Unspoken Legacy: Addressing the Impact of Trauma and Addiction within the Family

Unspoken Legacy: Addressing the Impact of Trauma and Addiction within the Family

by Claudia Black

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781942094562
Publisher: Central Recovery Press, LLC
Publication date: 01/16/2018
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 376,543
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Claudia Black, PhD, is a renowned author and trainer internationally recognized for her pioneering and contemporary work with family systems and addictive disorders. She is the clinical architect at the Claudia Black Young Adult Center at The Meadows Treatment Center. She is the author of numerous books, including Intimate Treason and It Will Never Happen to Me.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi

Introduction xiii

Trauma, Addiction, and You xiv

The Human Connection xiv

The Thread of Trauma and Addiction over the Years xv

An Invitation xvii

Author's Note xix

Chaprter 1 Getting to Know Trauma 1

What It Trauma? 3

Big T, Little t 7

Trauma and You 9

The Losses of Trauma 10

What Influences Trauma 11

Childhood Resilience and Vulnerability 14

The Biology of Trauma 16

Trauma and the Nervous System 20

Chapter 3 What We Know About Addiction 23

Addiction's Two Faces 24

The Signs of Addiction 26

Addiction and the Brain 30

Where Trauma and Addiction Meet 33

When Various Forms of Addiction Interact 36

Addiction as a Family Disease 37

When Denial Fails 39

Chapter 3 Addiction, Trauma, and the Family 43

A Steadt Diet of Trauma 44

Trauma and Abandonment 47

The Trauma of Physical and Sexual Abuse 50

Witnessing Abuse 54

Overlooked and Discounted Trauma 55

How Trauma Encourages Addiction 57

The Trauma/Addiction Cycle 58

The Bottom Line 61

Chapter 4 How Trauma Affects You 63

The Inner World of Trauma 63

Delayed Responses to Trauma 67

How Disorders Pair Up-or Pile Up 82

Making the Turn 85

Chapter 5 Shame: The Hidden Darkness 87

How Shame Arises 88

How Shame Masks Itself 89

Chapter 6 Generational Reverberations: The Long-Term Effects 91

A Mother in Trouble 91

A Son in Trouble 97

Parenthood in Trouble 98

Trauma Bonding 99

New Faces, Old Dynamics 100

Love and Relationship Addiction 101

Details vs. Dynamics 102

Exploring Your Family Tree 103

Create a Family Tree 105

Chapter 7 The Power of Self-Examination 109

Layer 1 Grounding 111

Layer 2 Exploring the Narrative 121

Layer 3 Moving into Your Emotions 123

Layer 4 Connecting the Past to the Present 127

Layer 5 Uncovering and Challenging Internalized Beliefs 128

Layer 6 Learning New Skills 131

Spirituality and the Healing of Trauma 135

Expectations in Healing 136

Chapter 8 Your Allies in Healing 139

Assembling a Team of Allies 141

Your Potential Allies in Recovery 142

The Value of Group Processes in Addiction Recovery 145

Do You Need a Therapist? 146

Finding the Right Therapist 148

What You Need to Know about Trauma Therapy 151

The Role of Medications 155

Reflecting on Your Resistance 155

Chapter 9 Family Expectations, Connections, and Disconnections 159

Sharing Your Recovery with Family Members 159

Staying Connected-with Limitations 162

Setting Healthy Limits and Boundaries 164

Connecting with Siblings 165

Confronting Family Members as an Adult 167

Symbolically Confronting Someone Who Has Died 171

Don't Try to Do It All Alone 172

Chapter 10 Forgiveness and Healing 173

What Forgiveness Is Not 174

What Forgiveness Is 175

When Forgiveness Goes Awry 175

Self-Forgiveness 176

The Force Behind Forgiveness 177

Chapter 11 Creating Your New Narrative 179

Part 1 Describe Your Healing and Recovery Thus Far 180

Part 2 Describe Where You Are Now in Your Healing Journey 181

Part 3 Describe What You Will Do Next 182

Part 4 Envision How Your Healing and Recovery Will Evolve 183

Part 5 Embody Your New Narrative in a Few Key Words or Phrases 184

Part 6 Envision Your Life Five Years from Now 185

The Healing Power of Narrative 190

Embracing Healing and Recovery 190

Appendix 195

Self-Help Fellowships 195

Professional Assistance 201

The Adverse Childhood Experience Study 203

What's Your ACE Score? 205

ACE Resilience Questionnaire 207

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

Claudia Black has written an excellent and accessible book for anyone who wants to understand more about what trauma is and how it may have impacted their lives. Unspoken Legacy is user friendly and easy to follow as it traces the underlying, intersecting ways in which trauma can manifest. Unresolved trauma can be the pain pump that fuels both addiction and relapse. It cuts an insidious, seamless and all too often invisible path through a person or a family system that over the years and even the generations becomes overgrown, buried and hard to see. Through case examples that ring only too true, Dr. Black brings to life the myriad things we tell ourselves to either stay in denial or to express the relief that comes when light finally dawns. She elucidates both the path of illness and that of recovery, this is a book that will help many people."— Tian Dayton, PhD, Author of Emotional Sobriety

“One more time Dr. Claudia Black has written a book that is pivotal to helping people understand their history and move forward in their lives. Her gentle voice of experience and compassion offers a multitude of solutions for the problems that affect all those with addiction and trauma. Unspoken Legacy is filled with useful exercises to enable the reader to actively engage in the process of healing. Dr. Black has done an incredible job of addressing the complexity of trauma and addiction and its impact on families. Everyone from the professional to the student to those personally affected must read this book.”— Mel Pohl, MD, DFASAM, Chief Medical Officer, Las Vegas Recovery Center and author of A Day Without Pain

“Renowned addictions expert, Dr. Claudia Black has done it again! She's written a groundbreaking book to help anyone struggling with addiction or the havoc it wreaks in its path. This well-written book offers cutting-edge information about how addiction develops in families, the impact it has on one’s psychological and spiritual well-being, the powerful ways in which trauma and addiction are inextricably interconnected and, most importantly, what must happen for healing to occur. Filled with practical insights and do-it-yourself exercises, Dr. Black’s guidance is compassionate, informative, and inspirational!”— Michele Weiner-Davis, LCSW, Author of The Sex-Starved Marriage

“In this brilliant work, Dr. Claudia Black illuminates the connection between trauma and addiction, the toxic cycle of shame and fear that results, and how this can get passed intergenerationally. Most importantly, she provides a blueprint and road map for help, hope, and healing.”— Jerry Moe, MA, National Director of Children’s Programs, Hazelden Betty Ford Center

“Claudia Black’s new book is a wonderful must-have resource that’s more than helpful for the healing and recovery around trauma and addiction issues. It is a useful educational tool on so many levels, and reminds readers that everyone experiences some level of trauma in their life’s journey while reassuring them that healing is truly possible. Claudia gives many useful mindfulness examples and thoughtful advice for recovery that are truly life saving. The reader will feel safe, reassured, and will find real hope after reading this book. Unspoken Legacy offers the opportunity to develop skills and tools to live on and live well!”— Karen Phelps Moyer, The Moyer Foundation, Cofounder Camp Mariposa

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