It's All Part of the Dance: Finding Happiness in an Upside Down World

It's All Part of the Dance: Finding Happiness in an Upside Down World

by Alan Gettis PhD


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It's All Part of the Dance: Finding Joy and Meaning in an Upside Down World is a fascinating collection of parable-like stories, myths, and anecdotes. Dr. Gettis draws upon his 40 years of clinical experience as a psychologist and combines that with the latest research on the science of happiness. The book is written in a down-to-earth, non-pedantic style that makes it easy to read and digest, despite dealing with complex human issues. It combines Zen wisdom, cognitive behavioral therapy, spirituality, and the new paradigm of positive psychology. The book confronts our societal notions of what brings us true happiness. The answers may surprise you. Dr. Gettis believes we are hardwired for stories. He believes that the stories in It's All Part of the Dance may indeed change the way the reader lives his or her life.

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ISBN-13: 9780979875533
Publisher: Goodman Beck Publishing
Publication date: 10/28/2010
Pages: 306
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.90(d)
Age Range: 13 Years

About the Author

Dr. Alan Gettis is a clinical psychologist who is well steeped in both Western psychology and Eastern philosophy. His collection of "Upside Down World" self-help books includes the critically acclaimed Seven Times Down, Eight Times Up: Landing on Your Feet in an Upside Down World, the award-winning The Happiness Solution: Finding Joy and Meaning in an Upside Down World, and the highly praised It's All Part of the Dance: Finding Happiness in an Upside Down World. In the 1960s Dr. Gettis was a Vietnam-era army psychologist stationed at a military hospital, and in the 1970s he was chief psychologist at a large mental health center in Northern New Jersey. Since 1974 he has maintained a private practice where he specializes in individual psychotherapy for adults. Dr. Gettis holds degrees from four different universities, including Utah State University and Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons..

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xix

Preface xxi

Introduction 1

How Happy Are You? 5

I Attitude 11

My First Ticonderoga 13

Life Is Bizarre 15

20,000 Moments 17

Max's Sandwich Shop 20

Putting It in Perspective 23

Never Say Never 25

How Do I Love Thee? 28

My Brother-In-Law 31

A Different Ball Game 33

The Humble Dog 36

II Choices 39

On Living in Potemkin Village 41

Let It Go 44

A History Lesson 46

The Stock Exchange 50

Say What 52

Two Cents 55

Me Me Me 57

Managing Your Life 59

Just a Dream 62

How Many Therapists Does It Take to Change a Lightbulb? 64

III Thinking & Attention 67

The Comparison Trap 69

Accentuate the Positive 72

Would You Like That Supersized? 75

Pull the Plug 77

Occam's Razor 79

AAA 82

Just Shut Up 85

IV Freedom & Responsibility 87

In and Out of the Trap 89

Turn Around 91

The Magic Bullet 94

Eat Your Lunch 96

A No-Win Situation 99

Aha 101

On Falling from Grace 104

The Gnawing 107

V Gratitude & Kindness 111

Center Stage 113

Water, Water Everywhere 115

1944 117

Johnny B. Goode 119

I'll Never Leave You 122

If You Want to Be Happy for the Rest of Your Life 124

A Rainy Day 127

What Are You Waiting For? 129

Coffee with Milk 131

VI Faith & Mystery 135

Would You Like Fries with That? 137

Chopsticks 141

Because I Can't 143

Uzbekistan 147

The GAIA Hypothesis 150

A Dime Store Mystery 154

VII Take It All In 157

Building Rome 159

Delaying Gratification 162

Jibber Jabber 164

Don't Do Something, Just Sit There 166

Take It All In 168

Faster Horses 170

VIII Fear, Courage, & Resiliency 173

The Nature of the Beast 175

The Millrose Games 177

Just Another Day at the Ranch 180

Beauty and the Beast 183

Just Say No 185

Who's Running the Show? 188

Nausea 191

The Old Woman of the Seals 195

Over the Wall 197

IX Aging & Death 201

Grin and Bear It 203

The Bagel Store 205

Thinking About That Bagel Store 207

The End of the World 209

Face to Face 213

If I Only Knew Then What I Know Now 216

The Last Lecture 218

Would You Like Botox with That? 223

X Showing Up For Your Own Life 227

Go for It 229

Still Baking After All These Years 232

Don't Just Sit There, Do Something 234

Trust Me on This One 235

All Alone 240

Acceptance 242

It Is What It Is 245

What If It Is? 248

Curious George 250

Extraordinary with or Without the Extra 254

It's All Part of the Dance 257

Appendix A Positive Psych 101 261

Epilogue 271

References 275

What People are Saying About This

Dr. Sam Menahem

“In It’s All Part of the Dance, Alan Gettis shows you that genuine happiness is only a stone’s throw away. He teaches you how to get out of your own way and harness the unlimited potential of your mind and of the human spirit. Paradoxically, the book is both simple and profound as it weaves anecdotes, research, storytelling, science and spirituality. The bottom line for me is that this book will make a real difference in how you feel and how you live your life. Highly recommended.” -- (Dr. Sam Menahem, author of When Therapy Isn’t Enough: The Healing Powers of Prayer and Psychotherapy)

Dr. Aymee Coget

“While putting the responsibility for being happy squarely upon your shoulders, Dr. Gettis asks, ‘Would you really want it any other way?’ When the light bulb comes on and you really get it – that you are the problem and that you are the solution – it is empowering and liberating. It’s All Part of the Dance is packed with rich insights and accessible wisdom that provide a road map to living the fulfilled life. Very highly recommended!” -- (Dr. Aymee Coget, Sustainable Happiness Expert and CEO of the American Happiness Association)

David Ambrose

“I challenge you to find a more comprehensive, well-organized volume of parables and inspiring stories on the art of living well than this one. In It’s All Part of the Dance, Alan Gettis shows us how to find happiness in an upside down world. He really gets it. Not only does he get it, he eloquently illustrates how you can too. This book works on many levels. There is nothing esoteric or pedantic about it. Reading like a novel, it is easy to become engrossed in the stories—yet each page reveals part of the secret of true happiness. Sometimes it is obvious, at other times more subtle. Do yourself a favor; read it once as quickly as you wish, then go back and spend time going through it slowly, savoring it and allowing your mind to absorb the essence of each story. Chock-full of concepts and ideas that you can use in your life today, It’s All Part of the Dance: Finding Happiness in an Upside Down World gets my highest recommendation. Get the book and you too can ‘get it’ in this upside down world!” --(David Ambrose, author of Your Life Manual: Practical Steps to Genuine Happiness)

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