvis Presley

Unless you have served in the armed forces, no fatigues.

* * *

The best thing you can give your neighbors is a well-kept lawn.

* * *

Keep a schedule.

* * *

Experience the serenity of traveling alone.

* * *

The one true measure of a successful adventure is returning home safely.

* * *

Call your mom.

* * *

Your best chance of being a rock star is learning the bass.

* * *

When excusing yourself from the table, you need not give a reason.

* * *

If you have the right of way, take it.

* * *

If the maître d' mistakes you for someone famous, there's no rush to correct him.

* * *

Sympathy is a crutch.

Never fake a limp.

* * *

Take your own pictures at family events.

* * *

Don't let the pictures become the event.

* * *

When it comes to opening presents, no one likes a good guesser.

* * *

Don't gloat.

A good friend will do it for you.


On matters of style, swim with the current.

On matters of principle, stand like a rock.

— THOMAS JEFFERSON


Don't tip the owner.

A handshake will do.

* * *

Don't stare directly into a dog's eyes.

* * *

You can't cram for a dental exam.

* * *

Don't rush.

No coffee until you're sixteen.

* * *

Never under any circumstances ask a woman if she is pregnant.



Courage is not the lack of fear, it is acting in spite of it.

— MARK TWAIN


Don't date the bartender.

* * *

Learn to pronounce French words correctly.

* * *

Invest in great luggage.

The world will know that you've arrived.

* * *

Be a regular at your local flea market.

* * *

Let napping dads lie.


If you choose to wear a tie, commit.

Button your top button.

* * *

Offer your date the seat with the best view of the restaurant.

* * *

Never be the last one in the pool.


* * *

Keep a garden.


The American, by nature, is optimistic.

He is experimental, an inventor and a builder who builds best when called upon to build greatly.

— JOHN F. KENNEDY


Get back in touch with old friends.

* * *

Never turn down an invitation to speak in public.

* * *

Eat more fish.

* * *

Do your own bicycle repairs.

* * *

Order dessert.

* * *

Don't shout out requests at rock shows.

Be a good wingman.

* * *

When selling tickets, take face value.

* * *

Don't stare.

People-watch.

* * *

Protect your privacy, especially when you're famous.


Address anyone who carries a firearm professionally as sir or ma'am.

* * *

Explore the branches of your family tree. You never know what you might find.

* * * Sleep with the window open.

* * * If you drop change, pick it up.

Even the pennies.

* * * Don't pose with booze.



Hide not your talents. They for use were made. What's a sundial in the shade?

— BENJAMIN FRANKLIN


You aren't done raking until you've played in the leaf pile.

* * *

Never respond to a critic in writing.

* * *

Know the difference between arts and crafts.

* * *

Fish don't have eyelids.

Cast into the shade.


Don't settle for a store bought cake.

Bake!

* * *

Surround yourself with smart people.

* * *

Don't be a snob.



I not only use all the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow.

— WOODROW WILSON


When fishing, practice catch and release.

* * *

If the teacher forgets to assign homework, keep quiet.


Don't ride your bike on the sidewalk.

* * *

Stand up to bullies.

You'll only have to do it once.

* * *

If you've made your point, stop talking.

* * *

Watch your language at the ballgame.

* * *

Sit for a portrait.


Get your pumpkins from a pumpkin patch.

* * *

Own a wool flannel suit.

* * *

Have a pen pal.

* * *

Admit when you are wrong.

Mean it.

* * *

If you spot a teacher outside of school, leave him be.


Courtesy is as much a mark of a gentleman as courage.

— TEDDY ROOSEVELT


Don't personalize your license plates.

* * *

If you offer to help, don't quit until the job is done.

* * *

When it's time to sing in church, SING!

It's a great time to practice.

* * *

Wear freshly laundered pajamas.


The young man knows the rules, but the old man knows the exceptinos.

— OLIVER WENDELL HOLMES, SR.



Be precise.

* * *

Identify your most commonly used word or phrase and eliminate it.

* * *

Stay Busy. There is always something that could use a fresh coat of paint.

* * *

If you attend a late-night after-party, have an exit strategy.

* * *

On Sunday morning, a gentleman gets dressed.


There is never an excuse for stealing someone's cab.

* * *

When you're older, coach.

* * *

Look people in the eye when you thank them, especially waiters.

* * *

Choose a window seat and enjoy the view.

* * *

Twice a year, write down your goals.

* * *

No gang is complete without one cool girl.

* * *

Hang artwork at eye level.

* * *

There is no need to tell anyone you are leaving the bar.


Always do sober what you said you'd do drunk. That will teach you to keep your mouth shut.

