Dealing with Emotional Problems in Coaching: A Rational-Emotive and Cognitive-Behavioural Approach

by Windy Dryden

Overview

This book is a comprehensive guide for coaches on how to use rational-emotive and cognitive behaviour therapy to help coachees with their emotional problems within a coaching context. In this fully updated new edition, Windy Dryden:

• discusses the eight major emotions that feature in coachees’ emotional problems and their healthy alternatives
• outlines a step-by-step guide to the use of RECBT in the coaching context
• illustrates these points with a case of a coachee whose progress towards a personal development objective was hampered by an emotional problem and how the coach implemented RECBT to help her deal with the obstacle and resume development-based coaching.

Dealing with Emotional Problems in Coaching will be a valuable resource for all those involved in coaching.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780367556211
Publisher:	Taylor & Francis
Publication date:	11/24/2020
Edition description:	2nd ed.
Pages:	184
Product dimensions:	5.06(w) x 7.81(h) x (d)

About the Author

Windy Dryden is Emeritus Professor of Psychotherapeutic Studies at Goldsmiths College, University of London, and is an international authority on rational-emotive behaviour therapy (REBT). He has worked in psychotherapy for over 45 years and is the author and editor of over 230 books.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Why deal with problematic emotions in coaching? 2

When to deal with emotional problems in coaching 3

Why RECBT is suited to dealing with emotional problems in coaching 6

The step-by-step guide: a word of caution 7

1 The central role played by attitudes in understanding your coachees' problematic and constructive negative emotions 9

Understanding rigid and extreme attitudes 10

Understanding flexible and non-extreme attitudes 15

2 Understanding your coachees' common emotional problems and their healthy alternatives 25

The 'situational ABC framework 25

Emotions and the labels we give to them 28

Anxiety and concern 29

Depression and sadness 34

Guilt and remorse 37

Shame and disappointment 38

Hurt and sorrow 42

Problematic anger and constructive anger 43

Problematic jealousy and constructive jealousy 45

Problematic envy and constructive envy 48

3 A step-by-step guide to dealing with your coachees' emotional problems 53

Introduction 53

Step 1 Determine whether or not your coachee has an emotional problem; if she has, determine whether or not she is stuck and whether or not she can bypass it to pursue her personal development objectives 54

Step 2 Elicit your coachee's explicit agreement to target this emotional problem for change and establish a contingency plan if you fail to help her 63

Step 3 Formulate the problem that is serving as an obstacle to the pursuit of your coachee's personal development objectives 65

Step 4 Set a goal with respect to the formulated problem 67

Step 5 Assess for the presence of a meta-emotional problem and decide with the coachee if this is to become the target problem 71

Step 6 Ask for a concrete example of the coachee's formulated target problem 74

Step 7 Identify 'C' 75

Step 8 Identify 'A' 84

Step 9 Elicit your coachee's emotional goal in the specific example being assessed 88

Step 10 Help your coachee to understand the 'B'-'C' connection and identify their rigid and extreme basic attitudes and their alternative flexible and non-extreme basic attitudes and make the appropriate connections with 'C' 102

Step 11 Elicit commitment from the coachee to pursue her emotional and/or behavioural goals and help her to see that changing her rigid and extreme attitudes is the best way of doing this 109

Step 12 Question both rigid and flexible attitudes together and extreme and non-extreme attitudes together 114

Step 13 Question a rigid attitude and a flexible attitude 115

Step 14 Question an awfulising attitude and a non-awfulising attitude 122

Step 15 Question a discomfort intolerance attitude and a discomfort tolerance attitude 126

Step 16 Question a devaluation attitude and an unconditional acceptance attitude 131

Step 17 Help the coachee to strengthen her conviction in her flexible and non-extreme attitudes and weaken her conviction in her rigid and extreme attitudes 138

Step 18 Negotiate homework assignments 145

Step 19 Review homework assignments 152

Step 20 Revisit and question 'A' if necessary 160

4 Epilogue 167

How many sessions? 167

Using the step-by-step model: a reminder 169

References 171

Index 173