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101 Conversation Starters for Couples

101 Conversation Starters for Couples

by Gary Chapman, Ramon Presson

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Your spouse is a unique person, filled with amazing insights, thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Communication is key to really knowing and fully loving that person.

Bestselling author and marriage counselor Gary Chapman has developed this handy tabletop resource to get you and your spouse talking. With 101 probing questions, couples will find their relationship enhanced, their intimacy deepened, and their romance ignited. 101 Conversation Starters for Couples is the perfect companion to the bestselling book, The 5 Love Languages®. It also makes an excellent Valentines Day, wedding, and anniversary gift. It helps you and your spouse get the conversation flowing.

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ISBN-13: 9780802408372
Publisher: Moody Publishers
Publication date: 04/01/2012
Edition description: New Edition
Pages: 112
Sales rank: 233,479
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 5.50(h) x 0.40(d)

About the Author

GARY CHAPMAN—author, speaker, counselor—has a passion for people and for helping them form lasting relationships. He is the #1 bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages series and director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc. Gary travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. For more information visit his website at

RAMON PRESSON, PhD, a licensed marriage & family therapist, has been in practice for 30 years and is the founder of LifeChange Counseling and Marriage Center of Franklin He is a newspaper columnist; and with a dozen books in print he is the most published practicing therapist in Tennessee. He is a charter member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. From 1989 to 2004 Presson served as an assistant pastor in large churches in North Carolina, South Carolina, Florida, and Tennessee. Ramon has had the unique privilege to serve on staff with and later co-author several books with Dr. Gary Chapman. He is currently co-authoring the teen edition of When Will My Life Not Suck? Authentic Hope for the Disillusioned with his 17-year-old son, Cameron. Ramon and his wife, Dorne, have been married for 28 years, have two sons, and live outside Nashville. He can be reached at

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101 conversation starters for couples


Northfield Publishing

Copyright © 2012 Gary Chapman & Ramon Presson
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ISBN: 978-0-8024-0837-2

Chapter One

question 1

What are two things that happened today, and how did you feel about them?

question 2

What were some of your favorite toys as a child? What was your favorite candy?

question 3

Describe the home of one or both sets of your grandparents.

question 4

What was something you really wanted but were not allowed to own as a child or teen?

question 5

Describe one of your favorite elementary school teachers. Then describe a favorite high school teacher or college professor.

question 6

As you were growing up, what was unique about your family as compared to other families in your neighborhood or the families of your friends?

question 7

What was your most serious physical injury as a child or teen?

question 8

What do you remember about learning to drive?

question 9

Can you recall visiting your parents' workplace? If so, describe it and how you felt when you went there.

question 10

Complete this sentence: "I'm sure my mom and dad wish I would...."

question 11

What is perhaps the worst movie you have ever seen?

question 12

What tragic news story in the last few years made you particularly sad?

question 13

What was one of the most memorable weddings (other than your own) that you have attended?

question 14

What is something you collected as a child or teen?

question 15

What is a question that you wish you had the courage to ask your mother and/or father?

question 16

If you were given five acres of land, where would you want it to be and what would you want to do with it?

question 17

If you could own and operate your own business (and be guaranteed of its success), what would it be?

question 18

If you do not play a musical instrument, what one do you wish you could play? If you do/ did play a musical instrument, do you recall how you chose that particular one?

question 19

What would you say are two of the best concerts you have seen, either in person or on video or film?

question 20

What are two of your all-time favorite movies (or books)?

question 21

My mother/father clearly did not understand what was considered cool when she/he bought me ...

question 22

What famous person (deceased) would you like to have met?

question 23

Which of the following would you find most gratifying?

earning a PhD

publishing a bestselling book

recording an original chart-topping song

winning an Olympic gold medal

question 24

If money and/or child care were no object, what would be your idea of the perfect New Year's Eve?

question 25

Who is one of the most genuinely spiritual persons you know?

question 26

How do you think the world has changed since September 11, 2001?

question 27

Which of the following rides would be your first choice?

a gondola in Venice

a cab in London

a Ferrari on the autobahn

a hot air balloon in Switzerland

an airboat in the Everglades

a raft down the Colorado River

a carriage in Paris

question 28

What is one of your favorite memories that includes snow?

question 29

Who was your favorite superhero or cartoon character?

question 30

If someone could bless you and pass on to you a special ability, who would you choose to bless you and with what ability?

question 31

Who is the most joyful person you know?

question 32

Who is someone you wish you could infect with a more positive attitude?

question 33

Complete this sentence: "It would make me a better person if I were more like you in the way you ..."

question 34

When in your life would you say your self-esteem was the lowest?

question 35

Recall a time when you were given constructive criticism that proved beneficial

question 36

The lion, beaver, otter, and golden retriever are used to describe four personality types. Which one do you think best describes you?

Lion: strong, confident, leader, likes to make sure things get done

Beaver: detail oriented, organized, follows instructions, good with projects

Otter: very outgoing, enjoys people, humorous, creative

Golden Retriever: loyal, sensitive, encouraging

question 37

If you could hire Martha Stewart for a day, what would you have her do?

question 38

Regardless of how long I live, I hope I will always ...

question 39

"It is more blessed to give than to receive." Recall a gift that gave you considerable satisfaction in presenting it.

question 40

Describe the location and three features of your dream home.

question 41

Who would you most like to hear one of the following from?

"I love you."

"I support you."

"I respect you."

"I miss you."

"I trust you."

question 42

In retrospect, what is something that your parents were wise in doing in raising you?

question 43

What was your most/least favorite subject in school?

question 44

If you could take a course in any subject. right now at your local college, what type of course would it be?

question 45

In what way are you most/least like your mother? How are you most/least like your father?

question 46

In Matthew 6:34, Jesus encourages us to live with faith in the present. Which is the greater obstacle for you?

dwelling on the past

worrying about the future

question 47

Who was your best friend in junior high school? What did you do together?

question 48

As I was growing up, my father was most like

a coach

a judge

an historian

a professor

a preacher

a manager

a cheerleader

other ___________

question 49

If you inherited $200,000 (after taxes), what would you do with the money?

question 50

Name three jobs or careers you are definitely not suited for.

question 51

Describe your pediatrician when you were growing up. What do you remember about those doctor visits?

question 52

Concerning what biblical topic or Bible passage (or verse) do you wish you had a better understanding?

question 53

What do you think that you will want to do in your retirement years?

question 54

Acts 2:42-47 describes a close, caring community. In what setting have you had the greatest experience of genuine fellowship?

friends at school

job where I worked

sports team

support group

church-related group

volunteer organization

ministry/mission team


other __________

question 55

What item of clothing in my wardrobe do you really like to see me wear?

question 56

What is a song of piece of music that moves or inspires you?

question 57

What quality or skill that you possess would you find most gratifying to have your child imitate as an adult?

question 58

If you could win any competition in the world, what would it be?

question 59

What nonbiblical historical event would you like to have witnessed?

question 60

Name the Old Testament event that you wish you could have witnessed. Name the New Testament event (in addition to the resurrection) that you wish you could have witnessed.


Excerpted from 101 conversation starters for couples by GARY CHAPMAN RAMON PRESSON Copyright © 2012 by Gary Chapman & Ramon Presson. Excerpted by permission of Northfield Publishing. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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