Calling the super busy, the stressed out, the overtired.
You know you're made for a more fulfilling life. With this book, you’ll know where to start.
You wake up tired. Your to-do list is too long. The commitments—and the laundry—are piling up, but your energy keeps dwindling. You feel like you're simply making it through the days, not living or enjoying any part of them.
In Say Goodbye to Survival Mode, you'll find both practical ideas and big-picture perspective that will inspire you to live life on purpose. As a wife, mother of three, and founder of the wildly successful blog MoneySavingMom.com, Crystal Paine has walked the road from barely surviving to living with intention. With the warmth and candor of a dear friend, she shares what she's learned along the way, helping you:
- feel healthier and more energetic by setting priorities and boundaries
- eliminate stress with savvy management of your time, money, and home
- get more done by setting realistic goals and embracing discipline
- rediscover your passions—and the confidence to pursue them
Packed with straightforward solutions you'll use today and inspirational stories you'll remember for years, Say Goodbye to Survival Mode is a must for any woman who's ever longed for the freedom to enjoy life, not just survive it.
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About the Author
Crystal Paine is a speaker and author of the New York Times bestseller Say Goodbye to Survival Mode. In 2007, she founded MoneySavingMom.com, a site that has since grown to become one of the most popular blogs on the web, currently averaging close to 1.2 million readers per month. She lives with her husband and three children in Franklin, Tennessee.
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Say GOODBYE to SURVIVAL MODE
9 SIMPLE STRATEGIES TO STRESS LESS, SLEEP MORE, AND RESTORE YOUR PASSION FOR LIFE
By CRYSTAL PAINE
Thomas NelsonCopyright © 2014 Crystal Paine
All rights reserved.
Stop Trying to Do It All
Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm, and harmony.
Goal: Streamline your life and cut schedule clutter so you can focus your time and energy on the things that matter most.
Strategy: Create a personal priorities list and use it as a springboard for culling your commitments and to-do list.
I had to make the call. And I was seriously dreading it.
I was supposed to meet some friends for a fun outing that afternoon. I had been looking forward to it. What mother who barely has time for herself wouldn't be ecstatic about doing something, anything exciting? The problem was, I was already fifteen minutes late. And I wasn't even close to getting out the door.
With my feet glued to the sticky kitchen floor, I scanned the perimeter of my messy house. The dishes. The towering pile of laundry mocking me from the bedroom corner for the past week. The dust. The carpet needing to be vacuumed. The bathroom screaming for a good scrubbing. I looked at my hopelessly long to-do list I had scribbled on a scrap of paper. I watched my three, half-dressed children under the age of five all seeming to need my attention at that very moment. I swallowed hard and felt a pair of invisible hands around my neck. My palms shook with the anxiety of way too much to do.
I wanted to run away from it all. I was exhausted. I was stressed to the max. I felt stuck. I desperately fought the urge to yell, throw something, and cry—all at the same time.
Picking up the phone and admitting that I was in such an overwhelmed state (and late yet again) seemed to cement the fact that I was failing as a wife, as a mom, and as a woman.
Sure, I loved God, my husband, Jesse, and my kids (Kathrynne, age four; Kaitlynn, age two; and Silas, a baby at the time). And yes, there were still times when I felt happy and fulfilled. But more and more, those stretches were a thing of the past—experiences and feelings that seemed unfamiliar and scarce.
I wasn't living. I was merely surviving. Scared of what might happen if I couldn't find a way out of this maze of misery, I prayed I'd find help. And soon.
THE SLOW AND STEADY DOWNWARD SPIRAL
How had things come to this? How could I not even manage to get out the door to meet friends for a fun afternoon without falling apart and feeling like a colossal wreck?
In retrospect, this wasn't something that happened overnight. Instead, it was a slow progression in an unhealthy direction. It started with a lot of major changes and crises in a short amount of time.
I had been married for six years—years that had been filled with a whirlwind of life events, some of which were very stressful: pinching pennies out of necessity while my husband finished college and went to law school, having three children in less than five years, starting four different home businesses (three of which flopped), moving four times. I felt life was spinning out of control.
