This essential guide for all military families provides helpful advice and reassurance on topics ranging from boot camp, to deployment, to PTSD, from a former "Army brat" turned mother of four military kids.When you enlist in the United States military, you don't just sign up for duty; you also commit your loved ones to lives of service all their own.No one knows this better than Elaine Brye, an "Army brat" turned military wife and the mother of four officers-one each in the Army, Navy, Air Force, and Marine Corps. For more than a decade she's endured countless teary goodbyes, empty chairs at Thanksgiving dinners, and sleepless hours waiting for phone calls in the night. She's navigated the complicated tangle of emotions that are part and parcel of life as a military mother.Be Safe, Love Mom braids together Elaine's own personal experiences with those of fellow parents she's met along the way. She offers gentle guidance and hard-earned wisdom on topics ranging from that first anxious goodbye to surrendering all control of your child, from finding comfort in the support of the military community and the healing power of faith to coping with the enormous sacrifices life as a military mother requires.With hard-to-come-by information and encouragement that is like advice from a wise and trusted friend, Be Safe, Love Mom is an essential handbook to membership in a strong and special sisterhood.
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About the Author
Elaine Lowry Brye, an avid supporter of and advocate for military families, served as a longtime moderator for the USNA-Parents listserv and was one of the founding organizers of its parent community website and Facebook page. She became a national figure when she introduced Michelle Obama at the 2012 Democratic Convention. She lives with her husband in northeast Ohio.
Nan Gatewood Satter, a writer and independent book editor, is the daughter of a highly decorated Navy fighter pilot. She lives with her husband and son in New York's Hudson Valley.
Table of Contents
Author's Note ix
Letting Go 19
You're in the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines Now 21
Becoming a Warrior 31
Semper Gumby 43
From Ballet Slippers to Combat Boots 53
Oh, the Places They'll Go 73
You Are Not Alone 85
The Sisterhood and Bevond 87
The Biggest Family in the World 99
Love in the Mail 107
It's Okay If You Break Down in the Dairy Aisle 115
Support from Unexpected Places 125
What Holds Us Together 133
I Believe in Miracles 135
Climb Every Mountain 147
Nourish Your Soul 153
Sandals on the Ground 163
The Calling 181
Saying Goodbye Again and Again 193
The Things We Carry 203
It All Takes a Toll 215
The Sneaky Bastard 221
The Gold Star 229
No Guts, No Glory 237
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
As a military wife and Mom to now 3 members of the military both active and reserve, I find Elaine Brye to be a quintessential military Mom whose insights are spot on! Elaine and Nan both have brought forth a delightful book which is a must read for any parent of a military member. One of the challenges I had not fathomed about my new role as a military Mom, was the loss of daily connection with my child during their initial training, deployments made it even tougher. The authors speak to this with humor, understanding, and sometimes with a "get it together, Mom" attitude - which is so valuable. So many times found myself recalling similar feelings and situations as I read the book. The inclusion of the experiences of other Moms was heartening. Knowing their are "sisters" out there in the same situation is a sanity saver. If you know of a new military parent, get this book in their hands.
I first got to know Elaine through the US Naval Academy parents' list-serve, where she offered advice and support to all of us parents new to military life. She helped guide and mentor us to become "Semper Gumby" parents-always flexible! I am not from a military family, so to watch my son leave for the US Naval Academy was quite a shock. Elaine's book should be recommended reading for all parents who are letting go of their children as they enter military service. I laughed, cried, and felt supported reading her book, and especially know that I am not alone-I belong to the strong Sisterhood of Military Moms!
This book has helped me cope with my 19 year old son going into the army on my birthday last year. October 30th 2017. He has a three year contract and is in infantry third division military scout. He’s at Fort Hood Texas. I am so proud of him and I pray that he stays safe and when it’s time to come home he will be able to come home.