When God Doesn't Fix It: Lessons You Never Wanted to Learn, Truths You Can't Live Without

When God Doesn't Fix It: Lessons You Never Wanted to Learn, Truths You Can't Live Without

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ISBN-13: 9780718036973
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 09/15/2015
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 52,814
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.30(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Laura Story is a Bible teacher, worship leader, Grammy Award–winning singer/songwriter, and bestselling author. “Blessings” was certified gold in 2011 and inspired her first book, What If Your Blessings Come Through Raindrops. Laura’s music and writing show God’s love and grace intersecting with real life and serve as a reminder that despite questions or circumstances, he is the ultimate author of our story, as told in her second book, When God Doesn’t Fix It. She has a graduate degree from Covenant Theological Seminary and has served as a worship leader at Perimeter Church in Atlanta since 2005, but her greatest joy is being a wife to Martin and the mother to Josie, Ben, Griffin, and Timothy.


Jennifer Schuchmann is a News York Times bestselling author of numerous books and he host of the television program Right Now with Jennifer Schuchmann.

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When God Doesn't Fix It

Lessons You Never Wanted to Learn, Truths You Can't Live Without


By Laura Story, Jennifer Schuchmann

Thomas Nelson

Copyright © 2015 Laura Story Elvington
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-0-7180-3697-3



CHAPTER 1

UNEXPECTED CALLS


THE CALL THAT CHANGED MY LIFE HAPPENED AROUND noon in February 2006. I was in St. Louis attending a conference with two of my coworkers. They sat in the front seat of the rental car with the radio on; I was in the backseat checking my phone messages. As we headed to Panera Bread for lunch, I noticed a voice mail from my husband, Martin, and I called him back. That's when he gave me the news that dramatically changed the course of our lives and the lives of those closest to us.

We're all just one phone call away from learning the results of a test or the news of an affair, the death of a loved one, the loss of a job, or a thousand other ways our hope can be shattered.

In that moment, we think life as we know it is over.

The truth is, life, as we've yet to know it, has just begun.


* * *

In the summer of 2005, Martin and I had been married a year. We lived rent free in Greenville, South Carolina, near a church where we were working for the summer. We'd just packed up our belongings and sold our house, intending to move to Savannah, Georgia, in the fall so Martin could attend Savannah College of Art and Design (SCAD). For years, Martin had been the campus director of a college ministry where he led a Bible study and also did graphic design and web development work for Wofford College. I'd graduated from Bible college and had dabbled in music, ministry, and helping Martin with the Bible study — none of which paid well. We planned to get jobs in Savannah, and then once Martin was finished with school, we'd move back to Spartanburg, South Carolina, to be near our parents. The SCAD degree would help Martin get a well-paying job in the graphic design field, which would allow me to stay home and raise the kids we both wanted to have someday.

That was our plan for a perfect life.

The first detour came when Martin's friend John Roland called us from Atlanta. "Hey, I know this is crazy," John said to Martin, "but I have a job for Laura at my church if you guys are interested in moving to Atlanta."

John worked at Perimeter Church, located in the northern suburbs of Atlanta. The church was seeking a worship leader. In addition, John told us that SCAD had just opened an Atlanta campus. If we moved to Atlanta, Martin could continue school and I would have a job. My last job had been playing bass in a bluegrass band in a Mexican restaurant. In other words, I had no marketable skills, so a position at a church in Atlanta sounded much better than a waitressing job in Savannah.

Martin handed me the phone. "Tell me about the job," I said.

John described the duties, which included choosing music for the congregation, leading volunteers, and developing worshippers. But I had never done any of those things. Sure, I'd majored in music and played bass in a touring band that had performed at retreats and youth groups, but the only time I ever sang was under duress when our female singer was gone or ill. I didn't know a thing about leading worship.

"And the church is looking for somebody who can write worship songs," John continued.

That's why John is calling me!

In an effort to avoid paying performance fees for the music our touring band covered, everyone in the band was asked to write songs. I'd written a few, including one called "Indescribable." A year earlier, an executive from a record company called to ask if they could use my song on the CD of a worship leader from Texas — a guy named Chris Tomlin. I'd agreed, and Tomlin's label released "Indescribable" as a single. The song had just started getting a lot of radio play.