I was working thirty to forty hours per week as a blogger and writer to try and keep our family afloat financially. My blog, MoneySavingMom.com, which I had started in 2007, was experiencing incredible growth. It was a great thing, but by the time my third child was born in 2009, I was in over my head. Around thirty to fifty thousand people were reading my blog every day, and I was a one-woman show, running the business without any help. I was getting up too early and staying up too late almost every day and night trying to meet all my business and writing deadlines. And I was still recovering from postpartum depression.
The lies started swooping in with a vengeance. "I'm going to be okay," I whispered to myself when I felt suffocated by responsibilities and to-dos. I told everyone who asked that I was "great" and "wonderful."
But deep down, I knew the truth. I was anything but fine. A chipper attitude and wide grin couldn't mask how overwhelmed I felt.
Running at full steam started taking a toll on me physically. Exhaustion-induced health issues began to surface. Every two to three weeks, I would be bedridden for a few days with a high fever, headache, and intense pain throughout my whole body.
As this sickness continued to hit every few weeks for four months, I became concerned. I knew what I was experiencing was not normal, and I wondered what was wrong with me. But I kept pushing myself, unwilling to admit I was the cause of my health issues.
FACADES AND GLIMPSES OF FREEDOM
In the midst of so much change and upheaval, my type-A personality me wanted to keep up the persona of perfection. I didn't stop the insanity. I didn't sit down and analyze what I could realistically handle. I didn't recognize my limits and set boundaries. Instead, I wore a plastic smile and continued to say yes.
"Sure, I'll take on that project."
"Sure, I'll meet that deadline."
"Sure, I'll bake those brownies."
"Sure, I'll look over your e-book and give you feedback."
"Sure, I'll meet you for lunch and help you figure out how to start a blog."
As time marched on and my rope grew thinner, I kept piling on more projects and responsibilities, ignoring all the warning signs.
But that cold spring day when I had to make the phone call telling my friends I was running behind and going to be dreadfully late, something snapped inside me. For the first time, I realized how badly my life was spiraling out of control—and that something needed to give. For my children. For my husband. And for my sanity.
I didn't make any outward changes yet, but my mind-set started changing. I stopped believing the lies that I could do it all, be it all, and have it all. I just wanted to be free again—free from the rat race, free from the burden of feeling that I had to say yes to everything, free from the pressure of trying to be perfect. I wanted to be free to enjoy life.
Though I had a long way to go to find total freedom, I had taken the first step.
THE WORDS THAT SPARKED THE ULTIMATE CHANGE
A few weeks later, after months of scrimping and saving, Jesse and I had enough to put an offer on a house we'd fallen in love with. Our offer was accepted, and a moving date was set for five weeks later.
I reveled in the joy for about a second, when the reality of the situation finally hit. What am I thinking? I can't add the responsibilities of moving to my plate! I was barely keeping my head above water as it was. There was no way I could find time to pack up the house in five weeks too.
I was also in the midst of helping launch an intensive training event for bloggers. Guess when this event was scheduled? Right during the time when my family was supposed to be moving!
My colleagues and I had spent months planning this blogging event, advertising it, finalizing details, securing speakers, and getting sponsors. We were excited about it and thrilled that we'd sold all the tickets in record time. The only problem was that we still had a lot more work ahead of us.
As I contemplated how on earth I was going to pull off the event and moving, all while juggling everything else going on in my life, I started to panic. In the past, when big projects were piled on my plate, I'd simply pushed harder, gotten less sleep, and powered through. This time I knew I didn't have enough steam in my engine to do that. Just considering it was completely overwhelming me.
Finally, I sat down with my husband and tearfully told him, "I can't do this anymore. I'm overwhelmed. I'm exhausted. Help!"
I was expecting a big hug or words of sympathy. And if I'm totally honest, I wanted a pat on the back for a job well done, you know, for my Superwoman efforts. I didn't receive the response I'd hoped for, but I got something better. Unfortunately, I didn't appreciate it at the time.
My husband looked at me sympathetically and then uttered some of the wisest words he's ever said to me. "Crystal, you know that you are the one who is bringing most of this on yourself."
Despite the truth and wisdom in his words, they were the last ones I wanted to hear. His statement only made me more frustrated at how stuck I felt. Instead of taking the epiphany to heart, however, I wallowed in a woe-is-me rant in my head. I felt sorry for myself and continued to blame everyone except the cause of my problems—me.
