A practical guide to understanding teens from bestselling author and global youth advocate Josh Shipp.
In 2015, Harvard researchers found that every child who does well in the face of adversity has had at least one stable and committed relationship with a supportive adult. But Josh Shipp didn’t need Harvard to know that. Once an at-risk foster kid, he was headed straight for trouble until he met the man who changed his life: Rodney, the foster parent who refused to quit on Shipp and got him to believe in himself.
Now, in The Grown-Up’s Guide to Teenage Humans, Shipp shows all of us how to be that caring adult in a teenager’s life. Stressing the need for compassion, trust, and encouragement, he breaks down the phases of a teenage human from sixth to twelfth grade, examining the changes, goals, and mentality of teenagers at each stage.
Shipp offers revelatory stories that take us inside the teen brain, and shares wisdom from top professionals and the most expert grown-ups. He also includes practice scripts that address tough issues, including:
- FORGIVENESS: What do I do when a teen has been really hurt by someone and it’s not their fault?
- COMMUNICATION: How do I get a teen to talk to me? They just grunt.
- TRUST: My teen blew it. My trust is gone. Where do we go from here?
- BULLYING: Help! A teen (or their friend) is being harassed.
- DIFFICULT AND AWKWARD CONVERSATIONS: Drugs. Death. Sex. Oh my.
Written in Shipp’s playfully authoritative, no-nonsense voice, The Grown-Up’s Guide to Teenage Humans tells his story and unpacks practical strategies that can make a difference. Ultimately, it's not about shortcuts or magic words—as Shipp reminds us, it’s about investing in kids and giving them the love, time, and support they need to thrive.
And that means every kid is one caring adult away from being a success story.
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About the Author
Table of Contents
Author's Note xv
Introduction: Every Kid Needs a "Rodney" xvii
Part 1 The Three Key Mindsets
Mindset #1 Teens Need You More Than It Seems 3
Mindset #2 The Game Has Changed and So Must You 17
Mindset #3 You'll Want and Need Help 39
Part 2 The Phases of a Teenage Human
Ages 11-12 The "Who Likes Me?" Phase 69
Ages 12-14 The "Who Am I?" Phase 73
Ages 14-15 The "Where Do I Belong?" Phase 77
Ages 15-16 The "Why Can't I?" Phase 81
Ages 16-17 The "How Can I Matter?" Phase 85
Ages 17-18 The "What Will I Do?" Phase 89
Part 3 Troubleshooting Common Teenage Challenges
Relationship and Communication Challenges 95
Getting Them to Take Ownership and Apologize 99
What to Do When They Blow Your Trust 109
Setting Up Clearly Written House Rules 115
How to Improve Communication with Your Teen 125
Difficult and Awkward Conversations 131
How to Talk to Your Teen About Sex 135
How to Talk to Your Teen About Death 143
How to Convince Your Teen to Get Help 147
Dangerous or Concerning Behavior 155
Seven Warning Signs Every Parent Must Know 159
I'm Worried My Teen Has an Eating Disorder 161
I'm Worried My Teen is Acting Out in Anger 167
I'm Worried My Teen is Using Drugs 177
I'm Worried My Teen Is Sexting 187
I'm Worried My Teen Is Cutting 193
I'm Worried My Teen Is Stressed Out 197
Teens and Tech Headaches 203
Healthy Boundaries Around Screen Time 207
Helping Them Think About What They Post Online 213
Helping Them Understand the Harmful Effects of Pornography 219
Helping Them Deal with Cyberbullies 227
School and Education Challenges 235
How to Think About School and Education 241
How to Help Your Teen Succeed in the New Economy 251
How to Respond to a Bad or an Unfair Teacher 257
Helping Them Deal with Bullies 267
In Closing: Your Voice Mattes More Than You Know 275
Resources from Josh
The Seven Things Every Teen Needs to Hear 279
Twenty-One Ways to Ask Your Teen "How Was School Today?" Without Asking Them "How Was School Today?" 281
Forty-Two Ways to Connect with Your Teen 283
The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You (Yet) 287
Teen Cell Phone Contract 289
Work With Josh 293