Bully: An Action Plan for Teachers, Parents, and Communities to Combat the Bullying Crisis

Bully: An Action Plan for Teachers, Parents, and Communities to Combat the Bullying Crisis


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A companion book to the acclaimed documentary film that inspired a national conversation, BULLY is packed with information and resources for teachers, parents, and anyone who cares about the more than 13 million children who will be bullied in the United States this year. From commentary about life after BULLY by the filmmakers and the families in the film, to the story of how Katy Butler’s petition campaign helped defeat the MPAA’s “R” rating, BULLY takes the story of the film beyond the closing credits. Celebrity contributions combine with essays from experts, authors, government officials, and educators to offer powerful insights and concrete steps to take, making the book an essential part of an action plan to combat the bullying epidemic in America.

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ISBN-13: 9781602861848
Publisher: Hachette Books
Publication date: 09/25/2012
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 1,196,799
Product dimensions: 1.90(w) x 2.80(h) x 0.70(d)
Lexile: 1270L (what's this?)

About the Author

Lee Hirsch’s debut film, AMANDLA! A REVOLUTION IN FOUR PART HARMONY, is a feature documentary chronicling the history of the South African anti-apartheid struggle through a celebration of its musical heroes. This film was released to wide acclaim, winning the Audience and Freedom of Expression Awards at the 2002 Sundance Film Festival. Among the many honors the film received were five Emmy nominations and a win. Lee Hirsch was born and raised on Long Island, New York, and attended the Putney School in Vermont and Hampshire College. He currently lives in Manhattan.

Cynthia Lowen is an award-winning writer and recipient of the Discovery Prize. She is the coauthor of The Essential Guide to Bullying forthcoming from Alpha Books, and her work has been published widely in journals including A Public Space, Best New Poets 2008, Boston Review, Provincetown Arts, and Tin House, among others. She is also the producer of GOING HOME, a two-part documentary about teenage incarceration and recidivism. She lives in New York City.

Dina Santorelli is a freelance writer and editor who has written for a variety of publications, including Newsday, First for Women and CNNMoney.com. She is the coauthor of Good Girls Don’t Get Fat, a nonfiction book about girls’ self-esteem and body image (Harlequin, 2010), and currently serves as Executive Editor of Salute and Family magazines for which she has conducted numerous celebrity interviews. Her first novel, Baby Grand, will be published in fall 2012, and she blogs about the writing life at http://makingbabygrand.com. She lives on Long Island, New York.

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An Action Plan for Teachers, Parents, and Communities to Combat the Bullying Crisis
By Lee Hirsch Cynthia Lowen

Weinstein Books

Copyright © 2012 Weinstein Books
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-60286-184-8

Chapter One

Everything Starts with One

The documentary Bully began in the spring of 2009, with the conviction that NOW is the time for this film. It started with the voices of kids and parents, of teachers and administrators, of those who had been bullied decades ago and those who were targeted that day, coming into the light to talk about their experiences. Although bullying is not a new phenomenon, it is one that has been long shrouded in silence, shame, embarrassment, and helplessness. However, as the voices began to multiply, as more and more kids and adults courageously came forward to tell their stories and to speak to their commitment to change, so did the sense that Bully could catalyze a movement among youth, families, educators, and communities to turn the tide on bullying.

After three long years from production to the big screen, meeting kids, parents, and educators across the United States and documenting the many challenges and the hard-won triumphs, Bully arrived in theaters nationwide on April 13, 2012, with a PG-13 rating from the Motion Picture Association of America. The film's premiere in fifty-five cities across the U.S. was the culmination of hard work not only by the filmmakers, but by dozens of organizations and individuals partnering with the documentary to help promote its message and to make it accessible to those who need to see it most—our nation's young people.

A passion project for director Lee Hirsch and producer Cynthia Lowen, Bully became the little film that could, unifying a growing movement and rallying cry by shining a spotlight on a very big problem that for too long has gone unresolved—and unnoticed. By focusing on the specific struggles of five families, Bully provided a glimpse into the life of the bullied and how bullying is a problem that has become embedded in our schools. With its disturbing images of physical and emotional abuse, the film exposed the disconnects and communication breakdowns often found between parents and children, and families and schools, and tapped into a shift in the collective consciousness that says, "No longer should bullying be an individual or a private matter, or a rite of passage; instead, it is a social issue that concerns all of us, not just those who suffer in silence."