ME—THE PROBLEM AND THE SOLUTION
I mulled over what my husband said later that evening. As much as I didn't want to admit it, I knew he was right. I didn't have to spend so many hours blogging. I didn't have to be on the event-planning team for the blogger event. I didn't have to say yes to every commitment and opportunity that came my way. Nobody and nothing was obligating me to do anything except me!
Finally, I had reached my tipping point. Relief washed over me, and I felt the weight of all the burdens I was shifting around release. I had more control over my life than I realized. I could stop the madness. I could eliminate the chaos. I could start setting boundaries. I could start saying no.
Yes, I was the problem. But I was also the solution.
In the days that followed, I made some drastic changes. I stepped down from the event-planning project. I said no to all business offers that came my way. I shut down almost all my social media channels. I stopped feeling obligated to other people. I started making sleep a priority. I hired more help with my business. I stopped trying to be Superwoman.
Sure, some people were disappointed in me—and weren't shy to voice their opinions—but I had never felt so at peace. I finally felt like I was living. Really living.
Within a month, my health had improved dramatically. In fact, the twice-a-month, high-fever sickness disappeared within six weeks and never came back again. Even in the craziness of moving, I felt calm, not frazzled or frantic.
You know what surprised me the most about my new stance? My relationship with my husband did a 180-degree turnaround. Truth be told, I had been so busy spinning my wheels that I hadn't realized how bad things had gotten in my marriage. No, we weren't fighting all the time, and no one was threatening to leave. However, as with many marriages where busyness takes center stage, our communication had diminished to a purely superficial level. How was your day, honey? Kathrynne drew a pretty picture today. That was a delicious dinner. Don't forget to pick up milk on your way home. You know, that sort of thing.
My marriage had completely lost its spark. My daily schedule was so packed that I was missing out on some of the most important things in life. Gone were the hours my husband and I had spent laughing and enjoying each other. Gone were the deep discussions about our dreams, goals, and desires. Gone were the simple but romantic times holding hands. Those precious moments had been replaced by work, deadlines, and conference calls. There was always business stuff to do, and in the process, my marriage and my family took a backseat.
My husband had been feeling neglected for months. He felt I was too busy for him. The only reason he didn't mention anything was because, well, I was too busy to listen.
Sadly, he was right.
During the previous two years of building my business, I'd forgotten how to breathe. I'd become a workaholic, and everyone except me seemed to know it was doing more harm than good.
AN IMPERFECT PROCESS
In the process of letting go, I admit, I've passed up a lot of great opportunities. But I'm okay with that. I've found God always provides the right projects at the right time that I can realistically manage and enjoy doing them.
Yes, there are moments when I want to dig out my Superwoman cape to impress others and hear them say how wonderful and accomplished I am. But when I remember how empty and exhausted it felt to try to do it all, I realize it's okay never to wear the cape again.
Now let me be clear: my life isn't perfect. There are times when I've gotten off-course and have temporarily taken too much upon myself. But when that happens, I have a trusted group of friends who help me get back on track. I've asked these people to keep me accountable for having margin and breathing room in my life and to call me out when they see me sliding down the slippery slope of heaping my plate too full. I also remind myself regularly how bad things were a few years ago, and that helps me to be quick to make changes lest things get out of hand again.
I'd rather do a few things well, have my priorities in order, and enjoy life than try to do two hundred things poorly and have a stressed-out, exhausted, passionless existence.
JUST SAY NO
Time doesn't expand limitlessly. When I say yes to one thing, I must say no to something else. For example, if I choose to make getting up early a priority, I have to say no to staying up late on a regular basis. It also means I have to routinely say no to worthwhile activities and events that would keep me out late. In order to say yes, I must learn to say no.
I don't like saying no. But if my struggles and health issues a few years ago taught me anything, it was this: If I want to live a productive, efficient, happy, peaceful, and disciplined life, I must learn to say no. And I must say it often.
If you want to stick with and accomplish your goals, you're going to have to get good at saying no. It's hard to do, especially if you're an overachiever like me. This is a foreign concept, I know. We are taught that we need to be "yes women." We worry what people will think of us if we don't attend everything we're invited to, respond to every call for volunteers, or be on every committee.
