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From the author of the multi-million copy bestseller The 48 Laws of Power and The Laws of Human Nature, a mesmerizing handbook on seduction: the most subtle and effective form of power
When raised to the level of art, seduction, an indirect and subtle form of power, has toppled empires, won elections and enslaved great minds. Immerse yourself in the twenty-four maneuvers and strategies of the seductive process, the ritual by which a seducer gains mastery over his target. Understand how to "Poeticize Your Presence," “Keep them in Suspense – What Comes Next” and “Master the Art of the Bold Move”. Every bit as essential as The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction is an indispensable primer of persuasion that reveals one of history's greatest weapons and the ultimate form of power.
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Keys to the Character
At first it may seem strange that a man who is clearly dishonest, disloyal, and has no interest in marriage would have any appeal to a woman. But throughout all of history, and in all cultures, this type has had a fatal effect. What the Rake offers is what society normally does not allow women: an affair of pure pleasure, an exciting brush with danger. A woman is often deeply oppressed by the role she is expected to play. She is supposed to be the tender, civilizing force in society, and to want commitment and lifelong loyalty. But often her marriages and relationships give her not romance and devotion but routine and an endlessly distracted mate. It remains an abiding female fantasy to meet a man who gives totally of himself, who lives for her, even if only for a while.
This dark, repressed side of female desire found expression in the legend of Don Juan. At first the legend was a male fantasy: the adventurous knight who could have any woman he wanted. But in the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries, Don Juan slowly evolved from the masculine adventurer to a more feminized version: a man who lived only for women. This evolution came from women’s interest in the story, and was a result of their frustrated desires. Marriage for them was a form of indentured servitude; but Don Juan offered pleasure for its own sake, desire with no strings attached. For the time he crossed your path, you were all he thought about. His desire for you was so powerful that he gave you no time to think or to worry about the consequences. He would come in the night, give you an unforgettable moment, and then vanish. He might have conquered a thousand women before you, but that only made him more interesting; better to be abandoned than undesired by such a man.
The great seducers do not offer the mild pleasures that society condones. They touch a person’s unconscious, those repressed desires that cry out for liberation. Do not imagine that women are the tender creatures that some people would like them to be. Like men, they are deeply attracted to the forbidden, the dangerous, even the slightly evil. (Don Juan ends by going to hell, and the word “rake” comes from “rakehell,” a man who rakes the coals of hell; the devilish component, clearly, is an important part of the fantasy) Always remember: if you are to play the Rake, you must convey a sense of risk and darkness, suggesting to your victim that she is participating in something rare and thrilling—a chance to play out her own rakish desires.
To play the Rake, the most obvious requirement is the ability to let yourself go, to draw a woman into the kind of purely sensual moment in which past and future lose meaning. You must be able to abandon yourself to the moment. (When the Rake Valmont—a character modeled after the Duke de Richelieu—in Laclos’ eighteenth-century novel Dangerous Liaisons writes letters that are obviously calculated to have a certain effect on his chosen victim, Madame de Tourvel, she sees right through them; but when his letters really do burn with passion, she begins to relent.) An added benefit of this quality is that it makes you seem unable to control yourself, a display of weakness that a woman enjoys. By abandoning yourself to the seduced, you make them feel that you exist for them alone—a feeling reflecting a truth, though a temporary one. Of the hundreds of women that Pablo Picasso, consummate rake, seduced over the years, most of them had the feeling that they were the only one he truly loved.
The Rake never worries about a woman’s resistance to him, or for that matter about any other obstacle in his path—a husband, a physical barrier. Resistance is only the spur to his desire, enflaming him all the more. When Picasso was seducing Françoise Gilot, in fact, he begged her to resist; he needed resistance to add to the thrill. In any case, an obstacle in your way gives you the opportunity to prove yourself, and the creativity you bring to matters of love. In the eleventh-century Japanese novel The Taleof Genji,by the court lady Murasaki Shikibu, the Rake Prince Niou is not disturbed by the sudden disappearance of Ukifune, the woman he loves. She has fled because although she is interested in the prince, she is in love with another man; but her absence allows the prince to go to extreme lengths to track her down. His sudden appearance to whisk her away to a house deep in the woods, and the gallantry he displays in doing so, overwhelm her. Remember : if no resistances or obstacles face you, you must create them. No seduction can proceed without them.
The Rake is an extreme personality. Impudent, sarcastic, and bitingly witty, he cares nothing for what anyone thinks. Paradoxically, this only makes him more seductive. In the courtlike atmosphere of studio-era Hollywood, when most of the actors behaved like dutiful sheep, the great Rake Errol Flynn stood out in his insolence. He defied the studio chiefs, engaged in the most extreme pranks, reveled in his reputation as Hollywood’s supreme seducer—all of which enhanced his popularity. The Rake needs a backdrop of convention—a stultified court, a humdrum marriage, a conservative culture—to shine, to be appreciated for the breath of fresh air he provides. Never worry about going too far: the Rake’s essence is that he goes further than anyone else.
