The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love

The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love

by Janet W. Hardy, Dossie Easton

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The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy, Dossie Easton

The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today's modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.

For 20 years The Ethical Slut has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to communication and sex has been revised to include interviews with poly millennials (young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships), tributes to poly pioneers, and new sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, and ways polys can connect and thrive. The authors also include new content addressing nontraditional relationships beyond the polyamorous paradigm of "more than two": couples who don't live together, couples who don't have sex with each other, nonparallel arrangements, couples with widely divergent sex styles, power disparities, and cross-orientation relationships, while utilizing nonbinary gender language and new terms that have come into common usage since the last edition.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780399579660
Publisher: Potter/Ten Speed/Harmony/Rodale
Publication date: 08/15/2017
Pages: 320
Sales rank: 33,358
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

JANET W. HARDY is the author of more than ten books and the founder of Greenery Press, a now defunct publisher specializing in sexually adventurous books. She has an MFA in creative writing from St. Mary's College, and swore off monogamy in 1987.

DOSSIE EASTON is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in alternative sexualities and relationships, with twenty years of experience counseling open relationships. She is the author of four other books, and has been an ethical slut since 1969.

Table of Contents

Part 1 Welcome

1 Who Is an Ethical Slut? 1

2 Myths and Realities 10

3 Our Beliefs 23

4 Slut Styles 31

5 Battling Sex Negativity 47

6 Building a Culture or Consent 53

7 Infinite Possibilities 60

Part 2 The Practice of Sluthood

8 Abundance 75

9 Slut Skills 83

10 Boundaries 92

11 The Unethical Slut 99

12 Flirting and Cruising 103

13 Keeping Sex Safe 113

14 Childrearing 123

Part 3 Navigating Challenges

15 Roadmaps through Jealousy 135

16 Embracing Conflict 158

17 Making Agreements 172

18 Opening an Existing Relationship 186

Part 4 Sluts in Love

19 Making Connection 201

20 Couples and Groups 210

21 The Single Slut 224

22 The Ebb and Flow of Relationships 235

23 Sex and Pleasure 243

24 Public Sex, Group Sex, and Orgies 270

Conclusion: A Slut Utopia 292

A Slut's Glossary 296

Further Reading 302

About the Authors 305

Index 306

Exercises

Sluts We Know and Love 12

Some Affirmations to Try 90

Practice Makes Perfect 115

How Do You Experience Jealousy? 141

Reassurance 149

Fifteen Ways to Be Kind to Yourself 152

Treasures 154

Feelings Dyad 166

Eight Steps to Win-Win Conflict Resolution 177

What Is Anger Good For? 191

Hierarchy of Hard 193

The Twenty-Minute Fight 196

The Airport Game 204

A Healthy Breakup 242

The Process-Free Date 256

A Hot Date with Yourself 257

Yes, No, Maybe 261

More Fun with Your "Yes, No, Maybe" List 263

Get Loud 269

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