There is no rule that says heartbreak must be a prerequisite for good judgment. If you don't want to be a divorce statistic and are ready for a long-lasting relationship, this book's for you. In today's divorce culture, too many people have stopped trusting their ability to build a loving and lasting marriage. Now renowned relationship coach and counselor Chana Levitan reveals the 10 essential questions everyone should ask before saying "I do." Readers will learn how to: spot long-term potential; know the difference between infatuation and love-how they work against each other and yet how they can work together; reevaluate their approach to love and what they really need to succeed in building a loving marriage; gain the confidence to steer through the decision making process of dating; and more. Filled with real-life anecdotes and insightful advice, I ONLY WANT TO GET MARRIED ONCE helps readers get it right the first time.
|Publisher:||Grand Central Publishing|
|Product dimensions:||5.86(w) x 8.46(h) x 0.79(d)|
About the Author
Chana Levitan is a renowned educator, author, speaker, and relationship coach. Her driving passion is to give people the tools they need to trust themselves and their abilities to create a successful marriage the first time around.
Table of Contents
Foreword Sharon Slater xi
Dear Reader xix
Introduction. Love: What You Need to Know 1
1 Do you share the same basic goals and values? 15
2 Are you relating to the person you are dating or to an image? 33
3 Can you admit that the person you are dating has faults? Are you realistic about your own faults? 41
4 Does your relationship have healthy boundaries? 53
5 What do people you are close to have to say about the person you are dating? 79
6 Do you respect the person you are dating? Is there mutual respect? 85
7 Can you be open and honest with the person you are dating? Do you trust him or her? 97
8 How well do you get along with the person you are dating? How is your communication? 115
9 Does the person you are dating bring out the best in you? 127
10 If the person you are dating never changes, would you still want to get married? 135
The Case for Marriage 143
Afterword. If You've Already Been Married Once 163
About the Author 167
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Reviewed by Mary DeKok Blowers for Readers' Favorite I Only Want to Get Married Once: The 10 Essential Questions for Getting It Right the First Time is an audio book by Chana Levitan, who is a therapist and public speaker. Drawing from years of experience in counseling real couples, she has compiled a 10-question checklist to try to ferret out any potential issues with the relationship. First building a foundation of goals, values, and interests, many guidelines are explained including differences between how a man and woman grow up and other factors in their lives. The two parties need to be open with each other emotionally, and they need to get past the infatuation stage which can last for a few years. Once they begin to learn about each other’s faults and even their merely annoying points, love needs to be seen as a verb, an activity, “a power of the soul” (Erich Fromm). It’s a choice, and choosing a mate who has similar values and goals can carry a relationship through inevitable hard times and misunderstandings. In fact, a couple that never argues is even in danger because they don’t open up to each other emotionally. Their relationship becomes shallow, or rather never becomes deep enough to be called love. This information resonates with me as I have not always chosen consciously. Now in a happy marriage, I have nevertheless learned some things that I believe will make it even better. So I would recommend I Only Want to Get Married Once by Chana Levitan for anyone who is looking for a relationship, is already in one, or is married. It will help you to discuss values and goals if you have not already, thereby getting to know each other even better.