How to Love

How to Love


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How to Love is the third title in Parallax’s Mindfulness Essentials Series of how-to titles by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh, introducing beginners and reminding seasoned practitioners of the essentials of mindfulness practice. This time Nhat Hanh brings his signature clarity, compassion, and humor to the thorny question of how to love. He distills one of our strongest emotions down to four essentials: you can only love another when you feel true love for yourself; love is understanding; understanding brings compassion; deep listening and loving speech are key ways of showing our love.

Pocket-sized, with original two color illustrations by Jason DeAntonis, How to Love shows that when we feel closer to our loved ones, we are also more connected to the world as a whole. With sections on Love vs. Need, Being in Love, Reverence, Intimacy, Children and Family, Reconciling with Parents, and more, How to Love includes meditations you can do alone or with your partner to go deep inside and expand your own capacity to love.

Scientific studies indicate that meditation contributes tremendously to well-being, general health, and longevity. How to Love is a unique gift for those who want a comprehensive yet simple guide to understanding the many different kinds of love, along with meditative practices that can expand the understanding of and capacity for love, appropriate for those practicing in any spiritual tradition, whether seasoned practitioners or new to meditation.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781937006884
Publisher: Parallax Press
Publication date: 12/30/2014
Pages: 128
Sales rank: 42,466
Product dimensions: 4.00(w) x 5.90(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Thich Nhat Hanh is one of the most revered Zen teachers in the world today. His best-selling books include Be Free Where You Are and Peace of Mind. He lives in Plum Village in southwest France. Nhat Hanh has been teaching the art of mindful living for more than 70 years.

Jason DeAntonis is an award-winning Bay Area artist, known for his sumi ink illustrations, and his fine carpentry and custom furniture. He has also worked in sculpture, costume design, glass blowing, painting, printmaking, and book illustration. His work has appeared in Mindfulness in the Garden, How to Sit, How to Eat, How to Walk, How to Love, and How to Relax. He lives in Berkeley, California.

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We may think of joy as something that hap¬pens spontaneously. Few people realize that it needs to be cultivated and practiced in order to grow. Mindfulness is the continuous prac¬tice of deeply touching every moment of daily life. To be mindful is to be truly present with your body and your mind, to bring harmony to your intentions and actions, and to be in har¬mony with those around you. We don’t need to make a separate time for this outside of our daily activities. We can practice mindfulness in every moment of the day as we walk from one place to another. When we walk through a door, we know that we’re going through a door. Our minds are with our actions.

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ShawnSorensen43 More than 1 year ago
A great shorter book into Zen mindfulness, mainly about how to deeply understand your own suffering and create your own joy, so that you may have more room to understand and create compassion and happiness for others. To understand is to love. The book is very quotable throughout, like "You don't need to wait until one of you is ready to depart for a trip; you may hug right now...receive the warmth and stability of your friend....Architects need to build airports and railway stations so that there is room to practice hugging." There is advice on meditating in different situations, daily and weekly things to say to yourself and your loved one, 20 Questions For Looking Into Your Relationship, including 18. Do you feel you have a clear spiritual path?" What felt healthy was the encouragement to look within to create depth and joy. And with that built-up security, the ability to leave it all and truly listen to someone else: "You may be the first person who has ever listened to him or her like that." I also liked how the book was free of words/terms in other languages, which can sometimes create a barrier to learning and remembering, and how it reminds us to constantly marvel at the small things that accompany our daily lives. Like this book, there are an infinite numbers of things we can rediscover and come across in our daily lives. "Think of where you will be in 300 years," Hanh writes. "Be aware of how precious it is that you are still alive."
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A wonderful read if your heart and mind are receptive.