When the Earl of Rochester, seventeenth-century England’s most notorious Rake and poet, abducted Elizabeth Malet, one of the most sought-after young ladies of the court, he was duly punished. But lo and behold, a few years later young Elizabeth, though wooed by the most eligible bachelors in the country, chose Rochester to be her husband. In demonstrating his audacious desire, he made himself stand out from the crowd.
Related to the Rake’s extremism is the sense of danger, taboo, perhaps even the hint of cruelty about him. This was the appeal of another poet Rake, one of the greatest in history: Lord Byron. Byron disliked any kind of convention, and happily played this up. When he had an affair with his half sister, who bore a child by him, he made sure that all of England knew about it. He could be uncommonly cruel, as he was to his wife. But all of this only made him that much more desirable. Danger and taboo appeal to a repressed side in women, who are supposed to represent a civilizing, moralizing force in culture. Just as a man may fall victim to the Siren through his desire to be free of his sense of masculine responsibility, a woman may succumb to the Rake through her yearning to be free of the constraints of virtue and decency. Indeed it is often the most virtuous woman who falls most deeply in love with the Rake.
Among the Rake’s most seductive qualities is his ability to make women want to reform him. How many thought they would be the one to tame Lord Byron; how many of Picasso’s women thought they would finally be the one with whom he would spend the rest of his life. You must exploit this tendency to the fullest. When caught red-handed in rakishness, fall back on your weakness—your desire to change, and your inability to do so. With so many women at your feet, what can you do? You are the one who is the victim. You need help. Women will jump at this opportunity; they are uncommonly indulgent of the Rake, for he is such a pleasant, dashing figure. The desire to reform him disguises the true nature of their desire, the secret thrill they get from him. When President Bill Clinton was clearly caught out as a Rake, it was women who rushed to his defense, finding every possible excuse for him. The fact that the Rake is so devoted to women, in his own strange way, makes him lovable and seductive to them.
Finally, a Rake’s greatest asset is his reputation. Never downplay your bad name, or seem to apologize for it. Instead, embrace it, enhance it. It is what draws women to you. There are several things you must be known for: your irresistible attractiveness to women; your uncontrollable devotion to pleasure (this will make you seem weak, but also exciting to be around); your disdain for convention; a rebellious streak that makes you seem dangerous. This last element can be slightly hidden; on the surface, be polite and civil, while letting it be known that behind the scenes you are incorrigible. Duke de Richelieu made his conquests as public as possible, exciting other women’s competitive desire to join the club of the seduced. It was by reputation that Lord Byron attracted his willing victims. A woman may feel ambivalent about President Clinton’s reputation, but beneath that ambivalence is an underlying interest. Do not leave your reputation to chance or gossip; it is your life’s artwork, and you must craft it, hone it, and display it with the care of an artist.
The Rake burns with a desire thatenflames the woman he is seducing. It isextreme, uncontrollable, and dangerous. The Rake mayend in hell, but the flames surrounding him oftenmakehim seem that much more desirable to women.
Like the Siren, the Rake faces the most danger from members of his own sex, who are far less indulgent than women are of his constant skirt chasing. In the old days, a Rake was often an aristocrat, and no matter how many people he offended or even killed, in the end he would go unpunished. Today, only stars and the very wealthy can play the Rake with impunity; the rest of us need to be careful.
Elvis Presley had been a shy young man. Attaining early stardom, and seeing the power it gave him over women, he went berserk, becoming a Rake almost overnight. Like many Rakes, Elvis had a predilection for women who were already taken. He found himself cornered by an angry husband or boyfriend on numerous occasions, and came away with a few cuts and bruises. This might seem to suggest that you should step lightly around husbands and boyfriends, especially early on in your career. But the charm of the Rake is that such dangers don’t matter to them. You cannot be a Rake by being fearful and prudent; the occasional pummeling is part of the game. Later on, in any case, at the height of Elvis’s fame, no husband would dare touch him.
The greater danger for the Rake comes not from the violently offended husband but from those insecure men who feel threatened by the Don Juan figure. Although they will not admit it, they envy the Rake’s life of pleasure, and like everyone envious, they will attack in hidden ways, often masking their persecutions as morality. The Rake may find his career endangered by such men (or by the occasional woman who is equally insecure, and who feels hurt because the Rake does not want her). There is little the Rake can do to avoid envy; if everyone was as successful in seduction, society would not function.
