Develop skills of conscious grieving while reclaiming love that transcends death.Long description: Lisa Irish takes grief out of the too-uncomfortable-to-talk-about closet and invites the reader to participate in the process as a conscious griever. Using creative imagery and current research, she offers the reader an adult understanding of the emotional world of loss and provides tools to mindfully participate in grief’s healing role. Without denying the pain of loss, she offers educational and imaginative insights, which deepen the griever’s understanding of the process of loss and helps the griever generate more compassion for his or her personal experience.Primarily intended for those experiencing grief from the death of a loved one, many of the themes are transferable to the human experience of loss in all its forms. Stories from people in all stages of the grieving process serve as waypoints to help the griever navigate loss. Practical exercises and questions for reflections offer support on the tender and sacred journey through grief to healing.
About the Author
Lisa Irish, chaplain and spiritual director, is the former coordinator of bereavement programs for Yale-New Haven Hospital and the Hospital of St Raphael in New Haven, Connecticut. A frequent speaker on the topic of coping with grief, she author of Grieving with a Grateful Heart, an Elf-Help book, and Grieving with a Grateful Heart and Feeling Alone After a Loved One Dies, both part of the CareNotes pamphlet series.
Table of Contents
Part 1 Alone 1
Chapter 1 Entering Loss 5
Chapter 2 Gathering Your Resources 21
Chapter 3 Unexpected Landmarks and Land Mines 33
Part 2 Passage 47
Chapter 4 Challenges and Changes to Your Identity 49
Chapter 5 Our Guides and Our Gatekeepers 61
Chapter 6 Creating Your Own Map 80
Part 3 Surrender 93
Chapter 7 A Courageous Choice 95
Chapter8 Letting Go into Love 116
Part 4 Changed 135
Chapter 9 Contemplate a New Horizon 137
Chapter 10 Land of Hope 154
Final Thoughts 168
Suggestions for Further Reading 185
The book is drawn from my own understanding of grief, as well as many years as a chaplain. I facilitated a bereavement program for the Hospital of St Raphael in New Haven, CT and Yale-New Haven Hospital, also in New Haven. In that role as bereavement chaplain, I offered private sessions - creating a safe place for people to experience their loss and move through the difficult feelings. In addition, I ran support groups for those with like-losses (loss of a spouse, loss of a child, a parent). There were regular opportunities to educate people on grief as well as work in special areas of support. For example, I have led a workshop for staff of group homes for people with disabilities, spoke with a church and synagogue congregations, and led a “holiday and grief” program for people in an assisted-living facility.