Other than my friends and family (and John), no one knew that the song had been written by the blonde girl who played bass at the Mexican restaurant on Thursdays. Until someone else called it a worship song, I didn't even think of it that way because of all of the five-syllable words in the chorus. Regardless of how the song was doing, neither songwriting nor playing bass in a bluegrass band qualified me to lead a congregation in singing.

"John, I've written a few songs, but when it comes to leading worship ...," I said as I prepared to decline his offer.

"We offer a steady salary and health insurance," he added.

"Wait, you said health insurance?" I asked.

"Yes, and retirement benefits."

I wasn't a math major, but it didn't take me long to calculate the salary, benefits, and retirement numbers, and compare the total to what I was making at the Mexican restaurant — free burritos and all the chips and salsa I could eat.

"Like I was saying, when it comes to leading worship, I'm so glad you asked me. I'd love to be your church's worship leader," I said.

After praying about it with Martin, that's how the detour began. Martin would go to school in Atlanta, and I would start at Perimeter Church in the fall.


* * *

During June and July, Martin and I made several trips to Atlanta to look for a condo. My boss-to-be, Randy Schlichting, one of the pastors at Perimeter, along with the other staff members, did everything they could to reach out and make us feel welcome. Though I didn't know what I was doing, I couldn't wait to get started.

But something else was going on, and I wasn't sure if I should mention it to anyone. As July turned to August and my September 1 start date loomed nearer, I realized I couldn't go through with the move. I closed the door to the church office where I was working and called Randy. Like every other time I called, he seemed delighted to hear from me.

"Are you excited about coming?" he asked.

"Um, I need to talk to you about something," I stammered, unsure of how much to say. "I don't know if it's the best thing for Martin and me to move to Atlanta and for me to take this job."

For several months, Martin had been experiencing some unusual symptoms. He'd been more forgetful than usual. Some days he wanted to do nothing but sleep followed by days where he wouldn't sleep at all. His heart would race, and he'd get sweaty and nauseous as if he was having a panic attack, but none of the doctors we saw could determine what was wrong with him. The symptoms had started in March and then subsided; but by August, they had returned. Though he'd seen four different doctors, we still hadn't discovered the cause of his symptoms.

I paused, searching for the right words. "There's something wrong with my husband. We don't know whether it is physical, emotional, or psychiatric. We just know that something is wrong with him —" That's all Randy let me get out before he interrupted me.

"Well, here's what I think you need to do. You need to get your belongings into a U-Haul and come straight to Atlanta. We'll take care of whatever is wrong with your husband once you get here. We're not having you move to Atlanta just so you can be a worship leader; we're having you move to Atlanta because you are part of Perimeter Church now. You and Martin come down, and we'll take care of your family."

"Okay, we'll come," I said, choking back my tears. I hung up and let them stream down my face as I slumped my head into the back of the chair. It's going to be okay.

And it was.

For a while.


* * *

We moved to Atlanta in August so I could start my job and Martin could start school. Everything was great in our marriage, and Martin's symptoms seemed to disappear with the move. I fell in love with my job, my coworkers, and the people of Perimeter Church. I started reading books on how to be a worship leader and spent a lot of time learning from the pastors at Perimeter, but there was still a lot I didn't know. Perimeter was generous with their training and encouraged me to attend a couple of upcoming conferences in February.

That holiday season was the first Martin and I had spent away from our parents, but they came to Atlanta and we traveled to South Carolina as much as our schedules allowed. Once the holidays were over, Martin seemed to be perpetually exhausted. At first I thought he was just working too much. Not only was he going to school, but he also had a job in a coffee shop. He's just tired, I thought.

But soon he started falling asleep during Bible study or, worse, during the worship services. I was embarrassed, and when we got home on Sunday afternoons, I'd let him know.

"I know you're tired, but you can't sleep while I'm leading the music, and especially not when my boss is preaching!"

He'd apologize and promise to do better.

Then it started happening at social events. We'd be at someone's house, and he'd fall asleep while the host was telling a story. A few weeks later, he failed to show up for a party because he fell asleep. One night, we'd planned to meet for dinner, and he didn't show. I tried calling his cell phone. When he finally answered, he said, "I sat down on the couch for ten minutes, but I fell asleep."