So accept envy as a badge of honor. Don’t be naive, be aware. When attacked by a moralist persecutor, do not be taken in by their crusade; it is motivated by envy, pure and simple. You can blunt it by being less of a Rake, asking forgiveness, claiming to have reformed, but this will damage your reputation, making you seem less lovably rakish. In the end, it is better to suffer attacks with dignity and keep on seducing. Seduction is the source of your power; and you can always count on the infinite indulgence of women.
the Ideal lover
Mostpeople have dreams in theiryouth that get shattered or worndown with age. They find themselves disappointedby people, events, reality, which cannotmatch their youthful ideals. Ideal Lovers thriveon people’s broken dreams, which become lifelongfantasies. You long for romance? Adventure? Loftyspiritual communion? The Ideal Lover reflects yourfantasy. He or she is an artist in creating the illusionyou require, idealizing your portrait. In aworld of disenchantment and baseness,there is limitless seductive power infollowing the path of theIdeal Lover.
The Romantic Ideal
One evening around 1760, at the opera in the city of Cologne, a beautiful young woman sat in her box, watching the audience. Beside her was her husband, the town burgomaster—a middle-aged man and amiable enough, but dull. Through her opera glasses the young woman noticed a handsome man wearing a stunning outfit. Evidently her stare was noticed, for after the opera the man introduced himself: his name was Giovanni Giacomo Casanova.
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Table of ContentsThe Art of SeductionAcknowledgments
Part One: The Seductive Character
A man is often secretly oppressed by the role he has to play - by always having to be responsible, in control, and rational. The Siren is the ultimate male fantasy figure because she offers a total release from the limitations of his life. In her presence, which is always heightened and sexually charged, the male feels transported to a realm of pure pleasure. In a world where women are often too timid to project such an image, learn to take control of the male libido by embodying his fantasy.
A woman never quite feels desired and appreciated enough. She wants attention, but a man is too often distracted and unresponsive. The Rake is a great female fantasy-figure - when he desires a woman, brief though that moment may be, he will go to the ends of the earth for her. He may be disloyal, dishonest, and amoral, but that only adds to his appeal. Stir a woman's repressed longing by adapting the Rake's mix of danger and pleasure.
The Ideal Lover
Most people have dreams in their youth that get shattered or worn down with age. They find themselves disappointed by people, events, reality, which cannot match their youthful ideals. Ideal Lovers thrive on people's broken dreams, which become lifelong fantasies. You long for romance? Adventure? Lofty spiritual communioin? The Ideal Lover reflects your fantasy. He or she is an artist in creating the illusion you require. In a world of disenchantment and baseness, there is limitless seductive power in following the path of the Ideal Lover.
Most of us feel trapped within the limited role that the world expects us to play. We are instantly attracted to those who are more fluid than we are - those who create their own persona. Dandies excite us because they cannot be categorized, and hint at a freedom we want for ourselves. They play with masculinity and femininity; they fashion their own physical image, which is always startling. Use the power of the Dandy to create an ambiguous, alluring presence that stirs repressed desires.
Childhood is the golden paradise we are always consciously or unconsciously trying to re-create. The Natural embodies the longed-for qualities of childhood - spontaneity, sincerity, unpretentiousness. In the presence of Naturals, we feel at ease, caught up in their playful spirit, transported back to that golden age. Adopt the pose of the Natural to neutralize people's defensivenss and infect them with helpless delight.
The ability to delay satisfaction is the ultimate art of seducction - while waiting, the victim is held in thrall. Coquettes are the grand masters of the game, orchestrating a back-and-forth movement between hope and frustration. They bait with the promise of reward - the hope of physical pleasure, happiness, fame by association, power - all of which, however, proves elusive; yet this only makes their targets pursue them the more. Imitate the alternating heat and coolness of the Coquette and you will keep the seduced at your heels.
Charm is seduction without sex. Charmers are consummate manipulators, masking their cleverness by creating a mood of pleasure and comfort. Their method is simple: They deflect attention from themselves and focus it on their target. They understand your spirit, feel your pain, adapt to your moods. In the presence of a Charmer you feel better about yourself. Learn to cast the Charmer's spell by aiming at people's primary weaknesses: vanity and self-esteem.
Charisma is a presence that excites us. It comes from an inner quality - self-confidence, sexual energy, sense of purpose, contentment - that most people lack and want. This quality radiates outward, permeating the gestures of Charismatics, making them seem extraordinary and superior. They learn to heighten their charisma with a piercing gaze, fiery oratory, an air of mystery. Create the charismatic illusion by radiating intensity while remaining detached.
Daily life is harsh, and most of us constantly seek escape from it in fantasies and dreams. Stars feed on this weakness; standing out from others through a distinctive and appealing style, they make us want to watch them. At the same time, they are vague and ethereal, keeping their distance, and letting us imagine more than is there. Their dreamlike quality works on our unconscious. Learn to become an object of fascination by projecting the glittering but elusive presence of the Star.
Seducers draw you in by the focused, individualized attention they pay to you. Anti-seducers are the opposite: insecure, self-absorbed, and unable to grasp the psychology of another person, they literally repel. Anti-Seducers have no self-awareness, and never realize when they are pestering, imposing, talking too much. Root out anti-seductive qualities in yourself, and recognize them in others - there is no pleasure or profit in dealing with the Anti-Seducer.