— ERNEST HEMINGWAY


Keep a well-stocked bar.

* * *

Read before bed every night.

* * *

Never post a picture online you wouldn't feel comfortable showing your mother, your boss, and the dean of admissions.


Don't throw sand or, when you're older, mud.

* * *

Don't panic.

* * *

When singing karaoke, choose a song in your range.

* * *

Thank the bus driver.

* * *

Go down fighting.


If you're playing a poker game and you look around the table and can't tell who the sucker is, it's you.

— PAUL NEWMAN

Keep your passport current.

* * *

Become an expert in something.

* * *

Write letters.

On paper.

* * *

Be careful what you put in writing. You can't take it back.

* * *

There is exactly one place where it is acceptable to wear gym clothes.

Never ask about another person's grades or salary.

* * *

To execute a proper tackle, lower your shoulder, not your head, and remember to wrap up.

* * *

Cite your sources, even online.

* * *

Whistle.

* * *

Never push someone off a dock.

The view is better when you're not afraid of who is behind you.


Help a buddy move.

* * *

Don't boast about projects in progress.

Celebrate their completion.

* * *

Until you are a doctor, never answer your phone at the table.

* * *

If you make a mistake, forgive yourself and move on.

* * *

Be a good diver.


When you are a houseguest, be sure to wake up before your hosts.

* * *

After lighting a firecracker, stand back.

* * *

In a canoe, do your share of the work.

* * *

Go barefoot. It toughens the feet.

* * *

Make yourself useful on a boat. If you can't tie knots, fetch the beers.

* * *

Spend a summer waiting tables.

* * *

Always keep a good joke handy.

* * *

Take your sunglasses off indoors. This includes elevators and planes.

* * *

Don't salt your food until you've tasted it.

* * *

Never turn down a girl's invitation to dance.


Be true to your school.

— Brian Wilson


Play hooky.

* * *

Never skip practice.

* * *

Avoid air-conditioning, especially at the beach.

* * *

Order the local specialty.

* * *

Don't boo.

Even the ref is somebody's son.


Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like hell underneath.

— MICHAEL CAINE


Drive across the country.

Don't rush.

* * *

Limit your time in California.

* * *

Never ask to be taken out of a ball game.

* * *

If you aren't a starter, stay close to the coach and be ready to play.

* * *

There's nothing wrong with musical theater. Everything in moderation.


Don't have a girlfriend in college.

* * *

A man's luggage doesn't roll.

* * *

Learn to drive a stick shift.

* * *

Jump in with your clothes on.

* * * Smile at pretty girls.



Have a signature dish, even if it's your only one.

* * *

Be quick with a "Good morning."

* * *

Have a favorite song.

It doesn't have to be cool.

* * *

Be careful not to ogle girls at the beach. That's what sunglasses are for.

* * *

If you ignore history, it will ignore you.


There is more than one way to serve your country.

Drive a fuel-efficient car.

* * *

Don't be afraid to nominate yourself.

Be up to the task.

* * *

Make curfew.

Sneak out later to meet her.

* * *

A museum is a great place to beat a hangover.

It's cool, quiet, and full of water fountains.

* * * Keep your room clean.

One day you'll have roommates.

* * * Do laundry often.

You won't need as many clothes.

* * *

Never leave a job without

securing your next employment.

* * *

But when it's time to go, don't hesitate.


Everything I've ever done was out of fear of being mediocre.

— CHET ATKINS

Be nice to your sister. You are her cheerleader, confidante, and bodyguard.

* * *

Find yourself a good hideout.

* * *

Always stop at a lemonade stand. Tip well. Know the proper time to wear a tuxedo.

It's more often than you think.

* * *

The keys to throwing a good party are a working stereo, Christmas lights, and plenty of ice.

* * * Be cool to the younger kids.

Reputations are built over a lifetime.

* * * Drive a vintage car before you are thirty.

Be able to wrench it yourself * * *

Be confident on the subway.

* * *

On a night out with the boys, never be the first to go home.

* * *

If you're going to quote someone, get it right.

* * *

Know the proper time to chew gum.

It's less often than you think.

* * *

On occasion, go to the movies by yourself.

* * *

Wait for your song to play on the jukebox.



Here's a rule I recommend.

Never practice two vices at once.

— TALLULAH BANKHEAD


Find your favorite painting.

* * *

Traveling to a foreign city is an excuse to dress up, not down.

The best thing to do in the rain is be quiet and listen.

* * *

Go all out on Halloween.

* * *

Ask your mother to dance.

* * *

Take the time to get a shoe-shine.

* * *

Don't get fancy about your beer or coffee.



