This book won't help you with self-defeating behavior. It's easier to spend your life procrastinating, sabotaging relationships, not finishing tasks, fearing failure and keeping other bad habits than it is to change. Just stay the way you are.
This is how the voice of self-defeating behavior works on you. It works against your goals and interests in a way that you never get what you want. Opportunities are missed, your habits continue, your relationships don't flourish, and your life becomes one big regret.
Inside "The Problem is YOU: How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Conquer Self-Defeating Behavior" we reveal exactly what these behaviors are and the steps to conquer each and every one of them. The result? A positive attitude, achieving what you want, and getting more out of life.
Get this book today and free yourself from all the habits that are holding you back from living the life you truly deserve.
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Most Helpful Customer Reviews
The self-help book The Problem is You by John Burke will have readers declaring, “Finally, someone who knows what I’m going through.” As an analytical work, Burke’s descriptions of self-deprecation and self-defeating behavioral patterns are on target, identifying self-sabotaging emotions that keep a person from experiencing fulfillment. Although, Burke’s book is astute at targeting problem areas in one’s coping mechanisms when dealing with failure, the suggestions he offers to combat negative behavioral patterns are general and stereotypical of “pep talks” that are often ineffectual in helping people to change their perception from being a negative one to becoming a positive one. Sometimes it’s merely being able to identify a problem that enables a solution to present itself. Burke’s descriptions are very perceptive about identifying problem areas such as developing food or drug addictions, alcoholism or chronic procrastination stemmed from falling short of expectations. Burke explains that when outcomes don’t happen the way one thought it would, feelings of fatigue, defeat, and frustration arise. Oftentimes, the individual might blame other people for failing to achieve the results that one felt he/she deserved. Not meaning to negate Burke’s assertion but sometimes other people do hold back those who deserve the outcome they strove for and are denied. Each case is individual. Burke suggests that changing one’s strategy, ignoring the noises of self-blame, focusing on the task, and making definite steps to achieve a goal are positive reinforcements needed to free people who feel like victims and enable them to regain control of their lives. These are textbook suggestions, which sometimes lead one back to the same routine of feeling defeated and downtrodden. One perception which Burke highlights is made by author Catherine Ponder who claims, “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel.” Burke recommends that the link needs to be dissolved in order to break free of it, and advises forgiveness to remedy the perception. Burke went for an immediate solution rather than the evolved one of understanding what spurred the slight that caused the resentment. Burke suggests absolution for wounds that may not be easily absolved. Burke’s self-help book is perceptive about identifying problem areas in one’s behavioral patterns, but provides general textbook solutions. The book will have people thinking somebody understands what they are going through, but it becomes clear that individuals need to discover their own path to break self-sabotaging patterns.
I received this book in exchange for an honest review. This is a very short book. I thought there must have been a mistake made. It was only 36 pages. It reads more like a lecture than any self-help book I have read. Chapter 4 is good. There are some solutions and techniques to help you. All in all, it was a helpful book. I think it would have been more helpful with actual examples.