But how can we stress less, sleep more, and restore our passion for life while trying to balance a full set of spinning plates? We can't. Living with intention means saying no to the things that aren't important to us so we can say yes to what matters most. If you're used to saying yes to everything and everyone, making the change to choosing well is going to be a challenge in the beginning. But once you start doing it, the benefits you'll reap will be so worth it that I promise you'll begin to do it even more!
THE FOUR Cs TO CREATING MARGIN
Does any part of my story resonate with you? Can you relate to my breakdown? Or my unhealthy need to say yes to too many things? Do you feel like you're drowning? Merely surviving in life instead of thriving?
There are things you can do, starting today, that will help bring sanity, joy, and purpose back into your life. When you are stretched, frazzled, overwhelmed, and spent from following packed schedules, tackling never-ending to-do lists, and being pulled in every direction, you need margin. You need to eliminate certain things from your life that will give you breathing room.
I like how Dr. Richard Swenson describes margin in his book Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives. He writes, "Margin is the gap between rest and exhaustion, the space between breathing freely and suffocating."
Here are four ways to find that space. If you have an hour or so, treat each section below like an exercise to point you toward the margin you so desperately need. Plus, getting clarity now will be helpful as we move forward in this book. We'll keep hitting these themes.
Create a Personal Priorities List
Take thirty minutes, and sit down somewhere quiet. Use this time to craft a list of four to six personal priorities in the space provided or in your personal journal. You will use this list as a foundation to determine your schedule, responsibilities, and to-dos in the next chapter.
Ask yourself the following questions to figure out what you want to see on this list. What is most important to you? Family? Work? Health? Others? Where do you see yourself in twenty-five years? At the end of your life, what do you want to look back on and have accomplished? What's going to matter most to you?
Start writing down your ideas. As you do, you'll likely see patterns developing. Take note of these patterns to help you determine what really matters to you.
Remember, this is your personal priorities list, not someone else's list. Catch yourself every time you start to write things down based upon the opinions of others (e.g., "I should probably include being involved in the PTA because that's what the other moms would do.").
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Table of Contents
Introduction: Frazzled, Tired, and Behind? You're Not Alone ix
Chapter 1 Stop Trying to Do It All 1
Chapter 2 Say Yes to the Best 23
Chapter 3 If You Aim at Nothing, You'll Hit It Every Time 53
Chapter 4 Discipline Is Not a Bad Word 87
Chapter 5 Be Intentional with Your Bank Account 107
Chapter 6 Manage the Home Front 131
Chapter 7 When You Feel Like a Failure 157
Chapter 8 Yes, You Can Make a Difference 177
Chapter 9 Sometimes It Is About You 201
Chapter 10 Kick-Start Your Success 227
Recommended Resources 236
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I enjoyed the journey and appreciated much of the advice offered! I found a great deal of comradery in this book having read or been familiar with many of her referenced books/bloggers. It was like having conversations and getting advice from a group of lovely friends.
Tired of just surviving day to day life with little or nothing to show? Tired of marking off the same 10 items on your to do list only to feel like you should have accomplished 100 more? Say Goodbye to Survival Mode is the book for you. Ms. Paine provides practical direction in setting and maintaining priorities. In a world that is set to do more, have more, be more, we get lost in busyness and that busyness affects lives, marriages, childhoods and futures. A favorite quote from the book: “I’d rather do a few things well, have my priorities in order, and enjoy life than to try and do two hundred things poorly and have a stressed-out, exhausted, passionless existence.” (Loc164). That pretty much sums up the point of this book. The author uses great quotes from other experts like Stephen Covey, “You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage-pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say “no” to other things, and the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside, the enemy of the “best” is often the “good”. (Loc 164) Say Goodbye to Survival Mode is a great book for women of all ages. I enjoyed the book and would highly recommend it. I received this book from Netgalley and Thomas Nelson Books in exchange for my honest opinion which I’ve provided here.
This had some great pointerand was encouraging.
This book may not fix your life overnight, but it definitely provides a clear roadmap if you are stuck in the mud. I am a mom of two, I work part-time from home and help to manage my husband's business. My life if often hectic, but this book has motivated me to create a schedule and focus on the things that matter in my life. Thank you for this book, Crystal. It's a lifesaver!