The Seducer's Victims - The Eighteen Types
Part Two: The Seductive Process
PHASE ONE: SEPARATION - STIRRING INTEREST AND DESIRE
1. Choose the Right Victim
Everything depends on the target of your seduction. Study your prey throughly, and choose only those who will prove susceptible to your charms. The right victims are those for whom you can fill a void, who see in you something exotic. They are often isolated or unhappy, or can easily be made so - for the completely contented person is almost impossible to seduce. The perfect victim has some quality that inspires strong emotions in you, making your seductive manuevers seem more natural and dynamic. The perfect victim allows for the perfect chase.
2. Create a False Sense of Security - Approach Indirectly
If you are too direct early on, you risk stirring up a resistance that will never be lowered. At first there must be nothing of the seducer in your manner. The seduction should begin at an angle, indirectly, so that the target only gradually becomes aware of you. Haunt the periphery of your target's life - approach through a third party, or seem to cultivate a relatively neutral relationship, moving gradually from friend to lover. Lull the target into feeling secure, then strike.
3. Send Mixed Signals
Once people are aware of your presence, and perhaps vaguely intrigued, you need to stir their interest before it settles on someone else. Most of us are much too obvious - instead, be hard to figure out. Send mixed signals: both tough and tender, both spiritual and earthly, both innocent and cunning. A mix of qualities suggests depth, which fascinates even as it confuses. An elusive, enigmatic aura will make people want to know more, drawing them into your circle. Create such a power by hinting at something contraditory within you.
4. Appear to Be an Object of Desire - Create Triangles
Few are drawn to the person whom others avoid or neglect; people gather around those who have already attracted interest. To draw your victims closer and make them hungry to possess you, you must create an aura of desirability - of being wanted and courted by many. It will become a point of vanity for them to be the preferred object of your attention, to win you away from a crowd of admirers. Build a reputation that precedes you: If many have succumbed to your charms, there must be a reason.
5. Create a Need - Stir Anxiety and Discontent
A perfectly satisfied person cannot be seduced. Tension and disharmony must be instilled in your targets' minds. Stir within them feelings of discontent, an unhappiness with their circumstances and with themselves. The feelings of inadequacy that you create will give you space to insinuate yourself, to make them see you as the answer to their problems. Pain and anxiety are the proper precursors to pleasure. Learn to manufacture the need that you can fill.
6. Master the Art of Insinuation
Making your targets feel dissatisfied and in need of your attention is essential, but if you are too obvious, they will see through you and grow defensive. There is no known defense, however, against insinuation - the art of planting ideas in people's minds by dropping elusive hints that take root days later, even appearing to them as their own idea. Create a sublanguage - bold statements followed by retraction and apology, ambiguous comments, banal talk combined with alluring glances - that enters the target's unconscious to convey your real meaning. Make everything suggestive.
7. Enter Their Spirit
Most people are locked in their own worlds, making them stubborn and hard to persuade. The way to lure them out of their shell and set up your seduction is to enter their spirit. Play by their rules, enjoy what they enjoy, adapt yourself to their moods. In doing so you will stroke their deep-rooted narcissism and lower their defenses. Indulge your targets' every mood and whim, giving them nothing to react against or resist.8. Create Temptation
Lure the target deep into your seduction by creating the proper temptation: a glimpse of the pleasures to come. As the serpent tempted Eve with the promise of forbidden knowledge, you must awaken a desire in your targets that they cannot control. Find that weakness of theirs, that fantasy that has yet to be realized, and hint that you can lead them toward it. The key is to keep it vague. Stimulate a curiosity stronger than the doubts and anxieties that go with it, and they will follow you.PHASE TWO: LEAD ASTRAY - CREATING PLEASURE AND CONFUSION
