The Blind Spot Effect: How to Stop Missing What's Right in Front of You

The Blind Spot Effect: How to Stop Missing What's Right in Front of You

by Kelly Boys


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Do you ever feel like you're experiencing your life at only a fraction of its true clarity and depth?
Are your days dominated by a single emotion such as fear, sadness, anger, or disappointment?
At work or in your personal life, do you find yourself facing similar relationship patterns or conflicts again and again?

From our earliest years, we all acquire blind spots in the way we perceive, feel, and think. Driven by our biology, life experiences, cultural messages, and physical environment, they profoundly affect us throughout our lives.

This informative and practical guide invites us to understand: how we get them, how to bring them to light, and how to work with that newfound awareness to improve our lives.
Here, author Kelly Boys presents emerging research from many fields of psychology and neuroscience, personal stories, and a wealth of hands-on exercises and practices to help us identify, welcome, and transform our own hidden domains.
Join her to explore:

What we miss and how we miss it
Attentional blink—gaps in our sensory awareness and our astonishing potential to perceive more in each moment
• Decoding your unconscious stories—how they filter the truth and influence you
• Hacking your intuition—why our gut instincts are not always accurate, and ways to get it right more often
The defended self—uncovering the core beliefs that shape your emotional landscape
• Using moments of crisis to reveal especially elusive blind spots
• Falling in love, "crushing," cheating, and wholehearted loving—shining a light into the wilderness of intimate relationships
• Three biases that sabotage our judgment and how to counter them
Self-compassion, welcoming, and vulnerability—keys to clearer self-perception
Flow states—becoming fully immersed in what you do without the filters that diminish your natural way of perceiving and being
• Seeing yourself as others see you—safely engaging with someone you trust to gain greater self-awareness
• Illuminating the biggest blind spot of all—the illusion of an isolated and separate self, and how to free ourselves from the traps it creates
• Chapter-by-chapter practices—somatic, contemplative, and mindfulness-based—for self-discovery and change
Once we recognize our blind spots, we can't unsee them. We release ourselves from unnecessary suffering and begin to experience each moment more richly. With The Blind Spot Effect, you're invited to illuminate what is right in front of you and within you—for greater wonder, joy, and fulfillment.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781622039975
Publisher: Sounds True, Incorporated
Publication date: 07/01/2018
Pages: 208
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Kelly Boys
Kelly Boys is a mindfulness trainer with the United Nations Foundation. She is the host of the Mindfulness Monthly program with Sounds True and directed the launch of the Google-born Search Inside Yourself facilitator training program for neuroscience-based emotional intelligence and mindfulness for the SIY Leadership Institute. She’s taught war veterans, prison inmates, humanitarian workers, and psychotherapists. She lives in Northern California. More at

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

1 Attentional Blink What We Miss and How We Miss It 9

2 You See It … but You Don't See It Decoding the Stories in Our Minds 25

3 Shortcut to Flow State Hacking Faulty Intuitions 51

4 Choose Your Own Adventure Discovering Personalized Core Beliefs 71

5 The Full Spectrum Welcoming Emotional Blind Spots 85

6 Love Is Blind First Impressions and Falling in Love 99

7 Self-Compassion … and the Big Reveal 123

8 F*ck Feedback Illuminating How Others See Us 139

9 Trust Your Gut Uncovering Your Intuitional Navigation System 153

10 Happy Trails A Concise Guide to Working with Your Blind Spots 171

Afterword the Biggest Blind Spot of All 177

Acknowledgments 183

Notes 185

About the Author 191

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