“Once upon a time I was perfectly happy—complacent even. But then my world came crashing down and I was suddenly a single mum of two small children, losing sleep over how to pay the bills. The things I learned allowed me to retain my sanity, self-esteem, and sense of humour and to help my children get through the experience. I discovered how to release the traumatic experiences and emotions that were holding me back and find more fun, fulfillment, and balance in my life (not to mention my lovely husband!)”
You can build a happy new life!
Are you a stressed-out single mum, juggling childcare, work and home—and struggling to cope with all the emotional and practical demands on you?
You’re not alone! The Single Mum’s Survival Guide is packed with words of inspiration, comfort, wisdom and experience from a host of real-life single mums and expert professionals to make life easier, help you on your way, and put your mind at rest with answers to questions such as:
- How do I tell the kids?
- How do I get over this split and move on?
- Why is my child behaving like this and what should I do about it?
- How will I feel when my kids meet his new girlfriend?
- How do I deal with all the legal stuff?
- How can I manage on this little money?
- How can I have more energy when I’m so tired all the time?
- Is it OK to ask for help—and who can I ask?
- Can I ever forgive my ex?
- Can I really be single and happy?
- When is it time to start dating again—and how will I know if he’s Mr. Right?
|Publisher:||Morgan James Publishing|
|Product dimensions:||5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.60(d)|
About the Author
Vivienne Smith is a writer, trainer, presenter, transformational coach, and certified n e uro-linguistic programmin g (NLP) and hypnosis practitioner. She is also a Regional Director of the Athena Group, an international networking, training and development business community for female executives and entrepreneurs. Her experience as a single mum prompted Vivienne to write a book about the subject. It has been the fulfilment of a long term ambition to turn what was at the time a negative and distressing experience into an opportunity to help others get through similar challenges. Now happily remarried, she lives with her husband and two sons in beautiful West Sussex, on the south coast of England.
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Jennifer, Kayleigh and Andrea were all lucky to have the support and care of family in their hour of need. If at all possible, I would recommend that you enlist the help of a loving family member or even best friend. It’s not a good time to be alone in the early days and the presence of someone who cares about you can be immensely reassuring, both for you and the children. If there’s no one round the corner that can come and keep you company for at least some of the time, make sure you keep in regular telephone touch with your loved ones-an evening telephone call to check in with someone who cares can feel like a lifeline at the moment. It is also a good idea to inform your healthcare provider. I know in my case that my doctor was extremely sympathetic and immediately put me under the care of a counsellor, to help me come to terms with my loss and cope with the bleak aftermath of my husband’s departure. Your doctor may also prescribe sleeping pills or anti-depressants (happy pills, as Andrea calls them) and of course your doctor is the most qualified person to judge your individual situation but my advice is to proceed with extreme caution here, so that you are not faced with a tricky withdrawal process further down the line. It is certainly worth investigating some of the natural remedies as well, which do not have harmful side effects or addictive qualities.
Table of Contents
Dealing With The Break-Up Whether It’s Your Decision Or His
Telling the Kids
Divorce and Separation
Mistakes to Avoid, Dos and Don’ts
Keeping Your Head Above Water
Co-parenting After Divorce
Dealing With Friends and Family
Recreating the Old Relationships to Suit Your New Life
Staying Fit and Healthy and Keeping Your Energy Levels High
Creating Happy Memories That Your Family Will Treasure
Building Your Support Network
Ongoing Support For the Children
Dealing With Their Grief and Their Behaviour When They “Act Out”
What They Are Going Through
Rules and Values
School Plays and Holidays
Time For You
Creating a Sanctuary
Recharging Your Batteries
Making the Most of Time When Your Ex Has the Kids
Working as a Single Mother
Finding Child Care
Learning New Skills To Help You Manage the House
The Power of the Mums’ Network
Asking For Help
The Forgiveness Process
Dating Again – Dos and Don’ts
How to Decide if He’s Right?
Creating the Perfect Partner List
Features of a Successful Relationship
Dealing With the Challenges of Blended Families
Successfully Stepping From Being a Single Mum to Creating a Blended Family With a New Partner
Being Contentedly Single
Celebrating Your Achievements
Happy Ever After?
About the Author
Resources: Help and Advice for Single Mothers