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The Attachment Effect: Exploring the Powerful Ways Our Earliest Bond Shapes Our Relationships and Lives

The Attachment Effect: Exploring the Powerful Ways Our Earliest Bond Shapes Our Relationships and Lives

by Peter Lovenheim


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"Every reader will find this book about attachment enlightening."
--Dr. Sue Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight

"Does a magnificent job of revealing how attachment manifests at the workplace, in friendships, religion, and even politics.”
 --Amir Levine, M.D., author of Attached

A revealing look at attachment theory, uncovering how our early childhood experiences create a blueprint for all our relationships to come

Attachment theory is having a moment. It’s the subject of much-shared articles and popular relationship guides. Why is this fifty-year-old theory, widely accepted in psychological circles, suddenly in vogue? Because people are discovering how powerfully it sheds light on who we love--and how.

Fascinated by the subject, award-winning journalist and author Peter Lovenheim embarked on a journey to understand it from the inside out. Interviewing researchers, professors, counselors, and other experts, as well as individuals and couples whose attachment stories illuminate and embody the theory's key concepts. The result is this engaging and revealing book, which is part journalism, part memoir, part psychological guide--and a fascinating read for anyone who wants to better understand the needs and dynamics that drive the complex relationships in their lives.

Topics include:
  *  What it means to be securely and insecurely attached
  *  How our early childhood experiences create a blueprint for future relationships--and how to use those insights to gain self-awareness and growth
  *  Why anxious and avoidant attachment types tend to attract each other, and how to break the negative cycle
  *  How anyone can work to become "earned secure" regardless of their upbringing and past relationships.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780143132424
Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date: 06/05/2018
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 308,985
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Peter Lovenheim is an author and journalist whose articles and essays have appeared in The New York Times, Parade, The Washington Post, and elsewhere. He teaches nonfiction writing at The Writers Center in Bethesda, Maryland. His previous book is In the Neighborhood, winner of The First Annual Zócalo Public Square Book Prize.

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Table of Contents

Foreword Professor Harry Reis xiii

Introduction xvii

Part I What Is Attachment?

Chapter 1 When the Tiger Conies: Origin of the Attachment System 3

Chapter 2 Five Adjectives: Measuring Adult Attachment 25

Chapter 3 When Mother Returns: Attachment Styles in Children 47

Chapter 4 In the Scanner: Attachment and the Brain 65

Part II Attachment throughout Our Lives

Chapter 5 A Date for Coffee: Attachment and Dating 83

Chapter 6 Raising a Human Being: Attachment and Parenting 105

Chapter 7 Dancing Close: Attachment, Marriage, and Couples Counseling 122

Chapter 8 Sassy and Classy: Attachment and Friendship 135

Chapter 9 Getting Old: Attachment and Aging 147

Part III Attachment All Around Us

Chapter 10 Securing a Position: Attachment in the Workplace 163

Chapter 11 Before the Buzzer: Attachment and Sports 175

Chapter 12 Following the Leaders: Attachment and Politics 191

Chapter 13 Thou Art with Me: Attachment and Religion 211

Epilogue 223

Acknowledgments 235

Glossary 239

Appendix: Attachment Quiz 243

Resources 247

Notes 253

Index 269

About the Author 277

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