In this practical book, anger experts Drs. Les Carter and FrankMinirth–coauthors of the bestselling The AngerWorkbook–show families how the "blame game" (parentsblame the kids and kids blame the parents) doesn’t work.Instead they provide insight for dealing with the root causes ofanger. In a perfect blend of biblical wisdom and psychologicalresearch, they show readers how to understand what can be rightabout anger, distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger,recognize how anger can be managed more successfully by controllingdesires and insecurities and addressing other underlying issues,and much more. Filled with real-life examples, checklists,evaluation tools, and study questions, this valuable resource forany parent with a preteen or teenager will help parents understandand manage their children’s anger–as well as theirown–and show how to create harmony at home.
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About the Author
Dr. Les Carter is a nationally known psychotherapist at the MinirthClinic in Richardson, Texas, where he has practiced since 1980. Hehas authored or coauthored seventeen books including The Anger Trapfrom Jossey-Bass. Dr. Frank Minirth is president of the Minirth Clinic, which hefounded in 1975. The author or coauthor of more than fifty books,he is featured on "Life Perspectives" with Don Hawkins, a nationalprogram currently on fifty-five stations, and on "American FamilyRadio," currently on two hundred radio stations in America.
Table of Contents
Preface and Acknowledgments.
Twelve Steps Toward Anger Management for Parents.
1. The Purpose of Anger.
Step 1: Learn to identify what is behind the expression ofanger, and make that a primary focus.
2. How Anger Is Mismanaged.
Step 2: Be aware of the ways you may choose to handle angerpoorly, so you can be specific in your efforts to improve.
3. Healthy Ways to Manage Anger.
Step 3: When you have a responsible message to communicate, doso in a way that upholds the dignity of the others involved.
4. Breaking Your Cycles of Dependency.
Step 4: Have a strong sense of purpose as a parent in order torespond to anger-producing circumstances as an initiator, not areactor.
5. Dropping Excessive Control.
Step 5: Realize that the best way to be in control is todiminish control tactics, speaking instead about choices.
6. The Struggle for Superiority.
Step 6: Refuse to lord over your child, but speak instead as onewho believes in the equal worth of each family member.
7. Anger as an Ego Trip.
Step 7: Let humility be your guide as you demonstrate to yourchildren that selfishness has no place in successful angermanagement.
8. Dropping Defenses.
Step 8: Don’t be threatened by an adversarial response,but be confident in your own response.
9. Establishing Boundaries.
Step 9: Respect the fact that each family member is responsiblefor his or her choices.
10. Myths That Perpetuate Anger.
Step 10: Identify the false assumptions that feed youranger,and let truth guide your decisions in discipline.
11. Displaced Anger.
Step 11: Identify your own outside stressors that create anger,and choose to address them separately, as opposed to bringing theminto parental communication.
12. The Overcomer’s Mind-Set.
Step 12: Set aside an attitude of defeat, and recognize that ineach situation you can choose to be an overcomer.
Anger, Teenagers, and Medication.
What People are Saying About This
"Parents will recognize themselves in this book. 'That's me, beenthere, and said that.' In easily implemented steps, the authorsprovide insightful, practical suggestions for changing the angerfactor in family interactions."—Dr. Garry L. Landreth, Regents professor and director,Center for Play Therapy, University of North Texas
"Les Carter and Frank Minirth give you all you need to knowabout how to use this dicey emotion to your advantage so that youbecome the parent you want to be. As a parent of two boys, I foundthis resource invaluable and I know you will too."—Les Parrott, Ph.D., author, High-MaintenanceRelationships