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Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
     

Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed

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by Wendy T. Behary, Jeffrey Young (Foreword by), Daniel J. Siegel (Preface by)
 

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Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the

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Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one—so ignoring them isn’t really a practical solution. They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them.

Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist.

This book will help you learn to meet your own needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe. This new edition also includes new chapters on dealing with narcissistic women, aggressive and abusive narcissists, strategies for safety, and the link between narcissism and sex addiction.

Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.

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“Wendy Behary has dedicated decades to understanding narcissism, both as a clinician and a scholar. In Disarming the Narcissist, she distills these hard-won insights into a very readable form. This book is a terrific resource for those looking to better understand narcissism.”
W. Keith Campbell, PhD, professor in the department of psychology at the University of Georgia and author of The Narcissism Epidemic
Publishers Weekly

Everyone knows a narcissist, one of those vainglorious individuals in desperate need of constant affirmation and attention. Cognitive therapist Behary's book argues that by modifying your own behavior, you can manage your relationship with such a person. Separating narcissism into categories (spoiled, dependent, deprived and combinations thereof) and exploring the causes of the disorder, the author hopes to assist the reader in overcoming the emotional obstacles involved in interaction with a boss, spouse, friend or relative. Rather than focus on changing the narcissist (which may be impossible), this book aims to help the reader improve self-knowledge to see why the narcissist pushes his or her buttons and how to cope. Some of the instruments Behary provides-such as checklists, flash cards, journal writing- are useful for determining the type of narcissist you are dealing with and how your past experiences affect your responses. The author acknowledges that her book is no panacea, and she doesn't present the reader with strategies for when the narcissist isn't responsive to the actions she has suggested. Notwithstanding this caveat, Behary's book will surely provide help to many in need of a confidence bolster in the face of provocation. (Mar.)

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781608827602
Publisher:
New Harbinger Publications
Publication date:
07/01/2013
Edition description:
Second Edition
Pages:
224
Sales rank:
63,886
Product dimensions:
5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.60(d)

Meet the Author

Wendy T. Behary, LCSW, is founder and clinical director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and a faculty member at the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York. She is also a founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. She maintains a private practice, specializing in narcissism and couples therapy.

Jeffrey Young, PhD, is the founder and director of the Schema Therapy Institute Schema Therapy Institute in New York, NY.

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Disarming the Narcissist 3.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 9 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have been doing research on narcissism, for personal reasons, and I have found this book to be one of the most relevant and comprehensive that I have read thus far. I would highly recommend it to anyone who finds themselves having to dealing with a narcissist in any area of their lives, in order that they may gain some understanding of the difficult and paradoxically inclined mentality that dictates the behavior of the narcissist. My compliments to the author for a job well done with the presentation of the subject matter.
Isolepis More than 1 year ago
Very much work has gone into this. Yet there are no easy answers. Don't look for a formula here. You will understand the narcissist better for reading this. If you would like a specific narcissist to change, then you may still need professional help. A great start on the problem.
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