When I was a child, a traveling circus came to town, and my parents took me to see the show. My favorite part of the side show was the house of mirrors. It was fun to see the distorted reflections of my body. A completely flat mirror gives a true reflection, but a curved mirror reflects a false image. The type of distortion in the mirror determines the type of distortion in the reflected image.
Each mirror produced a different type of distortion. Some mirrors made my chest look big and strong, and I immediately felt powerful. Some made me look as tall as Goliath, and others transformed me into a midget. Some made my head as big as a basketball, and others shrunk it down to the size of a golf ball. Some made me look fat, and others made me look skinny.
I enjoyed the house of mirrors because I knew what I was seeing wasn’t the real me. The reflection was a distortion of who I was, and I had no problem distinguishing between the real me and the one I saw in the mirror.
Later on, I discovered that I spent my entire life living in a house of mirrors. I found out that emotions are a reflection of the thoughts that cascade through my mind. Each thought that I think takes me on a trip to my personal house of mirrors.
My mind isn’t a quiet place. Thoughts shout and screech and echo as they go round and round my mind. Eventually the swirling dervish of thought stands in front of the mirror of my mind. Suddenly magic happens, and I feel emotion. When I look in the mirror, I don’t see myself, I feel myself. If I like what I see, I feel good. If I don’t like it, I feel bad.
Each thought stands in front of your mental magic mirror and says, “Mirror, mirror on the wall, am I OK after all?” The mirror then tells you what to feel. But there is a BIG PROBLEM because many of the mirrors are seriously distorted. This house of mirrors rarely gives a true reflection of who you are or of the world in which you live. The reality is that how a thought makes you feel depends on which mirror you stand in front of.
Your personal house of mirrors is full of distorted mirrors. Virtually every one of them has some degree of distortion, and you may not realize it’s there. You can be sure of one thing, none of them exactly reflects the world as it is, or you as you are.
When you were young, your parents and culture placed those mirrors in your mind, and as you grew older, you placed some of them there as well. Now you face the challenge of deciding which mirrors give true reflections and which give distorted ones.
For every fact of life, there are a thousand different emotions that can be reflected in the mirrors of your mind. The emotions you feel depend upon which mirror you are looking in.
If your life has been exceptionally difficult, if you have been a victim of severe abuse and a great deal of emotional damage has accumulated, your mental mirrors will be extremely distorted, and your reflected emotions will make your life even more miserable. Those emotions may seem so unbearable that you may think you want to die. At least if you were dead, those horrible emotions would no longer torture you.
Although there are thousands of mirrors lurking in the dark recesses of your mind, a few of those mirrors are common to people who suffer from mood disorders and depression. These distorted mirrors have been given a fancy name – they are called cognitive distortions. Cognitive therapy has listed at least ten major mirrors that distort the emotions that spring up in your mind. It’s useful to look at those ten mirrors and examine them in detail so you can learn to distinguish between a distorted mirror and one that gives a true reflection of who you are and the world in which you live.
Your challenge is to learn how to walk through your personal house of mirrors and enjoy the trip in the same way that I enjoyed walking through the house of mirrors at the circus when I was a child. You decide whether you will allow your personal house of mirrors to become a horror show that makes you miserable.
If you learn to recognize the distorted mirrors and call them by their names, the mirrors lose their power. You will be able to walk through your house of mirrors and enjoy the trip, free from the twisted thinking and distorted emotions that formerly controlled your mind.
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About the Author
Although Dr. Dave was trained to preserve and restore vision using surgery, he also wanted to fight inner blindness and restore inner vision teaching people how to look at the world through eyes of possibility and love.
Dr. Dave has written twelve books including:
Maximum Strength Positive Thinking
Zero Tolerance to Negative Thinking
Real Power: Maxing Out on God's Love
Owner's Manual for your Mind
Programmer's Manual for your Mind
Dr. Dave is also know as Captain Dave of Team Maxing Out. He spent eleven years sailing around the world with his family on their sailboat, Exit Only. They sailed more than 33,000 miles around the world on their Privilege 39 catamaran including a trip through Pirate Alley and up the Red Sea.
Dr. Dave drives Land Rover Defenders when he is land cruising. His off road vehicles took Team Maxing Out to Arabia, Oman, United Arab Emirates, Mexico, Guatemala, Honduras, Nicaragua, El Salvador, Costa Rica, Panama, New Zealand, and Australia. Soon the adventures will continue with a driving trip around the world in a Land Rover Defender.
Dr Dave created the Positive Thinking Network with more than two hundred positive websites. The Positive Thinking Network is your source for positive thinking on the World Wide Web. When you visit the Positive Thinking Network, you become part of something great.
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