Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve

by Matthew Hussey

Overview

New York Times bestseller

In his book, Get the Guy, Matthew Hussey—Cosmopolitan columnist, Today show dating expert, motivational speaker, relationship guru, and matchmaker—reveals the secrets of the male mind and the fundamentals of dating and mating for a proven, revolutionary approach to help women to find lasting love.

Most dating books tell you what NOT to do. Here's a book dedicated to telling you what you CAN do.

Matthew Hussey has coached thousands of high-powered CEOs, showing them how to develop confidence and build relationships that translate into professional success. Many of Matthew’s male clients pressed him for advice on how to apply his winning strategies not to just get the job, but how to get the girl. As his reputation grew, Hussey was approached by more and more women, eager to hear what he had learned about the male perspective on love and romance.

From landing a first date to establishing emotional intimacy, playful flirtation to red-hot bedroom tips, Matthew’s insightfulness, irreverence, and warmth makes Get the Guy:  Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve a one-of-a-kind relationship guide and the handbook for every woman who wants to get the guy she’s been waiting for.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780062241757
Publisher:	HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:	02/11/2014
Edition description:	Reprint
Pages:	272
Sales rank:	61,825
Product dimensions:	10.50(w) x 7.00(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Matthew Hussey is a relationship coach and the founder of the Get the Guy brand, which connects with thousands of women through live seminars and digital programs. He regularly offers relationship advice on the Today show and on the MTV series Plain Jane. He splits his time between London and Los Angeles.

Table of Contents

Introduction xi

Part 1 Find the Guy

1 Put the Odds in Your Favor 3

2 Being a Woman of High Value 19

3 Get a Social Life That Serves Your Love Life 30

4 The Mindset of the Chooser 46

5 The Traits of Desirable Women 58

6 The White Handkerchief Approach 67

7 From Great Conversation to First Date 84

8 The Joy of Text 94

9 A Word About Online Dating 99

Part 2 Get the Guy

10 The Ultimate Formula for Attraction 111

11 A Word About Insecurity 123

12 The Art of Creating the Great Date 130

13 The Sex Talk (Part I) 143

14 Stuck in the Friend Trap 153

15 Why Hasn't He Called? 168

16 Premature Obligation 180

Part 3 Keep the Guy

17 How to Be the Woman of His Dreams 187

18 Is He Mr. Right? 198

19 What Guys Really Think About the C-Word 207

20 The Sex Talk (Part II) 216

21 If You Want Him to Commit 226

22 Love for Life 240

Acknowledgments 245

What People are Saying About This

Eva Longoria

“Matthew is a genius whose magic needs to be shared with the world. His incredible understanding of love and relationships makes him the absolute best love guru! This book is a necessary tool for anyone looking for love.”

Editorial Reviews

“Matthew is a genius whose magic needs to be shared with the world. His incredible understanding of love and relationships makes him the absolute best love guru! This book is a necessary tool for anyone looking for love.” — Eva Longoria, actor/producer

“No crazy gimmicks, no pretending to be something you’re not. Just intelligent, empowering advice.” — Nikki Bayley, Glamour Magazine

“Matthew’s methods are working… Those who would previously never dream of going up to a man are hunting them down in double figures. Phone numbers are collected like the spoils of victory… [We become] an army of women from whose charms no man is safe.” — Emma Messenger, The Daily Mail

“A practical guide to understanding a man’s point of view about love and romance and how a woman can optimize self-esteem and integrity to find the love she deserves.” — Judith Orloff, MD, New York Times best-selling author of Emotional Freedom

“This works, period. No sugar-coating, no gimmicks, no cheesy lines: Matt’s advice is practical, sometimes blunt, and most importantly, effective. You WILL get the guy after reading this, end of story!” — Louise Roe, fashion journalist, TV host

“If you buy this book, you have an unfair advantage over men, and that’s just wrong.” — Bill Rancic, entrepreneur, devoted husband

“Whether you’re in a committed relationship, or you’ve had little luck with men, this book will unravel your man-mystery and put you in control, which seems fair to me, no matter what my husband says.” — Giuliana Rancic, TV host, devoted wife

From the Publisher

No crazy gimmicks, no pretending to be something you’re not. Just intelligent, empowering advice.

Nikki Bayley

Matthew’s methods are working… Those who would previously never dream of going up to a man are hunting them down in double figures. Phone numbers are collected like the spoils of victory… [We become] an army of women from whose charms no man is safe.

Emma Messenger

If you buy this book, you have an unfair advantage over men, and that’s just wrong.

Bill Rancic

Whether you’re in a committed relationship, or you’ve had little luck with men, this book will unravel your man-mystery and put you in control, which seems fair to me, no matter what my husband says.

Giuliana Rancic

This works, period. No sugar-coating, no gimmicks, no cheesy lines: Matt’s advice is practical, sometimes blunt, and most importantly, effective. You WILL get the guy after reading this, end of story!

Louise Roe

“Matthew is a genius whose magic needs to be shared with the world. His incredible understanding of love and relationships makes him the absolute best love guru! This book is a necessary tool for anyone looking for love.”

Eva Longoria

A practical guide to understanding a man’s point of view about love and romance and how a woman can optimize self-esteem and integrity to find the love she deserves.

Judith Orloff

Dating coach and TV personality Hussey (from NBC’s forthcoming reality show, Ready for Love) draws from his popular relationship webinar, GetTheGuy, for this compendium of bite-sized suggestions to help women find, get, and keep “the guy.” Sprinkled throughout are links to digital tie-ins (one directs readers to a video of Hussey demonstrating “the look” that’s meant to grab men’s attention), but most of the advice is mind-numbingly bland—”Love is hard;” “A man gets excited by the idea of having sex with a woman he desires;” and so on. Hussey does offer some practical tips—he insists that “the smallest changes in your daily rituals can yield huge results.” To that end, he explains how to “Get Good at WAR (working a room),” instigate physical contact without coming off as aggressive, make dates more spontaneous and fun, and text a guy to hang out (I’m here doing X, “You should come!”). Hussey occasionally goes into an absurd amount of detail—as when he lists nine reasons a guy hasn’t called, when a simple “He’s just not that into you” would suffice; most readers will likely deem their time better spent in some other scene. Agent: Richard Pine, Inkwell Management. (Apr.)

Publishers Weekly

Relationship expert Hussey here relies upon both personal experience as well as his experiences working as a life coach. His book provides women with advice on meeting men, gaining insight into the male mind, and cultivating a rich, satisfying lifestyle—with or without a partner. While the author offers tips that range from interesting conversation topics to effective texting, above all, he stresses the importance of self-worth. VERDICT Not your mother's dating guide. Excellent for singles.

Library Journal