9. Keep Them in Suspense - What Comes Next?
The moment people feel they know what to expect from you, your spell on them is broken. More: You have ceded them power. The only way to lead the seduced along and keep the upper hand is to create suspense, a calculated surprise. Doing something they do not expect from you will give them a delightful sense of spontaneity - they will not be able to foresee what comes next. You are always one step ahead and in control. Give the victim a thrill with a sudden change of direction.10. Use the Demonic Power of Words to Sow Confusion
It is hard to make people listen; they are consumed with their own thoughts and desires, and have little time for yours. The trick to making them listen is to say what they want to hear, to fill their ears with whatever is pleasant to them. This is the essence of seductive language. Inflame people's emotions with loaded phrses, flatter them, comfort their insecurities, envelop them in sweet words and promises, and not only will they listen to you, they will lose their will to resist you.11. Pay Attention to Detail
Lofty words of love and grand gestures can be suspicious: Why are you trying so hard to please? The details of a seduction - the subtle gestures, the offhand things you do - are often more charming and revealing. You must learn to distract your victims with a myriad of pleasant little rituals - thoughtful gifts tailored just for them, clothes and adornments designed to please them, gestures that show the time and attention you are paying them. Mesmerized by what they see, they will not notice what you are really up to.12. Poeticize Your Presence
Important things happen when your targets are alone: The slightest feeling of relief that you are not there, and it is all over. Familiarity and overexposure will cause this reaction. Remain elusive, then. Intrigue your targets by alternating an exciting presence with a cool distance, exuberant moments followed by calculated absences. Associate yourself with poetic images and objects, so that when they think of you, they begin to see you through an idealized halo. The more you figure in their minds, the more they will envelop you in seductive fantasies.13. Disarm Through Strategic Weakness and Vulnerability
Too much manuevering on your part may raise suspicion. The best way to cover your tracks is to make the other person feel superior and stronger. If you seem to be weak, vulnerable, enthralled by the other person, and unable to control yourself, you will make your actions look more natural, less calculated. Physical weakness - tears, bashfulness, paleness - will help create the effect. Play the victim, then transform your target's sympathy into love.14. Confuse Desire and Reality - The Perfect Illusion
To compensate for the difficulties in their lives, people spend a lot of their time daydreaming, imagining a future full of adventure, success, and romance. If you can create the illusion that through you they can live out their dreams, you will have them at your mercy. Aim at secret wishes that have been thwarted or repressed, stirring up uncontrollable emotions, clouding their powers of reason. Lead the seduced to a point of confusion in which they can no longer tell the difference between illusion and reality.15. Isolate the Victim
An isolated person is weak. By slowly isolating your victims, you make them more vulnerable to your influence. Take them away from their normal milieu, friends, family, home. Give them the sense of being marginalized, in limbo - they are leaving one world behind and entering another. Once isolated like this, they have no outside support, and in their confusion they are easily led astray. Lure the seduced into your lair, where nothing is familiar.PHASE THREE: THE PRECIPICE - DEEPENING THE EFFECT THROUGH EXTREME MEASURES
16. Prove Yourself
Most people want to be seduced. If they resist your efforts, it is probably because you have not gone far enough to allay their doubts - about your motives, the depth of your feelings, and so on. One well-timed action that shows how far you are willing to go to win them over will dispel their doubts. Do not worry about looking foolish or making a mistake - any kind of deed that is self-sacrificing and for your targets' sake will so overwhelm their emotions, they won't notice anything else.17. Effect a Regression
People who have experienced a certain kind of pleasure in the past will try to repeat or relive it. The deepest-rooted and most pleasurable memories are usually those from earliest childhood, and are often unconsciously associated with a parental figure. Bring your targets back to that point by placing yourself in the oedipal triangle and positioning them as the needy child. Unaware of the cause of their emotional response, they will fall in love with you.18. Stir Up the Transgressive and Taboo
There are alway social limits on what one can do. Some of these, the most elemental taboos, go back centuries; others are more superficial, simply defining polite and acceptable behavior. Making your targets feel that you are leading them past either kind of limit is immensely seductive. People yearn to explore their dark side. Once the desire to transgress draws your targets to you, it will be hard for them to stop. Take them farther than they imagined - the shared feeling of guilt and complicity will create a powerful bond.19. Use Spiritual Lures
Everyone has doubts and insecurities - about their body, their self-worth, their sexuality. If your seduction appeals exclusively to the physical, you will stir up these doubts and make your targets self-conscious. Instead, lure them out of their insecurities by making them focus on something sublime and spiritual: a religious experience, a lofty work of art, the occult. Lost in a spiritual mist, the target will feel light and uninhibited. Deepen the effect of your seduction by making its sexual culmination seem like the spiritual union of two souls.20. Mix Pleasure with Pain
The greatest mistake in seduction is being too nice. At first, perhaps, your kindness is charming, but it soon grows monotonous; you are trying too hard to please, and seem insecure. Instead of overwhelming your targets with niceness, try inflicting some pain. Make them feel guilty and insecure. Instigate a breakup - now a rapprochement, a return to your earlier kindness, will turn them weak at the knees. The lower the lows you create, the greater the highs. To heighten the erotic charge, create the excitement of fear.PHASE FOUR: MOVING IN FOR THE KILL
21. Give Them Space to Fall - The Pursuer Is Pursued
If your targets become too used to you as the aggressor, they will give less of their own energy, and the tension will slacken. You need to wake them up, turn the tables. Once they are under your spell, take a step back and they will start to come after you. Hint that you are growing bored. Seem interested in someone else. Soon they will want to possess you physically, and restraint will go out the window. Create the illusion that the seducer is being seduced.22. Use Physical Lures
Targets with active minds are dangerous: If they see through your manipulations, they may suddenly develop doubts. Put their minds gently to rest, and waken their dormant senses, by combining a nondefensive attitude with a charged sexual presence. While your cool, nonchalant air is lowering their inhibitions, your glances, voice, and bearing - oozing sex and desire - are getting under their skin and raising their temperature. Never force the physical; instead inflect your targets with heat, lure them into lust. Morality, judgment, and concern for the future will all melt away.23. Master the Art of the Bold Move
A moment has arrived: Your victim clearly desires you, but is not ready to admit it openly, let alone act on it. This is the time to throw aside chivalry, kindness and coquetry and to overwhelm with a bold move. Don't give the victim time to consider the consequences. Showing hesitation or awkwardness means you are thinking of yourself, as opposed to being overwhelmed by the victim's charms. One person must go on the offensive, and it is you.24. Beware the Aftereffects
Danger follows in the aftermath of a successful seduction. After emotions have reached a pitch, they often swing in the opposite direction - toward lassitude, distrust, disappointment. If you are to part, make the sacrifice swift and sudden. If you are to stay in a relationship, beware a flagging of energy, a creeping familiarity that will spoil the fantasy. A second seduction is required. Never let the other person take you for granted - use absence, create pain and conflict, to keep the seduced on tenterhooks.