Don't let the ice-cream truck get away.

* * *

Despite what your may hear, not everyone's a winner. It doesn't mean you shouldn't play.

* * *

Don't lose your cool.

Especially at work.

* * *

Some rules are made to be broken.

Jaywalking is not one of them.

* * *

Participate in a good practical joke.

* * *

When handling a frog, be gentle.

* * *

Offer your name when greeting someone. Even good friends have lousy memories.

* * *

Be able to identify all of the trees on your block.

It is no use saying, "We are doing our best." You have got to succeed in doing what is necessary.

— WINSTON CHURCHILL


Never sit down on a ball field.

Take a knee.

* * *

Hustle.

* * *

If your mother is watching, wear a helmet.

* * *

Keep hardback copies of your favorite books. Donate the rest to a local exchange.

* * *

Treat your body well.

You'll be glad you did when you are a dad.

* * *

Be beholden to no one.

Pay in cash.

* * *

Remember to thank your hosts.

* * *

If you don't know what a word means, ask.

Before it's too late.

* * *

Know your neighborhood like the back of your hand. Sometimes the best adventures are in your own backyard.

* * *

There is no better remedy than a dip in the ocean.

* * *

Trust the concierge.


Never request a joke or impression.

They are never as good on command.

* * *

Suck it up.

* * *

If you have to make more than one substitution, order something else.

* * *

Wisdom begins with an awe of nature.




Wit ought to be a glorious treat like caviar; never spread it about like marmalade.

— NOËL COWARD


Attend lots of weddings.

Your friends will be there and the food is always good.

* * *

Send postcards.

* * *

Read the good majority of a newspaper every day.

* * *

Don't forget the funny pages.



Draw what you see, not what you think is there.

* * *

Exercise in the morning.

Bicycling to school or work is a good idea.

* * *

Socks are not necessary in the summer, no matter how formal the occasion.

* * *

Use the broiler.

It's an indoor grill.

* * *

Befriend your local butcher.

* * * Sign the guestbook.

* * * Own your own baseball mitt and golf clubs. All other athletic equipment can be shared or borrowed.

* * *

Offer your seat to a woman, no matter how old she is.

* * *

Get to know your sister's boyfriends. I'll rely on your opinion.

* * *

Never criticize the government of your own country when you are abroad.


Play organized football.

* * *

You won't always be the strongest or fastest. You can be the toughest.

* * *

An hour with your grandparents is time well spent.

* * *

In the long run, loyalty trumps ambition every time.

* * *

Watch a lightning storm from a safe spot.

But watch 'em.

* * *

When caught in a riptide, swim parallel to the beach.

* * *

Compliment your mom's cooking.

* * *

Wrap your own presents.

Aluminum foil works in a pinch and you don't need tape.

* * *

Be a well-informed voter.

* * *

Don't forget your local elections.


Take it easy. But take it.

— WOODY GUTHRIE


Don't litter.

Ever.

* * *

Honking your horn won't make them go faster.

* * *

Drink rail liquor.

* * *

Minimize talking on the telephone.

* * * Don't be afraid of

pickup games. It's the best way to learn.

* * * Keep iced tea in the fridge.

It's healthy, cold, and cheap.

* * *


(Continues...)

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Copyright Notice,
Dedication,
Introduction,
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Appendix,
Acknowledgments,
About the Author,
Copyright,

