A powerful, raw story that is both unique and relatable showing us how to close the gap between the men we wish to be and how we are actually behaving. It's a courageous look at the doubts and fears we've learned not to talk about, and a reminder that together we can create a stronger, healthier understanding of what 'manhood' really means.
Three things I know to be true:
- Masculinity isn’t toxic
- There are a lot of good men in this world
- I can always be a better man
After three tragic words from a homicide detective changed my life, I found myself standing in front of the mirror morning after morning, shaking my head and saying “something’s gotta change, something’s gotta change.”
It was only when I looked at myself and added “maybe it’s you” that things really started to come together. If you’ve ever found yourself muttering those words, then this book is for you.
From stories of the escalating drug- and danger-fueled adventures of my misguided youth to my personal and professional triumphs and tragedies, I share with you 32 of the most powerful lessons I have learned. I explore the impact that emotion has on human behavior and the importance of allowing men to simply slow down and feel.
These entertaining, inspiring, real-life stories will
- help you connect with your sense of purpose,
- allow you to create stronger relationships, and
- offer you practices you can implement right now.
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About the Author
Mike founded the Ignore No More Foundation to help support education and awareness events engaging men and boys in the gender equity conversation. His keynotes addressing the importance of emotional intelligence have been heard all across North America. His 2017 Tedx "The Way Men Think of Strong Is Wrong," urges society to help redefine what it means to be a badass.
Table of Contents
There is a lot of talk these days about “Toxic Masculinity.” With that, I feel that there is a lot of misunderstanding of the term. I do not use this term at all in the book but felt compelled to address it here. I do not believe that masculinity in and of itself is toxic. There is nothing toxic about having a beer with the boys, scratching your nuts in public, playing sports, being physically strong or sporting a beard. That said, a lot of the societal stereotypes of masculinity that are pushed upon men are potentially toxic.
This book is not a “calling out” or even a “calling in.” It is a recount of my continual quest to become a better man. It is not prescriptive; it is not all encompassing, and I am certainly no expert. My objective is to spark you to challenge your thinking and perhaps look for new ways to define “success” for yourself. It is my way of sharing my feelings and in turn inspire you to give yourself permission to share yours.
The creation of this book has taken almost 5 years to complete. It encapsulates the incredible journey that has been my life and the lessons I have learned along the way. At times I found myself running with the kind of pack that I now hope to see become completely eradicated: men who subscribed to the negative hyper-masculine tropes that need to become a thing of the past. This book is my effort to assist with that. I hope you will find the stories entertaining and that they will give you pause to reflect on some of the stories in your own life.
All of the events I share are true. In many instances I have changed names to respect the privacy of the individuals involved.
Maybe you’ll see some of yourself in my story.