Move on Motherf*cker: Live, Laugh, and Let Sh*t Go

by Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt PhD, ABPP, Emma Byrne PhD (Foreword by)

Overview

Your negative inner voice is a total assh*le. Tell it to f*ck off with this irreverent, laugh-out-loud guide!

I’m not good enough. This shouldn’t be happening. Things never work out for me. When we’re anxious, stressed, or fearful, the negative voice in our heads can be extremely powerful. It tells us we’re not smart or attractive enough. It berates us for our mistakes. And it keeps us feeling stuck in an endless loop of worry, shame, and hopelessness. But there is a way to shut it down. Blending evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness, and profanity, this unexpected guide will show you how to respond to your negative inner voice with one very important phrase: Move on, mother*cker (MOMF)!

With MOMF, you’ll learn to manage worry and anxiety, put a stop to unhelpful internal dialogue, and approach new situations with humor, levity, and perspective. You’ll also find real tools to help you:

• Set personal and professional boundaries
• Identify toxic or codependent relationships
• Become assertive without being aggressive
• Stop seeking perfection

 

This book also includes journaling and other self-awareness exercises to help you put MOMF to work every day. So, stop letting your inner voice tear you down. With this fun and effective guide, you’ll learn how to take control of your negative thoughts and get back to living your best life.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781684034864
Publisher:	New Harbinger Publications
Publication date:	11/03/2020
Pages:	168
Sales rank:	645,571
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 8.00(h) x (d)

About the Author

Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt, PhD, ABPP, is a board-certified health psychologist who has been in professional practice for more than nineteen years. She lives in Michigan with her family, including the family treasure, Bacon—the dog prince.


Emma Byrne, PhD, is author of Swearing is Good for You. With a background in artificial intelligence and computational neuroscience, she is fascinated by the flexibility of the human brain.

Table of Contents

Foreword v

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 When Your Mind Is a Mess 19

Chapter 2 When You Need to Stick Up for Yourself 41

Chapter 3 When You're a Control Freak 53

Chapter 4 When Your Love Life Is Wrecking You 65

Chapter 5 When You're Sure You're Screwing Up Your Kids 83

Chapter 6 When Work Is a Shit Show 97

Chapter 7 When Your Body Betrays You 113

Chapter 8 When You've Got Bad Habits 133

Chapter 9 When You Need to Move on from a Painful Past 151

Conclusion Get Ready, Motherfucker, for the Life You Want 167

Recommended Reading 171

Endnotes 173

Acknowledgements 174

Interviews

Eckleberry-Hunt resides in the Greater Detroit Area, MI.

Editorial Reviews

07/06/2020

Psychologist Eckleberry-Hunt (Swear Your Way to Sanity) provides helpful tips for moving past negative self-talk in this light guide. Though she recommends mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy, she posits that sometimes one must use the “powerful mood changer” of self-talk to break oneself out of unhealthy patterns. To this end, swearing is recommended, as there is “power in profanity” and it can be helpful in reducing anger and making light of situations. However, the bulk of the advice is straight-forward self-help fare, and Eckleberry-Hunt uses the “second arrow” of Buddhist teaching as an extended metaphor to illustrate how self-criticism can create or add to personal problems, compounding the harm being caused. Chapters address various aspects of one’s life, including work, health, parenting, relationships, and trauma. Journaling and “noticing” questions, such as self-assessment questions for discerning one’s relationship or work style, are the main actions asked of the reader, and the book is loaded with irreverent asides and prompts to assist in gaining insight into why and when harmful self-talk is triggered. A final chapter explores the “transtheoretical” psychological model for making personal changes—consisting of precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance—focusing mainly on the final stage of maintenance to sustain change: “old habits never die, they just hibernate.” This is an excellent wake-up call for those wracked by self-criticism. (Nov.)

Publishers Weekly

Move On Motherf*cker (MOMF) is a modern, efficacious self-help tool kit designed to provide relief for people with common mental health issues surrounding depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, bad habits, and personal or work-related relationship problems. Readers will discover how to change and improve problematic behavior patterns and negative thoughts through a series of compelling vignettes, exercises, and self-reflections without getting lost in the weeds of therapeutic psychobabble. It’s a ‘hell-yes,’ hands-on, user-friendly approach to begin feeling empowered to get better.”
—Timothy Jay, PhD, professor of psychology emeritus at Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts, and author of Why We Curse

Timothy Jay

MOMF is like that blunt friend who calls you on your sh*t and puts things into f*cking perspective. Using humor, a lot of profanity, and the foundation of cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), Eckleberry-Hunt’s book guides readers through a reality check, and teaches them to change the voice of negativity and doubt to that of a motherf*cker who is ready to kick ass! This is a readers guide to self-empowerment!”
—Britt A. Nielsen, PsyD, ABPP, associate professor of psychiatry and psychology at The MetroHealth System and Case Western Reserve University

Britt A. Nielsen

I enthusiastically recommend MOMF to my patients, colleagues, friends, and family. This book is an incredible tool, incorporating humor, honesty, and a little rebelliousness on the journey to become the best version of ourselves. The vignettes, reflections, and activities are relevant and empowering. Using MOMF, you will laugh, learn, and hopefully find peace.”
—Lori Washe, MD, medical director for Premier Private Physicians in Troy, MI; family medicine practitioner for twenty years; and clinical faculty member at Oakland University William Beaumont Medical School

Lori Washe

Honest, salty self-talk can be a true balm for anxiety, shame, sadness, and despair. So take it from one motherf*cker to another: move on, and read this book!”
—Sarah Knight, New York Times bestselling author of Calm the F*ck Down

Sarah Knight

Don’t be fooled by the irreverence: this is an honest-to-goodness self-help book, packed with useful tools and psychological wisdom that will generate results, inside and out. Its swearing is just the gateway for deep transformation, designed to get the audience’s attention and open them up to understanding the damaging stories they tell themselves—stories that keep them trapped in the same behaviors and situations. Once this awareness is achieved, people are able to take to heart the book’s more mundane, but still transformative, practical steps, including journaling and practicing saying no. Move On, Motherf*cker is a self-help text that delivers a necessary slap in the face to jolt its audience awake.”
—Foreword Reviews

Foreword Reviews

If you are searching for help living your best life, this book is for you! MOMF teaches you how to use profanity and humor to move past negative self-talk toward reaching your goals and finding peace and happiness. MOMF is the friend that gives it to you straight and urges you to move forward. There isn’t a friend, family member, or patient of mine that couldn’t benefit from reading this.”
—Jennifer Tucciarone, MD, family medicine physician

Jennifer Tucciarone

In a sea of self-help books, it is understandable to ask, ‘why this one?’ Simply put, this is the book to get if you are finally ready to change your life. You will get straight talk about how to move on and begin truly living your life today. Written in an engaging and humorous style, this book delivers. I will be strongly recommending this book to my patients.”
—Darren R. Jones, PhD, LP, director of behavioral medicine clinical operations, and director of resident wellness at Beaumont Health

Darren R. Jones