Abby Ellin was shocked to learn that her fiancé was leading a secret life. But as she soon discovered, the world is full of people who aren't what they seem.
From Abby Ellin's first date with the Commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within six months he'd proposed, and they'd moved in together. But soon, his exotic stories of international espionage began to unravel. Finally, it all became clear: he was lying about who he was.
After leaving him and sharing her story, she was floored to find out that her experience was far from unique. People everywhere, many of them otherwise sharp-witted and self-aware, are being deceived by their loved ones every day.
In Duped, Abby Ellin studies the art and science of lying, talks to people who've had their worlds upended by duplicitous partners, and writes with great openness about her own mistakes. These remarkable stories reveal how often we encounter people whose lives beneath the surface are more improbable than we ever imagined.
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About the Author
Abby Ellin is an award-winning journalist and the author of Teenage Waistland: A Former Fat Kid Weighs In On Living Large, Losing Weight and How Parents Can (and Can't) Help. For five years she wrote the "Preludes" column about young people and money for the Sunday Money and Business section of the New York Times. She is also a regular contributor to the Health, Style, Business and Education sections of the New York Times. Her work has been published in The New York Times Magazine, New York, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times Magazine, Psychology Today, Time, Newsweek, the Village Voice, the Boston Phoenix, Salon, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Spy (RIP). She holds an MFA in Creative Writing from Emerson College and a Masters in International Public Policy from Johns Hopkins University. As of this writing, her greatest accomplishments are summiting Kilimanjaro (with a broken wrist!) and naming "Karamel Sutra" ice cream for Ben and Jerry's.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alongside the enthralling narratives. Five stars.
A compulsively well written cautionary tale of duplicity by a journalist who was conned and betrayed by a man who wasn't who he said he was, Abby Ellin confesses at the start what all women who find themselves the victim of similar circumstances eventually realize - they trusted the wrong man and they should have known better. She tells her tale with honesty, verve and style - it's easy to understand why she took the man she calls the Commander at his word; after all, she google him, and nothing that turned up in her cursory background search alerted her. At least, not enough to dissuade her from following her heart, and him, to another city, or check up on him any further. While the authors own story sets up the template for many of the other instances she relates of people who've been duped or betrayed or swindled, it's her own that's the most interesting because she's the one the reader knows best: It's easier to care about the singular than the plural. Still, Ellin marshals enough statistics, references and case histories to make her case, which is that being victimized by a liar, especially in matters of the heart, is not an uncommon experience, and that it damaged one's sense of self ever after.