Appendix A: Seductive Environment/Seductive Time
Appendix B: Soft Seduction: How to Sell Anything to the Masses
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
If you just want to get laid there are many easier books out there which can help you accomplish that. However, if you really want to know how to get under someone's skin there is no better book. This book is not evil. this book is a technology. It is a lot like a chainsaw. If you use a chainsaw for what it was meant to be used for, you can do things with it that are great- you can cut down the tree that is about to fall on your house, you can cut timber to build a new one, or even get some wood for a cozy fire. However, we also all know that we can use a chainsay for purposes that are evil. You can use this information for good or for evil. The choice is up to you. This book will show you the character traits that people love and how to use them for mutual benefit. It will help you learn how to give and receive pleasure. If you want to use these techniques for self enrichment, you can do that too. The number one lesson of the book for women is that any woman can seduce almost any man if she is a sexual woman, a fun playmate, and looks for the best in a men and draws it out. Any man will fall in love with a woman like that. Likewise, for a man, almost any woman will fall in love with a man who is able to express his sexual desires in a classy way, who is able to relax and let a woman feel attached to him, who provides romance, and who pays attention to her. The book clearly spells uout the fact that we are seduced by that which we are missing. Nobody wants to be around those who are insecure or are simply miserable SOB's. We love those people who are able to create their own reality which is fun, happy, and pleasant. We love the people who only see the good in us and not the bad- those who make us feel good about ourselves. Finally, seducers are able to indirectly create interest and desire, enter the spirit of the other person, go out on a limb for others, lead the other person astray, provide pleasure, pull back a little to make the other person chase them, and finally make the bold move to seal the deal. This book gives examples of how the world's most seductive people have done these things, sometimes for their own benefit, and sometimes for mutual benefit. How you use the techniques and develop your own personality is up to you. This book helps you understand those people around you. You will be able to help them root out components of their personality that hurt them. If I could give the book 10 stars I would. It is neither good nor evil. It is about the truth about hman nature. How you use its wisdom is up to you.
Regardless of whether one finds the seduction methods Mr. Greene proposes useful, The Art of Seduction is filled with fascinating historical examples of different personality types, and for this reason alone I recommend this book. That being said, the book is useful only insofar as you are 1.) male, 2.) relatively new to the concept of behaviour modification in response to different personalities, and 3.) in a relationship with an individual who clearly fits one of the eighteen types Mr. Greene identifies. If you are none of the above, then I suspect you will enjoy this book nonetheless; however, its usefulness for you may be diminished. If you are a woman looking for methods of enjoying more successful relationships with men, I recommend reading Sherry Argov's Why Men Love B*tches in conjunction with The Art of Seduction. This will provide a more well-rounded approach to your situation, and will make you a virtual savant in relationships. ~KV
The biggest problem I had with Mr. Greene's book was that he reduces seduction down to simple psychology instead of what it is, an art. Yes, he did his research about the great seducers of history, but he analyzes it in such a logical manner (as if love and seduction were logical) that it didn't convince me. He lists several seduction strategies and personalities and asks you to find your style as if it were a pair of shoes, and tries to make you believe that if you follow his step-by-step guide you'll seduce anyone. Well, I have to disagree with him. I think it takes a lot more than just being psychologically dexterous to seduce a person. If it were as easy as getting a Masters Degree in psychology, everyone in the mental health profession would have an enviable love life, and I truly don't think that is the case.
It doesn't matter whether you think this book is made from pure evil or not. This book speaks of truth, undeniable truth. I learned things about myself through this book, about why I loved my ex so much and what mistakes I made in trying to get her back. Like all power it can be used for evil, but it may also be used for good.
This book will clear up a lot of issues you might have and misconceptions about the art of seduction. Mr. Greene really knows what he's talking about and you can tell it as you read. The book is in-depth and a real eye opener.
