Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement

Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement

by Tammy Nelson
Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement

Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement

by Tammy Nelson

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Overview

Dr. Tammy Nelson is a relationship revolutionary. Her rethinking of monogamy—as a practice, a continuum, and a flexible concept—is on point, actionable, and nothing less than a significant cultural shift.
—Wednesday Martin, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of Primates of Park Avenue and Untrue

Love is eternal—but in an age when we live longer, communicate differently, and value gender equality, is it any wonder so many people are looking for new ways to support lasting, loving partnerships? “Monogamy is no longer a simple concept,” says Dr. Tammy Nelson. “More couples every year are experimenting with open relationships and newer, more flexible versions of commitment … yet few of us have been prepared with the skills we need to make those agreements work.”

Open Monogamy is a practical guide for people who wish to explore new directions in their relationships—to bring in excitement, variety, and fresh experiences without sacrificing trust, security, and respect. Through solo and partner exercises and real-life stories from people across the spectrum of relationship styles, you’ll explore:

• The changing face of relationships—why the time to explore new visions of love has arrived
• Can open monogamy work for you? Self-assessment tools to find your place on the “monogamy continuum”
• Essential skills for having honest conversations about attraction and desire
• Exercises to remove shame and suspicion about open relationships
• How to create agreements—traditional or otherwise—that are fulfilling, exhilarating, and built to last

Dr. Nelson’s 30 years of experience as a relationship and sex therapist have shown her that relationships can flourish even when the old idea of monogamy fails. “You want to love each other with fairness and integrity because that’s what you signed up for, and honesty aligns with your shared values … But you also want more. You want answers. The bad news? There is no one right way to do this. The good news? You can have anything you want.”

If you’ve ever wondered how to try an open relationship or polyamory, Open Monogamy gives you the tools you need to create a commitment agreement as unique as your love.



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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781683647461
Publisher: Sounds True, Incorporated
Publication date: 12/14/2021
Pages: 232
Sales rank: 221,784
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a licensed psychotherapist, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Certified Imago Relationship Therapist. She is a TEDx speaker and the host of The Trouble with Sex podcast. Her books include Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy. She is executive director of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute and has been a featured expert in the New York Times Magazine and the Washington Post, on CNN, and more.

For more, visit drtammynelson.com.

Table of Contents

Note to Readers xiii

Introduction The Relationship of Your Dreams 1

Chapter 1 Expanding Your Love 7

Exercise: Practicing Empathy 19

Chapter 2 The Revolutionary Marriage 21

Exercise: Can Open Monogamy Work for Us? 37

Chapter 3 New Models of Monogamy 39

Chapter 4 How Do We Start? 63

Exercise: Communicating with Empathy 67

Exercise: Fantasy Scale 78

Exercise: 3 Ps of Consent 88

Chapter 5 Navigating Different Needs 91

Exercise: Talk and Play 98

Exercise: Time, Attention, Affection, Sex 105

Chapter 6 A Promise You Can Keep 111

Exercise: Sharing Redlines as Stories 120

Exercise: Pre-Venting 125

Chapter 7 Creating Your Open Monogamy Agreement 127

Exercise: Finding Your Place on the Monogamy Continuum 141

Chapter 8 What If It Doesn't Work? 151

Exercise: When Your Partner Has Had an Affair 159

Chapter 9 Aligning with Your True Values 171

Exercise: Discerning Your Values 179

Exercise: Sibling Triggers 185

Exercise: Sexual Values 187

Conclusion The Future of Marriage 195

Acknowledgements 201

Appendix The Open Monogamy Interview Structure 203

Glossary 205

Notes 209

About the Author 215

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