I was frustrated. "It's been two hours. If you were going to take a nap, why didn't you set an alarm?"

"I wasn't planning to take a nap. I just fell asleep."

After that night, I turned down invitations because I got tired of making excuses for him.

When we first got married, we used to lie awake in bed at night, talk about our days, and pray for each other. Now, though, it seemed as soon as Martin was horizontal, he was out. I'd be telling him about my day, and next thing I knew, I would hear him snoring.

"Martin! You're not even listening to me!" I'd say, poking him.

"I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. Go ahead, tell me one more time."

Before I could get another word out, he'd be snoring again.

Martin had been a real go-getter with tons of energy. He'd been an athlete, an honor student, and on academic scholarship to college. I couldn't remember a time when he didn't work hard. But now he'd become someone I didn't recognize.

Occasionally, I'd tell a close friend or family member that Martin wasn't at all who he was before we got married. "He sleeps constantly," I'd complain. "I ask him to do one little thing, like unload the dishwasher, and the next morning he tells me he forgot. Last Sunday he fell asleep watching football!"

They'd laugh and say something like, "All men are like that."

But Martin never had been like other men.

His first semester at SCAD he'd made As in all of his classes. But now, he was struggling. After getting home from his coffee shop job around eight o'clock, he'd start his homework and then fall asleep at the table. Soon I was staying up at night force-feeding him cup after cup of coffee as I helped him study for tests. But nothing I did could keep him awake. He started getting Fs on his quizzes and then on his tests. He wasn't only failing in his classes; he was also failing at life.

My dad and brother took him skiing. When they got back my dad said, "Martin fell asleep on the ski lift."

Other weird things were happening. Martin was twenty-four years old, but he was going through another growth spurt. He grew an inch and a half in nine months.

We'd been to four physicians in South Carolina, and my dad was a doctor. None of them could find anything wrong. Where Martin had once been sharp and quick, now he was lethargic.

Some of our closest friends began noticing and offered their own opinions.

"He's just lazy," one man said.

"He needs some counseling," one of the wives said.

One day, a church member sat me down and said, "I know you've only been married a short time, and no newlywed wants to hear this, but I think your husband might have a mental illness."

Before we moved to Atlanta, I'd told a close friend or two about some of Martin's earlier symptoms. They'd try to comfort me with stories of their own. "That sounds like my sister's husband. He has schizophrenia!" Or, "I have a friend whose dad has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder!" I began to think perhaps Martin had a mental problem, and the thought scared me.

Perimeter Church is a large church with an amazing counseling department, so whether Martin needed help with his laziness, counseling, or something more serious, we agreed we needed to talk to someone. Martin knew things weren't right, and he wasn't happy about it. Both he and I became concerned that he may be depressed.

Psychologist Clay Coffee spent an hour and a half asking Martin questions while I readied myself for the worst. But Clay didn't think Martin suffered from a mental illness.

"I think it's simple," Clay said. "You're depressed because you can't stay awake and you're having trouble remembering things. I know you're expecting me to tell you it's something mental, but it sounds like something physical. I think you need to see a medical doctor."

On one hand, we were relieved Clay didn't think it was something worse. On the other hand, we had both hoped antidepressants would fix whatever needed fixing with Martin.

He'd already seen four doctors and now a counselor, and none of them could find anything wrong. Could it be this was just who Martin was?

Before Martin and I got engaged, a spiritual mentor wisely told me, "If you tell Martin you love him and that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, you have to be prepared to see it through even if the fluffy feelings disappear, because marriage isn't just about fluffy feelings." Somehow I thought it would take three to five years for that to happen, not twelve to eighteen months, but I'd made a commitment. I would still love and serve my husband even if the fluffy feelings were gone.

I began praying more and having conversations with God. I get it, God. He's the man I married, and I'm in it for the long haul. But boy, is he different than I thought he was when we first married. I can still see glimpses of the man I loved back then, and I am hanging on to those. We're going to press on through this, but God, you've got to help me. Something has to change!


