Two Is Enough: A Couple's Guide to Living Childless by Choice

Two Is Enough: A Couple's Guide to Living Childless by Choice

by Laura S. Scott


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Two Is Enough: A Couple's Guide to Living Childless by Choice by Laura S. Scott

Fall in love. Get married. Have children. For most couples, marriage and children go hand in hand. And yet, the number of people choosing childlessness is on the rise. These are the childless by choice—people who have actively decided not to have children—rather than the childless by circumstance. In Two Is Enough, Laura S. Scott explores the assumptions surrounding childrearing, and explores the reasons many people are choosing to forgo this experience. Scott, founder of the Childless by Choice Project, examines the personal stories of people who have faced this decision and explores the growing trend of childlessness. Scott’s expert knowledge and analysis offer a picture of the childless by choice—who they are, why they’ve chosen to remain childless, and how they’ve had these conversations with loved ones. Honest and unapologetic, Two Is Enough recognizes the challenges of being childless in today’s society and offers suggestions on how that same society can change to make room for the childless and the childfree.

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ISBN-13: 9781580052634
Publisher: Da Capo Press
Publication date: 10/01/2009
Pages: 264
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Laura S. Scott was in her sixteenth year of a voluntarily childless marriage and living in the suburbs of a small city in Virginia when she first got the idea to start the Childless by Choice Project. At the time, she was writing screenplays and marketing her first feature script, a first place winner in the Virginia Film Office's Governor's Screenwriting Competition. A former fashion and publishing entrepreneur, she had also worked as a freelance nonfiction writer/editor, personal productivity coach, and a volunteer for youth. Scott also founded and leads the Blue Ridge Association of Dramatists and Screenwriters (BRADS), a regional group of scriptwriters and filmmakers.

Fueled by curiosity and introspection, Scott traveled to ten American states and two Canadian provinces to survey the childless by choice and do video and audio interviews in order to determine why, for millions of North American couples, the question "When should we have kids?" has morphed into "Should we have kids?" She has since been interviewed and consulted on this topic by university scholars, writers, and producers for national magazines, regional newspapers and news organizations, including NBC News, the San Francisco Chronicle, CBC Radio, and The Roanoke Times.

Her Childless by Choice Project website ( serves as a reference and marketing tool for journalists, project participants, researchers, and the general public. A proposed Childless by Choice film project is in the development and early production stage, and is fiscally sponsored by The Southern Documentary Fund ( Scott lives in Roanoke, Virginia.