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Rules for My Unborn Son 4.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 12 reviews.
enoch_elijah on LibraryThing 3 days ago
I received this book and on the same day I finished reading it...it was THAT good! Now, this is not your typical book that you read from cover to cover (though that is exactly what I did!). As you might imagine, it is written in the form of snippets of advice by Mr. Lamond to his son. As he says in his introduction, many of these are sayings he picked up from his own father, though he has taken the liberty of modernizing them to include internet etiquette ("Never post a picture online you wouldn't feel comfortable showing your mother, your boss, and the dean of administration" from page 100). Yes, many of these are common sense...but isn't that exactly what we need to hear over and over?In his introduction, Lamond says that boys need rules and that "somewhere along the way, rules got a bad name...[r]ules were seen as antiquated obstacles...and the game of life suddenly got a bit sloppier, more uncertain, and even a bit less fun." Which, in my humble opinion, is quite profound!On the day I received the book, before I even read the introduction, I opened it up to the first little entry and read the following: "When in doubt, wear a tie." I knew from that moment this would be my kind of book...and it was! This is the kind of book every male should read. Not that every entry is necessarily true for everyone, but the simple idea that rules are there for a reason is something the men of our society need to understand. If only we could return to a time when men were men not because they cussed or had sex with lots of women, but because they took responsibility for their own actions and understood that sometimes we have to do what is right...even when we'd rather just do what is easy.Do I recommend this book? Without any hesitation! This is a keeper and belongs on the bookshelves of every home!
pqimparfait on LibraryThing 3 days ago
Received this book from the Early Reviewers program.The aesthetics are wonderful. Subtle color, illustrations, humorous vintage photographs. The rules themselves are good ones to live by, whether you are male or female. They hint at being polite, well dressed, sensible, and decent. You don't have to be rude to have fun, basically.I love the fact that Rules started out as a sort of web 2.0 project. I'm a big social media/crowdsourcing geek, so it gives me tingly feelings to see demonstrations of cutting-edge technology being used to preserve old-fashioned values. In this age, we have no excuse to delete or forget our emails, conversations, nuggets of wisdom. Our children may need it one day.
bukwurm2 on LibraryThing 3 days ago
I received "Rules for My Unborn Son" as part of the reviewers program, and loved reading every page. In this book are hints, tips and lists that, if followed, will keep a son on the straight and narrow. The style of the book is very reminiscent of the style of the 1950's and 60's. As you read through Walker Lamond's "Rules", you are reminded of a simpler time when ettiquette and politeness were still considered important. Lamond reminds us of this with enjoyable suggestions such as; "To execute a proper tackle, lower your shoulder not your head, and remember not to wrap up", "Be able to identify all of the trees on your block", and my favorite "A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects". - Robert Anson Heinlein The rules found here pertain to everything from appearance to sports, drinking to dating, and everything in between. Many of the comments are quotes from famous people, but all of them make sense and will cause you to think about how you yourself act. I was also pleasantly surprised by the appendix which has just 2 items. "Required Listening for Boys", and "Essential Reading for Boys". I guarantee you'll be surprised at some of the items that made the lists. I have to honestly say I couldn't come up with any sound criticism of this book. I loved reading it, and find I'm occassionally trying to improve myself by following some of his suggestions that I don't live up to. Now how often do you get a humorous, enjoyable book that also motivates you to improve yourself as a human being, even after the book is put away...just don't put it too far away!
shamicnic on LibraryThing 3 days ago
It's an easy read and a sweet tribute to sons, if you look at it from an adult's point of view. I agree with the previous reviewer that kids might not find it as interesting. I plan to purchase copies for some of my friends who are having boy babies.
bestem on LibraryThing 3 days ago
I loved this book. The snippets of advice throughout the book are simple, yet germane. I found myself constantly thinking of how my own siblings, and even my parents, would react to the myriad of tips contained within the pages. The 'rules' cover a wide range of topics, from where to sit in a roller coaster (the first seat), to what to wear to a funeral (a dark suit, there's no reason to own a black one), to how to treat people (treat girls with respect, they have brothers that can beat you up).I would give it to any of my friends that are expecting a child, whether it's a boy or a girl. Not all of the rules are geared towards men and boys, and even the ones that are can be shifted ever so slightly for a female perspective. I even think it could make a good baby shower activity, all the guests coming up with rules for the unborn child to live by.Ever since I got my copy, I've been opening it up in the morning, to a random page, and reading one of the rules on the page, and using it as a thought for the day. A rule like "Unless you have served in the armed forces, no fatigues" isn't just about fatigues. You can see how it's about not pretending to be someone you're not, or not claiming respect given to a group of people that you're not part of. I loved the book. I giggled at some of the rules, I scoffed at some, I got teary eyed at some, and whether or not they were all rules I agreed with, they were all true bits of wisdom that any of us could afford to consider from time to time.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Funny and useful!
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is a lot of fun....all ages would like it. The title is somewhat off putting, but the text was great
kebuck01 More than 1 year ago
Witty, fun, informative, creative and a great easy read! This book is a must-have for anyone that is about to have a son or even anyone who already has one! A great shower gift, gift for dad or Father's Day gift. HIGHLY recommend this book.
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rs614 More than 1 year ago
This is just a short book but it's so adorable...I loved the sayings and actually gave it to my son!!!
GuillermoCordobva More than 1 year ago
The cover caught my eye and the words kept me reading. I just love this book. Some might consider it a bit pricey considering that it can be finished in a about an hour. But it's worth every cent in advise. It's no novel but well worth the read. I pick it up every few days and get a kick of the great advise. I look forward to sharing this little treasure with my little man. We will both be better men for it. Some of my favorite rules: *Make sure your clothes fit properly. *Have a reliable hangout. *Keep your eye on the ball and follow through. In sports and in life. *Finish what you start, especially books.