| Acknowledgments | xiii |
| Preface | xv |
| The anatomy lesson: changing a diaper | 1 |
| I want to be alone: the need for solitude | 4 |
| The long and the short: the "real" quality time | 7 |
| Baby talk: speaking to your infant | 10 |
| Safe at home: keeping your baby safe | 13 |
| Thumbs up: pacifiers and thumb-sucking | 17 |
| K.i.s.s.: choosing toys | 21 |
| Just (don't) say no: empathy | 24 |
| You're only a baby once: developmental milestones | 27 |
| Hickory, dickory, dock: predictability and routine | 30 |
| It's all relative: coparenting | 35 |
| Unplugged: television and videos | 39 |
| Do as i do: setting an example | 41 |
| More k.i.s.s.es: creating a soothing environment | 43 |
| Brain aerobics: offering choices | 45 |
| Food fight: feeding your baby | 50 |
| Being there: slowing down and doing less | 54 |
| Body language: active teaching | 60 |
| Be a believer: having faith in your child | 64 |
| Baby steps: following cues | 69 |
| The apple and the tree: respecting your child's choices | 73 |
| Walking the walk: learning to walk | 77 |
| Octopus mom: setting priorities and simplifying your life | 81 |
| In loco parentis: finding a caregiver | 85 |
| If it ain't broke, don't fix it: baby gear | 92 |
| Mind over manners: etiquette | 96 |
| It's my party and I'll cry if i want to: temper tantrums | 101 |
| Ashes, ashes: telling the truth | 105 |
| Seen and not heard: learning to listen | 108 |
| Mirror, mirror on the wall: seeing, not judging | 114 |
| The committee of sleep: getting your baby to bed | 117 |
| Take my wife, please!: sharing | 123 |
| Thought for food: focusing on food | 128 |
| Days of whine and roses: whining | 133 |
| Potty on!: learning to use the toilet | 136 |
| The color of water: recognition versus praise | 142 |
| Crime and punishment: discipline | 145 |
| Sticks and stones: teasing | 150 |
| Carpe diem: flexibility and cooperation | 154 |
| Playing for keeps: the benefits of free play | 158 |
| Sound and fury: spanking | 163 |
| Keeping the peace: siblings | 168 |
| The real stuff: tv, computers, and books | 174 |
| Footprints: the search for identity | 182 |