The New Normal: Coming Out as Transgender in Midlife

The New Normal: Coming Out as Transgender in Midlife

by Jennifer M. Booker

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Overview

What is it like to come out to yourself as transgender at nearly age fifty? The New Normal describes my journey through coming out, hormone therapy, gender confirmation surgery, and getting legally recognized as a woman. Thanks to my academic background, this book is not just written for transgender people and their loved ones, but also for students of gender studies, social sciences, and medical professionals.

Dr. Jennifer Booker earned degrees in aerospace (BS), mechanical (MS), and biomedical engineering (PhD). She was a systems engineer for the defense and aviation industries, then taught computing for 20 years. She has pursued additional studies in psychology, feminist theory, and nursing. Her hobbies include soccer, pole dancing, figure skating, and dismantling the patriarchy.

“Jennifer’s candor vividly tells her story in such a captivating way. It is entirely infectious. This book takes the reader on a gripping journey. It is informative, smart and thoroughly eye-opening.” - Bernadette Pleasant, Creator of Femme!

“Dr. Jennifer Booker is one of the most courageous women I know. She has generously shared her comprehensive knowledge and experience in all aspects of transitioning.” - Susana Mayer, PhD, Founder and Host of the Erotic Literary Salon

“Jennifer Booker tells a story that is brilliantly evocative in its colorful narrative of the pedestrian aspects of everyday life. I found this presentation humanizing and compelling. With curiosity and humor, she moves us away from the often salacious portrait of transwomen presented by the media to a practical one. She’s gifted us with both a memoir of a whole human with a rich life and a helpful guide for trans folks considering transitioning or allies wanting to learn what to (and not to do) to support a transgender loved one.” - Jill McDevitt, PhD, Sexologist and Sexuality Educator for Adults

“A straightforward, unflinching story of one person’s gender transition that demystifies the process from beginning to end. The factual and academic information coupled with the personal journey reveals the complex road and basket of complicated decisions a transgender person must face.” - Monica Anna Day

"Dr. Jennifer Booker’s captivating autobiographical account of her transformation is both earnest and informative, and at times heartbreaking. The word chutzpah was made for women like her. She chronicles how her early experiences with sexuality and disability shaped her journey, and weaves together a complex narrative of the intersectionality of these experiences that help us to understand the social construction of femininity. The resulting manuscript is appropriate for diverse audiences, people considering GCS, and people trying to understand the transgender experience, be they members of the LGBTQIA+ community, medical professionals, scholars of gender, disability and queer studies, as well as, the curious public striving to understand social change." - Jennifer Rode, Ph.D, University College London

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781916087507
Publisher: Jennifer Booker
Publication date: 04/25/2019
Pages: 432
Sales rank: 840,991
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.88(d)

Table of Contents

Praise for The New Normal

Trigger Warnings and Disclaimers

Outline

Instructor Guidance

Foreword

Acknowledgements

Chapter 1 – My Foundation - Childhood

Broken from the start

Growing up cripple

Hospitals and consent

Constantly moving

Bicycling

Trivia and praise for intellect

Follow the rules

Religion

Flying

The Dark Side - Randy

The Dark Side – Mr. D

The Dark Side - End it?

Music

Games

Social life? No comprende

Employment

Sex and Body Issues

Gender Roles

Lots of Good

Reflection

Chapter 2 – Adulting

Career Arc

Religion

Sex as a Young Adult

Freedom to study weird stuff

Follow the rules

Fashion curious

The Dark Side - Descent into hell

Signs of rebellion

The Dark Side - Escape

Reflection

Chapter 3 – Breaking Free and Searching for Answers

Setting up new life

Ongoing education

The Dark Side – food challenges

Song of the Sacred Whore

The Essensual Experience

5Rhythms

Private coaching

The Salon

Mark Groups

Four Agreements

Reflection

Chapter 4 – Hello Jennifer!

Michele

Immediate aftermath of coming out

Where do I go?

Going public and ‘passing’

Fetish

Clothing – first impressions

Men’s versus Women’s clothing

Pockets and Purses

Toiletries!

Vagina Monologues

Vulnerability

Reflection

Chapter 5 – Hormones are Fun!

The Drugs

Zing!

Slow Boobs

Body Hair Bye-bye

More Emotional *cries*

Voice Change

Weakness

Sex Drive

Reflection

Chapter 6 – Coming Out

Is it safe to come out?

To pass or what?

Friends

Family

Work

Reflection

Chapter 7 – Gender Confirmation

Research

Legal and Social Preparations

Advice

Cost of GCS

Getting Therapist Letters

Biopsychosocial?

Medical Preparation

Surgery and Immediate Aftermath

Recovery – the First Week

Peeing

Good hygiene isn’t optional

Healing timeline after surgery

Recovery beyond two months

Reflection

Chapter 8 – Name Change

Doctor’s Letter

Choosing My Name

Court Ordered Name Change

Birth Certificate

Social Security Card

Driver’s License

Passport

All the other stuff

Reflection

Chapter 9 – Social and Sexual Transition

Clothing – after coming out

Makeup Basics

Time Management

Street Harassment

Ages 5 and 15 and adult

Dating

Family Relations

Sexuality

Reflection

Chapter 10 – The Future

More transition?

Challenging physical limits

Rocky Horror Picture Show

Skydiving

Performing

Sex work

Long term self-care

Clothing evolution

Mama Gena

Legal and career impact

My ERA

More acceptance?

Closing

Reflection

Appendix A: Terminology

Appendix B: References

Appendix C: 12 Minutes

Appendix D: Coming out letter to my family

Appendix E: Coming out rebuttals

Appendix F: Drugs and Foods to Avoid Pre-surgery

Appendix G: The Federalist letter

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