John and Julie Gottman, world-renowned for bringing an evidence base to couples therapy, report here the results of a second empirical revolution in understanding couples and families. This change is not based on their guesswork, but on state-of-the-art science. The book you hold in your hands finally completes the old general systems theory of the 1960s, which metaphorically described processes but did not actually research them.
A new general systems theory and therapy is presented here, one which will have profound implications for powerful clinical work with both couples and families. This new theory is based on 45 years of careful basic scientific research with thousands of couples and families, including synchronized observational, interview, physiological, and questionnaire data.
The Gottmans have studied some families for as long as 20 consecutive years. Their work has led to their highly replicated ability to precisely predict the future of relationships, relationship happiness, and whether couples will divorce or not with as much as 94% accuracy. Their empirical work has also led them to develop and test a theory of specifically what makes relationships work. Each construct in this theory is precise and measurable and it is all written about and described here.
This book presents an original new way of understanding relationships and families. Both theoretical and highly practical, and it will help clinicians become more effective in their everyday work.
|Publisher:||Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.|
|Edition description:||New Edition|
|Product dimensions:||6.00(w) x 9.40(h) x 1.30(d)|
About the Author
John M. Gottman, PhD, is William Mifflin Professor of Psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle. World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. Gottman has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the author of over two dozen books, including Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work, The Heart of Parenting (with J. DeClaire), When Men Batter Women (with Neil Jacobson), Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, The Marriage Clinic, and The Science of Trust.
Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D., is the Co-Founder and President of The Gottman Institute. A highly respected clinical psychologist, she is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on marriage, domestic violence, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting issues. She is the co-creator of the immensely popular The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples and she also co-designed the national clinical training program in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.
Table of Contents
Preface: A Call For A New 4SD Systems Therapy ix
Chapter 1 The Old General Systems Theory and the Old Family Therapy 1
Chapter 2 What Might Be Regulated in Family Homeostasis? 12
Chapter 3 What Is Trust? 20
Chapter 4 What Is Commitment? What Is Betrayal? 39
Chapter 5 A Good Theory Needs Data 63
Chapter 6 So, What's a Relationship? 68
Chapter 7 Flooding and Physiological Calm 85
Chapter 8 Change 96
Chapter 9 The Demand-Withdraw Pattern 131
Chapter 10 Our Mighty Theory: The Sound Relationship House 144
Chapter 11 What's Behind Demand-Withdraw: Meta-emotion Mismatch 177
Chapter 12 The Power of Turning Toward 201
Chapter 13 Examining Relationship Stability 219
Chapter 14 Enter the Baby 227
Chapter 15 The Family as the Baby Develops 250
Chapter 16 Summary of Our Family Systems Therapy 278
Appendix 1 How Children Become Friends 282
Appendix 2 Six Math Sidebars 293
Appendix 3 Simulation Sidebar 305