This book is life changing! It took things I held as standard basic beliefs and turned them on their ear. The "try harder, do more" mentality was my norm. There was no room for mistakes, or obstacles or interruptions. The principle of margin she introduced makes perfect sense. Building wiggle room into your day relieves the pressure when something comes up. Being flexible when things happen is huge. She also talks about the principle of getting enough sleep. I have to admit I scoffed. My motto has always been "I'll sleep when I'm dead." Since reading how getting more sleep has improved her productivity and health and overall happiness, I had to give it a try and I am so glad I did. When I put things down and go to bed at a decent hour I have experienced the same results as Crystal. I am more clear headed. I am more productive. And I am happier! I can't recommend Saying Goodbye to Survival Mode strongly enough. Even if you don't think you're that bad off, maybe not quite to survival mode, but maybe slightly frazzled, YOU WILL BENEFIT from this book.
Seriously, even those moms (or dads, or anyone) who aren't type A and have an organizational personality should read this book. Crystal has packed some very useful and easy to implement tips and strategies in here that will help anyone. There are no one-size-fits all solutions in here. They are ALL customizable to your specific situation and family. That is what makes this book so different from others. If I could give this book more than 5 stars I would!
Say Yes to Saying Goodbye! Crystal Paine has a wealth of insight into what it is like to live in survival mode. Even better she has a proven strategy of how to change your life so you no longer have to live that way. By willing to be vulnerable and sharing the story of how she struggled, Crystal gives hope to every reader who takes the time to read this book and put it's recommendations into practice. When I was raising my children, this is the kind of book I needed to help me keep life in balance. if you are struggling with keeping all the plates spinning, Crystal's book will help ou understnad that you don't have to do it all. You can have space and peace and even some guilt-free mommy time. Crystal doesn't offer a one-size-fits-all philosophy on taking back your life. Rather, she provides principles as the framework and you have the opportunity to create a plan that will work for you and your family. I was privileged to have a received a pre-publication copy of this book. It's now on my must buy list for new moms, newlyweds, as well as several friends who I know are struggling in this area of their lives. Thank you Crystal for being willing to share what you've learned so others can Say Goodbye to Survival Mode!
Ditch Survival Mode and Live an Extraordinary Life! As a new mom, living in Survival Mode meant being late to everything, finding myself staying awake until 2 am on a regular basis; being too exhausted to enjoy my time with my son; letting exercise fall by the wayside; having to scramble last-minute to prepare every single meal; and accumulating boxes filled with unopened junk mail, random greeting cards and photos, recipes, receipts, and more. Fortunately, a few months before I learned of her new book, Crystal Paine had already revolutionized my life by introducing me to freezer cooking. Then one day I learned she was putting together a launch team to read and review “Say Goodbye to Survival Mode”, and I could apply to join the team. Needless to say, I wanted in! A few days later, I was thrilled to learn I’d been selected! Reading Crystal’s book is like having your own personal cheerleader! She is perhaps a more graceful version of my high school science teacher who would zip up to the front of the classroom to turn on a light bulb when we grasped a new concept, and enthusiastically declare “Far Out!” I’ve had several light bulbs turn on as I’ve read. Here are a few: - Stop Trying to Do it All. “Time doesn’t expand limitlessly. When I say yes to one thing, I must say no to something else. For example, if I choose to make getting up early a priority, I have to say no to staying up late on a regular basis.” - Say Yes to the Best. “Instead of beating myself up over what I can’t do, I’m learning to appreciate, focus on, and exercise those areas where I have natural abilities. And I have found much joy in being who God has created me to be, not in trying to be someone else.” - If You Aim at Nothing, You’ll Hit it Every Time. “We only have one life to live. In order to make the most of it and live intentionally and purposefully, we have to constantly reevaluate our lives.” - Manage the Home Front. “Keep it simple….When I have a pretty good system for [cooking, housekeeping, and clutter management], it frees me up to focus my time energy on more important things, like my best stuff list.” And my favorite… - A Life Changed. “I didn’t have any amazing gifts or talents. I was pretty much just an average girl who got average grades and lived an average American life. But I wanted something more. I didn’t want to be content with average. So I started reading voraciously. I set my alarm to get up early. I set goals and worked toward them. I began investing every day thinking of what would matter most at the end of my life. All of those little things added up to a life changed.” It’s been a long time since I’ve felt like I had something special to offer the world, or even my family for that matter. These words from Crystal helped me to realize that I don’t have to be born with a particular gift to live an extraordinary life. I just have to refuse to accept mediocrity, set goals, and invest one day at a time in what matters most, and my life WILL change! Yours will too. Note: I received a free .pdf version of this book in exchange for an honest review.
