When you’re living with a loved one who is suffering from Alzheimer’s disease you must be able to survive one emotional upheaval after another. What is most important during this difficult time is that you not only survive the physical demands placed on you as the primary caregiver, but that you learn to cope effectively with the emotional turmoil and preserve the quality of your own life in the process. Caregivers have been known to put their own lives on hold and become entirely devoted to caregivingmaking this difficult role even harder, and often compromising their own health. This needn’t happen.
The caregivers you will meet in this book, with whom you have much in common, have learned how to deal with the frustration, anger, and grief that come naturally to any person in this role. Through their poignant stories and personal experiences you will find the strength that you need to care for your loved one while remaining emotionally committed as the mutuality of your partnership fades. Loving and nurturing while letting go is the paradox of Alzheimer’s caregiving.
You can learn from the caregivers in this book what you need to do to create a satisfying life that meshes with your role as caregiver. You will ultimately be able to make the right decisions and minimize the chaos that can overwhelm you. Within are the tools you need to manage the stressors of your changing and challenging world.
|Publisher:||M. Evans & Company|
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About the Author
Sandy Braff, M.F.T. is a licensed individual, marriage, and family therapist in private practice in San Diego. Since 1989, she has facilitated a weekly Alzheimer’s Caregiver’s Support Group for the San Diego Alzheimer’s Association.
Mary Rose Olenik participated in an N.I.H. grant studying the effects of stress on the immune system of Alzheimer’s caregivers while a Staff Research Associate in the Department of Psychiatry at University of California, San Diego. She lives in New Hampshire.
Table of Contents
Part I: The Beginning Stage
1. First Encounters
2. If Only I Could Be Wrong: Tentative Diagnosis
3. What Now? Reactions to the Diagnosis
4. Reaching In and Reaching Out: Adaptation
5. Rallying the Troops: Family Reactions
6. The Shell Without the Pearl: Transcending Loss
Part II: The Middle Stage
7. Coming to Terms
8. Confronting the Demons: Your Emotional Reactions to the Middle Stage
9. Tears of Laughter: The Importance of Humor
10. The Mars and Venus of Adapting to Change: Gender Difference
11. The Lonely Bed: Adapting to Profound Loss of Intimacy
12. Harvesting Your Communal Garden: Preventing Burnout
13. I Think I Can, I Think I Can, I Know I Can: Resiliency
Part III: The Late Middle Stage
14. The Long Good-bye
15. I'm Beat and I'm Scared: Caregiving IntensifiesResource Options
16. When Alone Equals Lonely: Loneliness and Companionship
Part IV: The Final Stage and Beyond
17. Nearing the Journey's End: Final Stages of Alzheimer's
18. The Relief of Planning Ahead: Advance Directives
19. Another Paradox: Anticipatory Grief and Mourning
20. At Peace, My Love: Death of a Spouse
21. Cleaning Out the Closets: The Process of the Closure
22. Honoring Your Tomorrows: Reentry Post Caregiving