I was a little skeptical about this book, but it turned out to be a fantastic read. True, it does come off as a bit amoral, but the lessons taught can be applied to interactions of all sorts. Greene does a fantastic job of supporting examples that include not just sexual seduction but ones of politics and personal succcess as well.
This book is topflight!! Anyone who thinks other wise is only confirming deep-rooted timidity within themselves. The research based examples serve as reminders that the laws of seduction have been in place since the beginning of time. The only problem has been that we humans have been too blind to see them enforced in our worlds around us.I can't say enough about this MASTERPIECE. It is truly the art of war for delicate times. Who can ever win such a war of the hearts unless he has the right tools for battle? I say this book could turn millions of minds on if people took time to absorb the knowledge that oozes from its pages. All those who think otherwise are more than likely stuck in a mental rut and have become bogged down with their own personal boring routines... If you read nothing else to improve your self-image, Self-confidence--Gentlemen I strongly recommend this one for your library!!! I have no doubts that you will refer to it often whether it be for knowledge or leisure reading...We all need to know these things if we are to be successful in the arena of love and passion... If you are smart you will take some time to learn the game that women have played on us for centuries
I had such a great time reading this book, that I'm actually picking it up again and reading it! The book is rather seductive itself by not only offering some rather interesting advice, but it also touches on the history of some of the world's most famous seducers. These are not techniques that I would suggest that one do in real life though, but I would suggest it if someone were looking for something fun - and incredibly engaging to read.
Exquisitely written, packed with useful, real-world tips and historical examples ranging from Cleopatra to Bill Clinton. Don't be fooled by the title - the books lessons can be applied in business, politics, work, family, friends, co-workers, not just significant others. If you have superbly high morals and are offended at the appearance of anything but innocence, this book isn't for you. But if you're are sharp, witty, intelligent and cunning and would like to know how to get what you want easier, quicker and better - its a MUST READ.
I am not surprised that some people are offended by the title and content of the book. It touches forbidden areas of the soul. That said, Part Two of the book reads more like a movie script than a how-to manual. In fact, much of Part Two -- the 'techniques' part -- uses literature to demonstrate its points. Roman novels, 10th century Japanese novels, 18th and 19th century French novels, 19th/20th century British plays, etc. Not good, for drama by its nature is drama, as in not real on a day to day basis. In addition, the author seems to have great admiration for the various seducers of women of chaste young virtue, or men of great power. In his view, the essence of capturing a young 'victim' was throwing money at her in spectacular form; the essence of capturing a powerful 'victim' was promising sex that never quite arrived, or at least didn't arrive until much was spent by the victim. Part Two -- 'techniques' -- did not give the impression the author believed in the potential for relationships where the sum of the couple was greater than the individuals. Most of Part Two part can be skimmed without major loss. The Part One of the book, which defines character types, defines in realistic detail the types of roles assumed by various seducers (man and women both). In this I could recognize real people of my acquaintence. The Part One lists in almost casual detail types of 'victims' (a term all too frequently used by the author to the detriment of the book), and what causes 'victim' deep down to be longing to be seduced. The details here is not quite are as defining as in seducer types, and the author shows some sense of distain for the 'victims' (who after all are getting what THEY want). Overall, the book does a decent job of detailing that most people are egocentric and how to 'take advantage' of that by stroking the ego of the 'target'. Is that bad? Some would say yes, but as Noel Coward said, 'In most relationships one person loves while the other person allows themselves to be loved'. This reviewer believes in the potential for involved relationships where each person can't think of a place they would rather be, but I have also found myself being drawn in 'like a moth to a flame' on occasion. Perhaps I better understand myself in this context now. Three stars.
Review after review claims that this to too 'creepy', harsh or just too evil. It strikes me as quite odd. My impression is the total opposite. There is one thing con artist, manipulators and seducers all have in common: They understand basic human nature. Many of these things we don't want to admitt to, but they are true. Reflecting upon yourself while reading this book will reveal as much, if your honest with yourself. While many will be 'seduced' into using this 'power' for their own gain, if one is so inclined, he/she could use it for great good. The anonymous gift is often the most rewarding, right? Well 'the art of seduction' allows you to do just that. (assuming you don't have the need to make sure everyone knows how 'nice' you are) 'The art of Seduction' has opened doors in my life, taught me things that only years of experience and deep reflection could give me. It is not only about sexual seduction. It's about communicating in a different way, a more productive way. If all you can think about is deception while you glance through, then that is what you will use it for. Read it. Have an open and honest mind. Learn from what history has whispered. The question is, will you let this power improve your life and others around you, or will you use it to simply take what you want, without care to others?
Not just about sexual seduction but about social seduction. Baiting and setting the hook in people in general. I read it once and now I'm reading it again.