I really enjoyed reading this book I felt a relief to know that I am not the only one who feels like I am in Survival mode. I am applying the strategies in my life and already feel better! A must read for all busy moms.
I seriously cannot say enough good things about this book! It has changed my life and I've only just begun! There are SO many practical and useful techniques/strategies in this book. I guarantee that if you read her book and take to heart the things she is sharing and the strategies she outlines, your life will change for the better. I will be forever grateful to Crystal and her willingness to share so much of herself in this book. Thank you!
If someone said, “I have ‘9 Simple Strategies to Stress Less, Sleep More, and Restore Your Passion for Life’.” What might be your response? Mine would be something like “Sounds great! I really could use that!!”. However, my thoughts would be more along the line of “PROVE IT!” I was invited to be on the launch team for Crystal Paine’s new book Say Goodbye to Survival Mode: ‘9 Simple Strategies to Stress Less, Sleep More, and Restore Your Passion for Life’. Recognize her name? She’s from from MoneySavingMom! Since I have had some experience checking out her site and getting tips and freebies, I wasn’t as skeptical. :) Her site has already proven to be down-to-earth and practical! So I dove in... then Thanksgiving came and travel... sickness... Christmas with lots of travel and more sickness. My progress through the book was very choppy (because of all the above and more), but I’m so glad that I had the opportunity to read this book! Say Goodbye to Survival Mode is truly “real” - you hear Crystal’s heart through her experiences both the good and the bad. It is also easy to read and well written. However the best part is how practical it is, especially with the handy printables in the appendix!! Ladies, don’t just complain about how stressed and tired and burned out you feel! Grab some friends and go through this book together. You will be ENCOURAGED AND INSPIRED as you learn (or are reminded of) the different principles included! Also you and your family will be BLESSED as you put them into action!! I will be going through it again, but a little bit differently. I plan to read through it again using a “real book”. I love the convenience of ebooks and PDFs, but some books you just need them physically in your hands so you can mark them all up and flip back through them easier! I also will go through it slower but more focused. Because there is “9 Simple Strategies” with super practical steps, I want to make sure I take the time to actually apply what I’m reading. Disclosure: I also received a book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own.
This is a quick and helpful read for moms feeling burdened and overloaded with life's demands. Crystal has done it again with her endearing, heart-to-heart manner. She uses her own story to encourage you to take your life by the reins and regain control of the chaos. Using her easy to incorporate ideas, you will start creating breathing room in your life in a matter of days. Learning one of the first tips, saying no, has been such a help to me. Focusing on my gifts and abilities and learning to build on the things that really matter to me have been so inspiring. I will be buying this book as a gift for other moms in my life.
This book is an excellent way to get your life back into gear. It is clearly written with easy steps to follow. This is not one of those regimented books, instead it is a real world guide to reducing stress.
Reading Crystal's book was not only like being handed one big action plan for living a life of purpose and fulfillment, but it was a complete affirmation that I can be personally fulfilled as a stay-at-home mom because it's OK to work toward my own goals alongside being the best mother I can be. Say Goodbye to Survival Mode was extremely important to learn about how to move from surviving each day to goal setting, living healthfully, dreaming big and living with intention... And it was also vital for me to discover WHY leaving survival mode is so important. So if you're looking to start living with more purpose and fulfillment, I really highly recommend Say Goodbye to Survival Mode, and I think it will give you a renewed outlook on everyday life!
This book is perfect for moms who feel like they can barely keep up. But also, it's fantastic for moms that are mostly staying on top of things. This book is full of practical tips and ideas on how to streamline and do things that matter. I wouldn't call myself in "survival mode" and I still got a ton out of reading this book!! Highly recommend it! -Mom of Four Kids age 6 and Under!
