Too Much and Not Enough: Healing for the Enneagram Four or Borderline-Style Personality

by Tamra Sattler

Overview

'...a unique and powerful lens for understanding BPD traits...'Debbie DeMarco Bennett BSc., MA in progress, founder of HealingFromBPD.com

Too Much and Not Enough is a therapeutic memoir and an explorative narrative about a particular type of personality structure known as Enneagram 4 and its borderline characteristics and emotional dis-regulation. This population has been known to be difficult for therapists to treat and families to tolerate and, most importantly, to accept and embody. Often asked to consult and work with these clients, Dr. Sattler knows this personality from the inside.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781803415499
Publisher:	Collective Ink
Publication date:	06/01/2024
Pages:	80
Product dimensions:	5.45(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.40(d)

About the Author

Tamra Sattler, PhD, MFT is a therapist, professor, dog mom, change agent, and entrepreneur who loves to serve in the cultivating of the deepest Self and all the layers of conditioning. She lives in Boulder, CO.

Editorial Reviews

Tamra Sattler's 'Too Much and Not Enough' is a beautiful book about a very particular personality type, the Enneagram 4 or Borderline-style personality. But since Fours experience themselves and life more deeply than others, It is actually a soulful journey into humanity's own plump, loving, tragic, and broken heart. Using emotion-driven personal narrative and scholarly research, Sattler reveals the ecstasy and agony that Fours experience practically daily. In a sense, the Four longs for it all... now! Love, God, sorrow, joy, and every bittersweet feeling in between. Sattler doesn't stop at describing the Four, however. She also presents a path forward so that her readers might find more ease and belonging in a world that doesn't always see them as the gift to humanity that they are. If you are a Four or you have a Four in your life, this book is a must read.

Brad Wetzler

As a long-time sufferer of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), who broke free from the cage and experienced the healing that Dr. Sattler describes, this book felt like a reflection from the first page. Her East-West balanced approach to topics that affect intensely feeling people is insightful and groundbreaking, including her emphasis on the need for a strong sense of self. 'Identity Disturbance' is a trait that troubles many people with BPD (it was the symptom that led to my diagnosis). In this book, Dr. Sattler shines a light on the dialectic that a lack of identity can be challenging in a Western context. However, it can also be a catalyst for deeply discovering our interconnectedness, healthy interdependence with others and, ultimately, our true Self. As a graduate student in Consciousness and Human Potential, Dr. Sattler's description of the Enneagram as a tool for self-discovery, a unique and powerful lens for understanding BPD traits, and guidance for those who feel intensely, is particularly appealing. Anyone interested in these topics will enjoy this book!

Debbie DeMarco Bennett (aka Debbie Corso)

Tamra Satler's book Too Much and Not Enough: Healing for the Enneagram Four or Borderline-Style Personality offers a rare look into the inner workings of borderline features, which can appear in any of the nine Enneagram points, and the characteristic worldview of point Four. Tamra takes us along her journey of understanding and recovering from the destructive elements of these two psychological tendencies while also sharing her discovery of the many beautiful and beneficial aspects of these orientations. Beyond this, Tamra provides numerous examples of clients working through their particular borderline issues, as well as tools for growth and transformation—both psychological and spiritual. This book will provide not only hope and inspiration for anyone suffering from these personality features but also insight and suggestions for those of us living and working with such individuals. This is a courageous and powerful offering.

Russ Hudson