Take Good Care: Finding Your Joy in Compassionate Caregiving

Take Good Care: Finding Your Joy in Compassionate Caregiving

by Cynthia Orange


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During the coronavirus pandemic, many of us are caring for others, both professionally and personally – while also attending to our own health and well-being. This book helps those who care for others navigate the subtle but important difference between caretaking and caregiving.

In a time when tens of millions of people provide care for family members, older adults, and people with special needs, we should all be experts at it. Instead, we often struggle with caring for others while taking care of ourselves.

"Cynthia Orange’s newest award-winning gem is a rare combination of inspiration and information that invites us to examine our behavior and feelings with an open heart, free from judgment, as we care for others and ourselves. Take Good Care offers valuable care suggestions throughout—from how to navigate difficult conversations to what contact numbers to post on the refrigerator." —Lisa Sue Woititz, author of Unwelcome Inheritance: Break Your Family’s Cycle of Addictive Behaviors

In Take Good Care, author Cynthia Orange brings together compelling testimonies from a wide range of caregivers, advice from leading experts in the field, and her own hard-won wisdom to capture the subtle differences between caretaking and caregiving. With a foreword by Susan Allen Toth, the critically acclaimed author of No Saints around Here: A Caregiver’s Days, this book shows us how and why caring for each other can be a mutually rewarding experience.

It’s easy to become overinvolved in another person’s life and needs when giving care. Feeling burdened with expectations and resentments in a codependent relationship hinders a sense of joy, purpose, and engagement. Relationships require empathy and boundaries; with them, a codependent caretaker can transform into an intentional, self-aware, and compassionate caregiver.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781616496739
Publisher: Hazelden Publishing
Publication date: 03/07/2017
Pages: 250
Sales rank: 807,149
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Cynthia Orange is the author of two Nautilus Award-winning books: Shock Waves: A Practical Guide to Living with a Loved One’s PTSD and her newest title Take Good Care. The facilitator of a caregivers' support group, Cynthia—along with her husband, a Vietnam combat veteran—often speaks to audiences about the effects of trauma. Her work has been published throughout the United States, and she has written hundreds of articles about addiction, recovery, parenting, post-traumatic stress disorder, and caregiving

Table of Contents

Foreword: Opening the Door xi

Prologue xv

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 A Closer Look at Caretaking 13

Chapter 2 Family and Cultural Messages and Expectations about Caregiving 31

Chapter 3 Balance and Boundaries 55

Chapter 4 The Circle of Care 73

Chapter 5 Cultivating Compassion 91

Chapter 6 Joys, Challenges, and the Importance of Caring for Ourselves as We Care for Others 113

Chapter 7 When "Lightning" Strikes: Preparing for the Unexpected 141

Chapter 8 When "Lightning" Strikes: The Special Challenge of Brain Disorders and Dealing with Anticipatory Loss 167

Chapter 9 Raising Compassionate Children and Paying It Forward 189

Epilogue 205

Acknowledgments 207

Appendix A Questionnaire for Those Who Give Care 209

Appendix B Questionnaire for Past or Present Care Receivers 212

Appendix C Some Common Characteristics of Caretakers and Caregivers 215

Appendix D Circle of Care 217

Appendix E Obstacles to Self-Care: A Brief Review 218

Appendix F Get Out of "Jail" Free Cards 220

Appendix G Compassionate Caregiver's Contract 221

Appendix H In Case of Emergency (ICE) Card 222

Resources 223

Notes 229

About the Author 235

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