Synopsis: Do you have too many things on your plate? Do you feel like you have to stay stressed out to survive? In this book, Crystal Paine teaches the stressed out and the tired how to live on purpose. She tells how to set goals and by doing so, to say no to the unimportant. In chapters on how to streamline your finances and your home, Crystal shows how living on purpose in those areas can set you free. My Thoughts: I loved this book. But in all fairness, I should say that I love everything that Crystal Paine writes. I found her blog, Money Saving Mom, several years ago when I was searching for deal blogs. I subscribed originally just to get all the good deals that she posts. But I stayed subscribed because I enjoy all the non-deal posts that she writes – posts centered on goal setting and living with intention. When I heard that she wrote a whole book about it, I got very excited. When I was asked to be on the book launch team (and get to read and review the book for free!), I got even more excited. So let’s get down to business and talk about this book. Say Goodbye to Survival Mode take the reader on a very hands-on, goal setting journey. The book takes you step by step down a logical process so that, hopefully, in the end, you have a new outlook on life, one that is less stressed and more intentional. Say Goodbye starts by saying what we all know, but none of us wants to admit – We can’t do it all. Going on from there, Crystal talks about setting reasonable goals, saying yes to only the best things that help us accomplish those goals and after that, learning to be disciplined. Chapters on managing your home and your finances are followed by encouragement to use our new found time and money to help others. Crystal writes in a friendly, easy to read way. She tells very personal stories of her journey from survival mode to thriving on life. With great, entertaining stories, Crystal drives home her points and ends each chapter with several “To Do” points for the reader, making the book a very practical and useful guide. While reading this on my Kindle, I liked the fact that I could “bookmark” each of these action points and go back on work on them later when I had the time. This is a very easy book to read, however, it’s not always easy to implement the things in the book. Saying No is hard. Being disciplined is hard. I have to admit, even though I have already read the whole book, I have only just begun working on the action points of each chapter. Overall, Say Goodbye to Survival Mode is a beautifully written, very useful, very relevant book. I highly recommend it for busy people and everyone who feels like they are just surviving instead of thriving. I was given a complementary Kindle version of this book in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.
I really loved this book. Crystal is a great writer and speaks to us everyday moms like she is just another one of our girlfriends. This book is a great inspiration to get yourself whipped into shape when it comes to running your household efficiently and effectively!
Crystal writes so practically and conversationally that I almost feel like she is encouraging me from across the table at a coffee shop! Her tips are practical, doable, and something I can relate to. I appreciate the honesty she has in sharing her own life challenges, and yet she balances her personal experience with practical tips to help us (the readers) get out of survival mode quickly. Crystal's wisdom, practical approach, and courage to share have changed this season of my life. I am 30 weeks pregnant and have a 21 month old. I am a child of God, wife, and mom. I work full-time to help provide for our family. I aspire to start my own blog and business. Since reading this book, I have been able to create a routine which has allowed me to keep our home more clean and organized than it has ever been; set aside chunks of time to give undivided attention to my relationships with the Lord, my husband, and our daughter; make progress on our larger goal of de-cluttering every room by the end of 2014; and gain knowledge regarding starting my own business. This book is a life changer for anyone who is serious about getting out of survival mode. It takes commitment and some planning, but the time and effort are so worth it because life feels doable and even enjoyable after applying what is presented in this book. I highly recommend this!
This is a manual for all women who woke up this morning in what felt like a fog. This is for the all women who feel like they have bricks attached to each leg as they step through the day. This is for all the women who look back on their day when it is done and say what exactly did I get done. This is for all women who just cannot seem to say no. Most importantly this is for all the women who no longer want to live that way. This is for all the women who want out from under the laundry pile so they can start living each day with intention and purpose and passion.
This book was incredible. Reading it is like sitting down with your good friend. Crystal shares her story of surviving, the mistakes she made, and how she came to the place in her life where she is thriving. She shares the wisdom and steps we can take to get our lives to the same place, but gives you the freedom do change things up. You don't have to do things exactly her way to get there. As you read the book, you don't feel judged or preached at. Instead, you feel loved and encouraged. motivated and empowered. I needed to hear that it’s okay to do even less and simplify even more than what I’m already doing. I needed the freedom to not feel guilt over those decisions. This book did that. I have a hard time parting with my money and I have already purchased this book - it was that good. I'm going to re-read it and then pass it on to my husband, sisters, and mom. So many truths for those that feel like they always have to be doing more to be productive.