Now Accepting Roses: Finding Myself While Searching for the One . . . and Other Lessons I Learned from

Now Accepting Roses: Finding Myself While Searching for the One . . . and Other Lessons I Learned from "The Bachelor"

by Amanda Stanton


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When Amanda found out her mother had sent in an application to ABC’s The Bachelor on her behalf, she wasn’t upset . . . but she was hesitant.

As a divorced single mom on a long dating hiatus, she didn’t think there was any way she could measure up against the competitors. In the back of her mind, her ex’s hurtful message reared its ugly head: “You can’t divorce me. You’ll be 25 and divorced with two kids. No one will want you.” The thought of starting over and putting herself out there was frightening.

But despite the self-doubt, Amanda made it onto Season 20. What nobody knew at the time was that her on-camera date with Ben was her first in almost three years. Talk about pressure!

Ever since she made it to the final four on The Bachelor and ended up engaged on Bachelor in Paradise , media outlets and millions of fans, eager to learn Amanda’s story, have tried to track her down. What’s he really like? What’s the scoop on her? Was she telling the truth about him?

Part-memoir, part girl’s guide, Now Accepting Roses is full of never-before-told stories from behind the scenes of one of America’s most popular television shows—but this book isn’t just for fans of The Bachelor. This book is for anyone navigating the crazy and exciting world of finding real love. Amanda also reveals the valuable lessons for life and relationships that she learned after the world watched her look for love on television— three times. Everything she now knows about dating, she learned from being on The Bachelor. Amanda’s unique experiences have left her with some hard-earned wisdom to share, including her own “rules” for dating and how to truly find yourself, as she has. Thanks to juggling dating, parenting, and life, she better understands the way dating works and shares how you can find love while prioritizing your own needs.

Amanda’s friendly, heartfelt guidance will feel like a good friend offering her most personal advice on life, love, and self-care—and her wild stories will rival the juiciest gossip you’ve ever heard.

If you’re looking for a love like you’ve seen on the silver-screen, that doesn’t exist. The good news is that the real thing is so much better. Amanda is more confident than ever in her search for love, and she hopes that sharing her stories and insights will help you find it, too.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781948836395
Publisher: BenBella Books, Inc.
Publication date: 09/03/2019
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 155,107
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Amanda Stanton is a single mother raising two beautiful girls, Kinsley Elizabeth and Charlie Emma, in Orange County, California. Before joining ABC's hit series The Bachelor and Bachelor In Paradise, Amanda was a full-time mom who hadn’t been on a date in more than five years. From her unique experiences on the dating shows, Amanda has received a crash course in relationships. She has developed a refreshing set of rules for what it takes to find the one – without losing ones self.

Table of Contents

Prologue: Dear Amanda 1

Introduction 5

Chapter 1 Broken Vows 9

Chapter 2 Season Twenty 35

Chapter 3 What to Do with All That Baggage (The Good Kind, That Is) 53

Chapter 4 Bachelor's Degree in Dating 67

Chapter 5 Good Talk 81

Chapter 6 Party of One, Plus Two 99

Chapter 7 Have Kids, Will Travel 109

Chapter 8 Paradise, Interrupted 119

Chapter 9 Before You Vaycay 131

Chapter 10 Date Expectations 143

Chapter 11 Social Media Butterfly 155

Chapter 12 Girl Code 177

Chapter 13 Now Accepting Me 191

Epilogue: Letter to My Daughters 205

Acknowledgments 209

About the Author 211

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

“Reading this book from Amanda’s perspective after being on a season together is heartwarming, memorable, and genuinely honest . . . This book gave me a fresh perspective on what women go through when dating and is nothing but encouraging, empowering, and uplifting.”

—Ben Higgins, former star of The Bachelor and founder of Generous Coffee

“I was with Amanda on both The Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise , and it’s been really amazing seeing her grow as a person the past few years. Vulnerable, relatable, genuine and hilarious—this book represents Amanda so well. Balancing motherhood with her relationships and career?! I don’t know how she does it, but this book gives us a glimpse.

—Jen Saviano, former contestant on The Bachelor and blogger at

“I’m grateful to have had Bachelor Nation connect me and Amanda. She’s been a great friend over the years. Our conversations are nothing different from this book—honest, sometimes embarrassing and overall uplifting. A really fun read!”

—Nick Viall, former star of The Bachelor and founder of Natural Habits Essential Oils

“A lot of people have seen me (and many of us in Bachelor Nation) make mistakes when it comes to dating and finding love, so reading Amanda’s book and knowing that she braved through certain storms and takes accountability for mistakes is definitely inspiring. . . She’s honest, forgiving, funny and genuine, and I’m proud to support her through and through.”

—Dean Unglert, former star of Bachelor in Paradise and The Bachelor Winter Games

“Amanda is one of my best friends, and I am so proud of her for getting her story out. Through all she’s endured, this is the real her that many of us have come to love and adore. Can’t wait for you guys to get to divulge in a book that’s so relatable and honest.”

—Lauren Bushnell, former contestant on The Bachelor

“Amanda is really sweet, caring, and a very good listener. She used to make Haley (my twin) and me mac n cheese at The Bachelor Mansion. She’s a great friend and I feel lucky to personally know the real her. This book is a glimpse of all the things I just listed and is like having her sound advice in travel form. So excited for readers to get their hands on this!

—Emily Ferguson, former contestant on The Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise

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