“What was the likelihood my adopted daughter would have my father’s hazel eyes and my mother’s mental illness?” In this fi ercely candid memoir, Dr. Pruchno, a scientist widely acclaimed for her research on mental illness and families, shows how mental illness threatened to destroy her own family.
Not once, but twice.
As a child, she didn’t understand her mother’s episodes of crippling sadness or whirlwind activity. As a mother, she feared her daughter Sophie would follow in the footsteps of the grandmother Sophie never knew.
Unraveling the mysteries of her mother’s and daughter’s illnesses, Pruchno fought to preserve her marriage and protect her son. But it was not until she came to terms with her own secrets that she truly understood the destructive and pervasive effects mental illness has on families.
Surrounded By Madness is transforming. It will empower families to stop hiding and start talking when mental illness strikes.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This was a very honest and thought-provoking read, especially for those whose lives have been touched by mental illness in some way. It is simultaneously heartbreaking and riveting and I truly could not put it down. I admire the author's strength and perseverance in telling her tale. It is shocking that in this day and age, there are still so many obstacles in obtaining support for those with mental health issues. I applaud Rachel Pruchno for promoting awareness through her story.
A secret can be either one’s doing or undoing, a secret can bring someone to the forefront, make them famous, or even keep them in the limelight once there – sometimes that very secret can also be their undoing. We’ve seen it a hundred times over in Hollywood where addiction has become the very undoing of the fabric of a stars’ success – then again sometimes they take that struggle and addiction and turn it around to become more than they once were. However, the one secret we rarely hear about floating around Hollywood is Mental Illness. Why is it the one thing that more people suffer from is the one thing we as a society are either ill-fit or unwilling to discuss? Our mental health system used to include locking up those with some form of mental illness for something as seemingly minor as clinical depression or something as severe as schizophrenia. Now a days though in order for someone with mental illness to get the very treatment they need they have to be cognizant enough to ask for the help – however, sometimes they do not possess this level of cognizance to ask or seek out the help they need – so they are left to their own devices, especially if that person is an adult. In minor children it’s easier to get them the help they need – sometimes – let me add and addendum here stating that sometimes it’s near impossible to get the medical community to admit a child might, just might, have some sort of mental illness outside of the autism spectrum. As a parent Rachel found that the road to figuring out what was ‘wrong’ with her otherwise free-spirited child was a road wrought with peril, ups and downs and many many downfalls on Sophie’s part before someone finally admitted she might need help outside of just ADHD Medications. Sometimes mental illness can be mis-diagnosed and in Sophie’s case Rachel found that to be true. It was discovered that what they thought was ADHD was more along the lines of Bi-Polar and Personality disorders…a scary thought for a parent of a teenager. She and her husband made the decision to adopt after their attempts to conceive were futile, in the end she thought that decision would help them avoid some of the demons she witnessed her own mother battle with and ultimately lose the battle. This memoir was well written, the reader is taken on the journey with Rachel and her family, in the end the reader feels for Rachel and her family. They just want to wrap them up in a protective cocoon and prevent anymore struggle and trouble from befalling them. As a parent myself of two children with ADHD, one of which is exhibiting signs similar to what we read about in Sophie I can only image the level of struggle we may encounter in the future with my child – I can only pray they don’t come under that umbrella of severe mental illness. This book took us on the journey of struggle, endearment, and ultimate separation of family and left us hoping beyond hope that Sophie finds her way in the world and is ok. I believe like Rachel has stated its time to break the silence about mental illness, bring it to the forefront and face it head on…otherwise others like Sophie will fall through the cracks. **I received a copy of this book from the author’s publisher in exchange for an honest review**