Bully is dedicated to the thirteen million children who will be bullied in the United States this year, as well as the generations of children who came before them, and to their families, whose cries for help have fallen upon deaf ears. With research showing that only 4 to 13 percent of middle- and high-school students indicate that they would report an incident of bullying to a teacher, administrator, or another school staff member, it is hoped that the film will encourage more students to speak out and trust that their stories will be both heard and taken seriously. It is also hoped that this film will inspire school systems across the nation to confront the bullying of students head-on with a whole-school approach that involves administrators, teachers, and counselors rather than with the well-intentioned but ineffective assurances, sympathetic looks, or shrugged shoulders of the past and that our nation's legislators will stand firm in their resolve to ensure that all students enjoy educational opportunities without discrimination or harassment.


Bullying is the most common form of violence experienced by young people in the nation. Every day, more than 160,000 students skip school because they are fearful of being bullied. According to the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI), the third most common location nationwide for a hate crime to occur is on a school or college campus—the FBI's Hate Crime Statistics, 2009 report states that 11.4 percent of hate crimes occur at schools or colleges, and 18.5 percent of those bullied were targeted because of their perceived sexual orientation. Additionally, in a survey commissioned by the Kaiser Family Foundation, more eight- to fifteen-year-olds picked teasing and bullying as "big problems" than those who picked drugs or alcohol, racism, AIDS, or pressure to have sex, and more African Americans saw bullying as a big problem for people their age than those who identified racism as one. Bullying is now considered a serious threat to students' ability to fully enjoy the educational opportunities and benefits of their schools.

Bullying is defined as an act of repeated physical or emotional victimization of a person by another person or a group. Although it's difficult to assign a number to describe the incidence of bullying, according to the National Center for Learning Disabilities, the collected statistics prove rather frightening:

* 10 percent of children report having been the victims of severe bullying at least once during the school year;

* 75 percent report being bullied at least once during the past ten months;

* 25 to 50 percent report being bullied at some point during their school years;

* 40 to 75 percent of bullying incidents in school take place during class breaks, in the lunchroom, bathroom, or hallways;

* 30 percent of children who suffer from food allergies report being bullied at school (sometimes by verbal taunting but more often, by having the allergen thrown or waved at them);

* 30 percent of children who report having been bullied said they sometimes brought weapons to school;

* 57 percent of the time when a peer intervenes in a bullying situation, the bullying stops within ten seconds; and

* the average bullying episode lasts only thirty-seven seconds, and school personnel are reported to notice or intervene in only one in twenty-five incidents (in contrast to another report where teachers said they intervened 71 percent of the time and students reported teachers taking action only 25 percent of the time).

There are many reasons—or, perhaps, no real reason at all—why bullying occurs. According to antibullying speaker and expert Dr. Joel Haber, as much as 95 percent of all bullying is perpetrated by those looking to protect or increase their status within a group. Bullies maintain what Haber calls their "imbalance of power" by zeroing in on the things that make others different. It may be that bullied children are overweight or tall or that they wear different clothes or speak with an accent. While the list really can include almost anything, the following are some of the groups at risk for being bulled:

* children stereotyped by cultural biases, including ethnicity and religious factors;

* children labeled with a sexual identity (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender youth);

* children who contradict gender stereotypes;

* children with social-skills deficits or special-education labels;

* loners, those who do not have support of their peers; and

* gifted children.

According to a study published in Gifted Child Quarterly in 2006 that examined 432 eighth graders in eleven states who were identified by their schools as gifted, more than two-thirds said they had been bullied at school and nearly one-third harbored violent thoughts as a result.