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doctor_beth More than 1 year ago
This book stemmed out of author Laura Scott's Childless by Choice Project, a research project comprised of several different components. In the Introduction, Scott, herself a woman who choose to marry and yet remain childless (or childfree--she uses these two terms interchangeably) by choice, notes that she wondered whether she was alone in her decision, and if not, how others arrived at the same choice that she made. She further explains that she had two main goals when starting her research project: 1) to determine what people identified as their most compelling motives for remaining childfree, and 2) to better understand the decision-making process which led to someone identifying themselves as childless by choice. Based on these goals, Scott designed a questionnaire which would yield the data she sought; she then recruited a total of 171 childless by choice individuals to respond to her survey. Finally, Scott supplemented her survey results with an additional series of 28 in-depth interviews she conducted with various childfree couples. The chapters which follow present the main findings of Scott's research. There is information on "Who Are the Childless by Choice?," the decision-making process that occurs along the path to becoming childless, and the a list of the resulting "Eighteen Reasons (and More) Why We Don't Have Kids." The latter chapter may surprise some who believe that childfree individuals are "selfish" or "must hate kids"--comments that participants in Scott's interviews had been subjected to in the face of their decisions to remain childless. As it turns out, however, the highest-rated motive statement in Scott's research was "I love our life, our relationship, as it is, and having a child won't enhance it." Rounding out the top three motives were "I value freedom and independence" and "I do not want to take on the responsibility of raising a child." In general, Scott found that the couples she interviewed did NOT take their decision not to have children lightly; in fact, through her research, Scott discovered that childfree couples often spend more time talking about the decision to have children than those who actually HAVE children. The more I continued to read this book, the more I could relate: yes, I myself am childfree by choice. I particularly appreciated the final three chapters. Chapter 6 addresses "The Myths and Realities of Living Childfree." As Scott points out, the #1 assumption regarding those who are childfree is that they dislike children. This is definitely not the case for me (I absolutely adore my 10 nieces and nephews!), but going back to the motives noted above, just because I like kids does not mean that I want the constant responsibility of raising one of my own. In Chapter 7, Scott talks about what it is like for the childless by choice to have to live in a "pronatist" world. I'm sure that those who DO have kids never give this a second thought, but American society is definitely extremely biased towards families and children. There is general a lack of understanding for anyone who chooses not to conform to this standard by not having kids of their own, which can result in prejudices, stigmas, and even preferential behavior in both social settings and the workplace. I believe this can be a particular challenge for women of child-bearing age--for example, at family gatherings, I often find myself ha
Joyachiever More than 1 year ago
Please understand that I preface the review of Two Is Enough: A Couple’s Guide To Living Childless by Choice by Laura S. Scott by emphasizing that I have nothing against parents and do not have a problem with children (in other words I am far from the kid hater I’m stereotyped to be when I admit to have voluntarily choosing to be child-free). Additionally, I do not wish to convert people to not wanting children when they would otherwise want children. I just happen to believe that there is more than enough room in this world for both men and women who choose to be child-free and those who wish to be parents (whether they want a few children or several enough to rival a football team). My choice to become child-free was actually solidified during my teenage years after I spent a considerable amount of my early years (from age 10 to 18) helping my late adoptive mother look after my younger siblings (who were also adopted) and other children that she chose to take in. I already know the pros and cons to motherhood after helping out my late adoptive mother and understood (during my teen years) that one must be passionate about choosing to become a mother due to the various freedoms that one must voluntarily give up (unless your family is making good money, can afford nannies,has family members who can afford to frequently look after the children, and/or one (whether it is the mother or father) who can comfortably afford to be a stay at home parent). Last, but not least, I also never meant to hurt and still only choose harm-free intent for the rest of my current existence, towards those women who have tried unsuccessfully to become pregnant and do not agree with me admitting on facebook that I voluntarily chose to undergo tubal ligation surgery when I was 23 years old (after commenting and sharing the Huffington Post article of what it really feels like to be a childfree woman by bri seeley on my facebook page). With the preface out of the way, I admit to finding out about Two Is Enough: A Couple’s Guide To Living Childless by Choice by Laura S. Scott through a Yahoo News article titled “I Chose Not To Have Children” by Anne Jones dated October 28, 2014. As a result, I must share that this is a book more for those who have freely chose to be child-free and/or those who have tried unsuccessfully to have children in the past but now accept and come to terms with being child-free. With all of that out of the way, the following are some of the carefully thought out points made in the book: Pages 14-15: profiles of those who are child-free by choice, page 48: two couples who met through the Eastern Virginia chapter of No Kidding!. Chapter 4 (Page 75) starts with the 18 motives that encompass a reason umbrella on why various people voluntarily choose the child-free path such as motive statement 2: I value freedom and independence (page 79), motive statement 5: I want to accomplish/experience things in life that would be easier to do child-free (page 84), motive statement 6: I want to focus my time and energy on my own interests, needs, and/or goals (page 85). More motives and insightful details are covered within this book. The author also includes resources for the voluntarily child-free and there is a brief summary about her background and an inclusion of an acknowledgements page at the back.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book made me realize its ok to question if parenthood is right for me Very greatful to the author
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Would recommend to anyone who enjoys the childfree choice.
nonfictionlover More than 1 year ago
I was very excited to see this book come out, as there has been very little written on the choice NOT to parent in a long time. (And what has been written, hasn't been too thorough.) I was glad to see Laura Scott did perform a survey on the childless, which no authors have done to this point, but DISAPPOINTED to see she only interviewed 171 childless! (A very small pool that is not representative of an entire country.) Since the childless numbers have grown to 20% in the U.S., I would think she could have found more respondents in the two years she spent conducting the survey. Plus, she only interviewed those who intentionally CHOSE not to have children, leaving those who are childless by CIRCUMSTANCE and those who are UNDECIDED out of the equation. Yet she contradicts herself by discussing the "childless by circumstance" quite a bit in the book, even after she has stated in the beginning that her focus is on the "Childless by Choice." Many of us are a cross between the two camps. In other words, we made a choice not to have kids, only AFTER we realized all the circumstances weren't right to be a parent. I woul<div id=
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