* * *

Martin's sleepiness continued into February 2006. He started missing classes because he overslept. I grew concerned because I was scheduled to attend two worship conferences that month. The first was in North Carolina, where I was asked to lead worship. The second was in St. Louis, where I would learn how to lead worship. (The irony of the conference order wasn't lost on me.)

I wasn't sure if I should attend either conference. I was worried about leaving Martin home alone. How will he get up in time for class by himself? How will he get his homework done? I couldn't imagine what would happen when I wasn't there.

But Martin encouraged me to go. "I'll be fine."

While in North Carolina at the first conference, I called him between sessions. He sounded like he'd just woken up. "What are you doing?"

"Oh, I'm just resting."

In the background, I could hear ding, ding, ding. It didn't take a professional musician to know that was the sound the car made when someone opened the door and left the key in the ignition.

"Were you sleeping in the car?" I asked.

"Yeah, I had some trouble staying awake on my way home."

"What do you mean you had trouble staying awake?"

"I fell asleep and hit a guardrail. I'm okay, but the car is a little scratched. So when I got home, I parked the car and took a nap."

I couldn't believe what he was telling me. As soon as we hung up, I called his friend John Roland, who was now my coworker and our next-door neighbor. I told John what Martin had done. "You've got to take the keys away from him," I said. "He can't drive anymore, and I think he should stay home from class until I get back to Atlanta."

When I got home, I could see how tired Martin was. I was also convinced I finally knew what his problem was — narcolepsy. I made a mental note to schedule an appointment with a doctor when I got home from my upcoming trip to St. Louis.

The next morning when the alarm went off, Martin rolled over and asked me a really odd question. "Are we going to the airport today?"

"No. Why would we go to the airport?"

"Okay."

It was such a strange question that alarm bells went off in my head.

"Why don't you go fix us some coffee, Martin? I'll be down in a second," I said.

As soon as Martin left our bedroom, I reached for the phone and then slithered down my side of the bed until I was sitting on the floor. I called my boss.

"Martin just asked if we were going to the airport today. Something is really wrong," I whispered. "I'm going to take the day off and take him to the doctor."


(Continues...)

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Table of Contents

Contents

1. Unexpected Calls, 1,
2. Inner Encounter in Outer Mongolia, 15,
3. When God Doesn't Fix What We Want Fixed, 27,
4. Don't Be Surprised by Trouble, 43,
5. Complications, 51,
6. The Best-Made Plans, 71,
7. The Church Came to Us, 81,
8. New Life, 101,
9. New Grief, 117,
10. Why?, 133,
11. Record Emotions, 147,
12. Exposing My Vulnerabilities, 157,
13. Chosen to Tell, 177,
14. Your Story Brings God Glory, 183,
15. Trusting My Role, 201,
16. Resurrected Dreams, 215,
17. The Blessings of "Blessings", 223,
18. Abundantly Extravagant, 239,
19. A Better Broken, 257,
20. Messy Endings, 273,
Acknowledgments, 281,
Don't Forget, 283,
About the Author, 285,

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GrandaddyA More than 1 year ago
The subtitle of the book is Lessons You Never Wanted to Learn, Truths You Can’t Live Without. That sums up the essence of this book quite well. Laura Story and her husband, Martin, learned in a most difficult way that God does not fix everything. But He does teach us some of the most valuable lessons as we go through the valley of brokenness. Too many people crumble and fold at the first sign of trouble, but not Laura and Martin. They were still practically on their honeymoon when serious trouble hit in the form of a brain tumor that could have ended Martin’s life. As in the case of so many others, what seemed to be a major tragedy to them, their family, and their close friends proved to be something that God has used for His glory and for the benefit of numerous others who have heard this story and have heard Laura sing and speak. Blending their story with the stories of people in the Bible who were broken, she helps us see that God is always working to make us into what He wants us to be even as we view our broken dreams and lives lying on the floor. Weaving all of this together she shows the fallacy of the myths we accept so readily and points us to the truth God wants us to understand. I have heard her song, Blessings, from time to time, but it will have much greater meaning to me now when I hear it, knowing the great brokenness out of which it was born.
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I recommend this to anyone searching for answers to life's unexpected "curves".