Recovering addicts are faced with many challenges, and these challenges can often extend to their romantic partners. During the recovery period, couples often struggle with overcoming feelings of betrayal and frustration, and may have a hard time rebuilding trust and closeness. While there are many resources available to recovering addicts, there are limited resources for the people who love them.
In Loving Someone in Recovery, therapist Beverly Berg offers powerful tools for the partners of recovering addicts. Based in mindfulness, attachment theory, and neurobiology, this book will help readers sustain emotional stability in their relationships, increase effective communication, establish boundaries, and take real steps toward reigniting intimacy.
The material in this book is drawn from the author’s successful Conscious Couples Recovery Workshop. With more than 25 years in the field, she has developed a unique set of exercises that address the issues faced by couples in recovery. This book addresses the roles that both partners play in recovery, and aims to help readers develop a new appreciation for one another and improve self-confidence and acceptance.
The road to recovery is never an easy one, but by building a strong support system, the chances of success are exponentially greater. For more information on Berg’s work, visit consciouscouplesrecovery.com
About the Author
Beverly Berg, MFT, PhD, is a therapist and author whose work has been founded on cutting-edge therapies such as eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR); emotional freedom techniques (EFT); and the indirect hypnosis methods of Milton H. Erickson, which integrate psychological, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being, and focus on the complex relationship between the body and the mind.
Foreword writer Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of the psychobiological approach to couples therapy. He teaches and supervises family medicine residents at Kaiser Permanente in Woodland Hills and lives with his wife and daughter in Calabasas, CA.
Table of Contents
1 Taking the Struggle out of Recovery 9
2 Getting Acquainted with Addiction-Free Reality: Breaking the Fantasy Spells 29
3 Establishing and Maintaining Boundaries: Getting to Know Yourself 63
4 Moods and Emotions: Living with the Ups and Downs 93
5 Rapport: Responding, Not Reacting 121
6 Intimacy and Desire: Bringin' Sexy Back 143
7 Exploring Spirituality: What's God Got to Do with It? 165
8 Settling Down Together: Staying on Track 185
Recommended Readings 203
Beverly Berg lives in Los Angeles, CA.