--Dr. Sue Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight
"Does a magnificent job of revealing how attachment manifests at the workplace, in friendships, religion, and even politics.”
--Amir Levine, M.D., author of Attached
A revealing look at attachment theory, uncovering how our early childhood experiences create a blueprint for all our relationships to come
Attachment theory is having a moment. It’s the subject of much-shared articles and popular relationship guides. Why is this fifty-year-old theory, widely accepted in psychological circles, suddenly in vogue? Because people are discovering how powerfully it sheds light on who we love--and how.
Fascinated by the subject, award-winning journalist and author Peter Lovenheim embarked on a journey to understand it from the inside out. Interviewing researchers, professors, counselors, and other experts, as well as individuals and couples whose attachment stories illuminate and embody the theory's key concepts. The result is this engaging and revealing book, which is part journalism, part memoir, part psychological guide--and a fascinating read for anyone who wants to better understand the needs and dynamics that drive the complex relationships in their lives.
* What it means to be securely and insecurely attached
* How our early childhood experiences create a blueprint for future relationships--and how to use those insights to gain self-awareness and growth
* Why anxious and avoidant attachment types tend to attract each other, and how to break the negative cycle
* How anyone can work to become "earned secure" regardless of their upbringing and past relationships.
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Table of Contents
Foreword Professor Harry Reis xiii
Part I What Is Attachment?
Chapter 1 When the Tiger Conies: Origin of the Attachment System 3
Chapter 2 Five Adjectives: Measuring Adult Attachment 25
Chapter 3 When Mother Returns: Attachment Styles in Children 47
Chapter 4 In the Scanner: Attachment and the Brain 65
Part II Attachment throughout Our Lives
Chapter 5 A Date for Coffee: Attachment and Dating 83
Chapter 6 Raising a Human Being: Attachment and Parenting 105
Chapter 7 Dancing Close: Attachment, Marriage, and Couples Counseling 122
Chapter 8 Sassy and Classy: Attachment and Friendship 135
Chapter 9 Getting Old: Attachment and Aging 147
Part III Attachment All Around Us
Chapter 10 Securing a Position: Attachment in the Workplace 163
Chapter 11 Before the Buzzer: Attachment and Sports 175
Chapter 12 Following the Leaders: Attachment and Politics 191
Chapter 13 Thou Art with Me: Attachment and Religion 211
Appendix: Attachment Quiz 243
About the Author 277