Bullying comes in many forms. Typically, most people envision bullying as a physical abuse of power: kicking, pushing, shoving, hitting, spitting, taking or breaking someone's personal belongings, knocking one's books down, shoving a child into a locker, or stealing someone's lunch money or food. However, there are other forms that are just as damaging. These include verbal bullying, which is more psychological in its intent and includes hurtful teasing, taunting, verbal threats, prejudicial remarks, and making fun of one's cultural heritage, and relational bullying, which is meant to damage another person's relationships through social isolation—gossiping, rumors, talking behind someone's back, eye-rolling or silence when a target walks in the room, or behavior meant to exclude someone from a clique.


Excerpted from Bully by Lee Hirsch Cynthia Lowen Copyright © 2012 by Weinstein Books . Excerpted by permission of Weinstein Books. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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Table of Contents

Prologue: Everything Starts with One 3

Part 1 The Film

The Making of Bully 13

Part 2 Alex 12

Alex's Story 27

Bullying and Children with Autism Spectrum Disorders Connie Anderson 29

The Truth About Bullying and LD Sheldon H. Horowitz 39

Part 3 Kelby 16

Kelby's Story 45

Bullying Has Legs… and Teeth Dr. Robyn Silverman 47

Free to Be… Not Anymore. Mario Thomas 61

Part 4 Ja'Meya 14

Ja'Meya's Story 69

A Little "I'm Sorry" Goes a Long Way Amy McCready 71

Girl Talk Haley Kilpatrick 89

Part 5 David and Tina Long

David and Tina Long's Story 103

Bullying's Special Problem James Wendorf 105

Teaching to End Bullying Michael Mulgrew 109

Bully-A Catalyst for Changing Our Culture Randi Weingarten 113

Part 6 Kirk and Laura Smalley

Kirk and Laura Smalley's Story 125

Bullying U.S. Congressman Mike Honda 127

Empowering Bystanders: Creating Cultures of Dignity Rosalind Wiseman 133

Part 7 The Movie That Became a Movement 139

Part 8 What We Can Do

It's 10 p.m.: Do You Know Who Is Bullying Your Child? 159

Bully-Proofing Kids Dr. Michele Borba 171

Bullying: What Is a Parent to Do? Peter Sheras, Ph.D. 191

No Kidding, I Was Bullied Too! Joe Pantoliano 203

Part 9 Where Are They Now? 213


Next Steps Dr. Edward F. Dragan 225

Social and Emotional Learning and Bullying Prevention EDC, CASEL, American Institute for Research 229

Creating Just and Caring Communities Stephanie Jones Richard Weissbourd Suzanne Bouffard Trisha Ross 253

Websites 265

References 279

About the Authors 290

About the Project 291

Index 293

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I bought this book as a research aid for my college honors program project on bullying on a whim. In a way I was weary because I haven't seen the film and didn't know how much help a book that follows a movie could be but also because of my own painful history of being bullied. This book is a must read for all parents, teachers and even children who are being bullied. It offers an un-sugarcoated look at the bullying epidemic and offers real world solutions. A plethora of wonderful organizations have contributed information and the list of resources is exceptional. It also warmed my heart that the book discussed the bullying epidemic among children who are on the autism spectrum, gifted, learning disabled and LGBT, demographics I was all a part of in school (what are the odds, right?) and suffered greatly because I was a part of those groups. This book is hard to read at times and I found myself crying and having to put the book down and come back to it but please, don't let that prevent you from reading this wonderful and insightful book. My only issue was the celebrity blurbs. I have a hard time taking Robert Pattinson, Taylor Lautner, Demi Lovato and Justin Bieber seriously. Especially since Pattinson and Lautner say they were bullied for being actors and Lovato says she was bullied and her only friend was Selena Gomez who is also a celebrity. I'm not discounting or minimizing their experiences in any way but I think their stories detract from the serious nature of the book and are out of touch with the issues average children who are bullied face. The average bullied child is not a Twilight star, pop star or Disney Channel icon.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Yes i am bullied and being bullied so thanks for this film as an inspiration
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book teaches us that everyone is the same and the movie is great watch it
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Honey in comment 3 ......you dont even know what u r talking about ! Get the facts first plzzzz
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
You can love me.?