Coordinating Conjunctions! I agree with the review on this page entitled "Didn't seduce me." Mr. Greene's work is an interesting history of some of the great seducers. The book also summarizes the main psychological undercurrents which are generally involved in seduction. It should not be considered a textbook or training manual for seduction. The reader is not far into the book before it becomes apparent to him that the book is for entertainment only. Most important, if you, the reader, consider yourself a linguist or if you are generally fond of language, I warn you that Mr. Greene's work will aggravate, unmercifully, that part of your brain which cringes in pain at eloquence's opposite. Greene has either forgotten, or has completely ignored, the coordinating conjunctions of the English language and has developed a nasty habit of ending almost every sentence in a redundant dangling clause. Therefore, buyer beware. If I happen to obtain Mr. Greene's email address at the Department of Redundancy Department, I shall send him a note saying "and, or, but, for, nor, yet, so."
This book is facinating! It might be amoral for some, but it is part of the dark truth in our human nature and so intriguing to read and learn about.
For folklore, and romantic to treacherous seduction, Greene's historical tale here is a work of art. This is a sardonic, yet often profound view of the use of persuasion and influence, in situations that are borderline a tad unnerving. This book is a synthesis of philosophy and psychology, and is paradigm breaking. Freud must have had a similar unnerving effect on his contemporaries when he discussed premises for behavior that were previously not part of social discourse. The author expands his global metaphor of 'life as war' from his book the 48 Laws of Power into love and spirituality! This may not be the most effective metaphor for everyone to use, with all of the paranoid, elitist women in today's culture. But it sure is interesting. Lots of conflict and struggles, and subconscious steering of ones emotions. For the modern Casanova, Greene's seduction stories are far too dated and chivalrous to translate into today's world, but rest assured they are in a word, fascinating. I found that it's uses were not applicable so much in the modern era of women and the entitlement mentality. If you like a comparable use of sexual influence, toying and subconscious steering of ones emotions to lure in women, I suggest The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho by Dr. Tate. It encompasses very effective persuasion tactics to entice your targets and victims, who, let's be realistic, want to be seduced, or they wouldn't allow it to happen.
As is only appropriate, this small volume is sleek and appealing, with a glossy cover that draws the eye. It begs to be opened. Go ahead - the reward is a bonbon box full of clever diversions that might be handy if you use them right, a bit naughty if you don¿t, and even slyly humorous if you catch the whiff of satire. The text is broken into small - dare one say it, intimate? - morsels that you can read in stolen snatches of time. Author Robert Greene¿s observations on how to seduce (that is, persuade) are bordered with quotations from authors, philosophers and lovers, all offering entertaining support. However, potential seducers should note two key points. First, while Greene delivers his advice in terms of sexual seduction, if you are careful and interpretative, you may be able to apply pieces of it to general persuasion, including in business. On the downside, many of his techniques are pointedly sexy, over-the-top, amoral or manipulative. We thus recommend this book to those who study human nature for its own sake and for fun those who will apply or modify any techniques to attain power over others or those with the self-discipline to glean the gems, but turn away from taking unethical or illegal advantage.
Many will be disconcerted with the premise of the book (make no mistake, it does not teach you 'how to be a predator' or anything atrocious like that). Truth scares people, and this book is chock full of truth. Growing up brainwashed by disney-esque romance stories, many young men today have honestly forgotten that love does not merely 'happen' like magic, and -nobody- is attracted to a passivist. There are a lot of people out there who, honest-to-goodness, simply never learned how to attract a mate and remain attractive to them. Women have actually broken up with me for not knowing and applying the basic concepts this book teaches! This is not sexist stuff, both men and women can benefit greatly from the overall message of this material. Read this book, it will be very eye-opening for some and a good reminder for everyone else.
This book is so advanced and filled with truth. I apply it in my every day life and I see results. This book can work with single women and you're wife or girlfriend. From making women feel happy to making them feel sorry for you. Mix emotions are best for seducing.To dressing to impress, women love a well dressed man. I even get women stird up with deep eye contact. This book just made me a better player.
I can see where everyone is coming from with regard to the 'manipulation' of people. Nonetheless, I still believe this is a good book. It's helpful in the discernment of people's characters, and how to work around their quirks. It is NOT a how-to book, and I don't think the author intended it to be taken so literally. One has to remember that many of the examples cited (particularly the more scandalous, 'manipulative' ones) are those of classical literature (i.e. FICTION). It offers insights on the many ways to 'seduce' (i.e. charm, manipulate, communicate with, etc) a person. It's a tool for self-discovery, and can be applied in different scenarios: in love, at work, with friends, with acquaintances, etc. After reading this, you'll assess your strengths as a seducer and your possible weaknesses as a victim. You'll be able to apply certain aspects of the book to your own circumstances. However, you will NOT be the ultimate seducer. Take the book lightly; it's not meant to be anyone's bible.
This was a great book and very education. This is my first Robert Greene novel and I am totally hooked. Next I'm looking to read "The 48 Laws of POWER", I can't wait.
Good book, plenty of examples from seducers of earlier times.
If you read this book with an open mind, it will captivate you