A counselor in the depth psychology tradition shows readers there's nothing to fear from anxiety
“The Wisdom of Anxiety serves as a well-lit pathway to the truth of who we are and to how to navigate life when paralyzed by anxiety, depression, overwhelm, and a sense of hopelessness.” Alanis Morissette, singer-songwriter
Work anxiety. Relationship anxiety. Social anxiety. World anxiety. Money anxiety. Health anxiety.
How does reading those words make you feel?
All too often, when we experience the things that give us anxiety, our first instinct is to try to run away or numb out from feeling them. But what if the unpleasant feelings you want to turn away from are actually vital sources of information about your well-being?
In The Wisdom of Anxiety, counselor Sheryl Paul examines the deeper meaning of the racing thoughts, sweaty palms, and insomnia that accompany the uncertain moments of our lives. No one likes to feel anxietyand yet, Paul asserts it can be a remarkably direct messenger of our subconscious. Here you will learn how you can pause and listen to your anxieties to discover inner truths that you’ve been avoiding.
This lyrically written book not only considers the many forms anxieties can take, but also provides deep-dive practices for addressing them at their roots.
Here you will learn:
? The nature of intrusive thoughts and how to manage them.
? How to explore states of loneliness, apathy, regret, and shame without being caught up in them.
? Feeling anxiety around feeling good? Discover why and what to do about it.
? How to cultivate your own loving inner parent.
? Why anxiety can arise from boredom and longing.
? How to create healthy and meaningful personal rituals to relieve anxiety.
? Navigating the many sources of anxiety in relationships.
Whether it’s worry around raising children, nervousness about world events, or any other way anxiety manifests, The Wisdom of Anxiety can help you uncover the true source of your discomfort and find the rich self-knowledge within.
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About the Author
Sheryl Paul, MA, has guided thousands of people worldwide through her private practice, bestselling books, online courses, and website. She lives in Colorado with her husband and two sons. For more, see conscious-transitions.com.
Table of Contents
List of Practices xi
Introduction Anxiety Is a Doorway 1
Part 1 Anxiety and Its Messages
1 Anxiety Defined and the Call to Turn Inward 15
Symptoms of Anxiety 17
Origins of Anxiety 20
Anxiety Is Not a Game of Whac-A-Mole 24
Four Key Elements: Curiosity, Compassion, Stillness, and Gratitude 25
2 Two Cultural Messages That
Create Anxiety: The Myth of Normal and the Expectation of Happiness 35
The Myth of Normal 36
The Expectation of Happiness 39
There Are No Answers, Only Guideposts to Wisdom 41
To Be Human 43
3 Roadblocks to Healing 49
The Character of Resistance 49
Responsibility: The Key to Transformation 55
The Escape Hatch of Perfection: A Way to Avoid Responsibility 59
The Timeline of Healing 61
4 Transitions 63
The Three Stages of Transition 64
The Transitions That the Culture Doesn't Talk About 65
5 Months and Seasons: Attuning to the Rhythms of the Year 73
Autumn: The Season of Letting Go 75
Winter: Season of Stillness and Gratitude 78
Spring: The Season of Rebirth 84
Summer: The Season of Celebration 86
6 The Vulnerability of Being Present 89
No Escape Hatch from Life 90
The Fear of Feeling Too Good 92
Part 2 The Four Realms of Self: Healing Anxiety from the Ground Up
7 The Seat at the Head of Your Table 101
The Qualities of a Loving Inner Parent 102
8 The Realm of the Body 107
The Physical Symptoms of Anxiety 108
Low Blood Sugar and Anxiety 110
Food and Anxiety 112
Alcohol and Anxiety 113
9 The Realm of Thoughts 121
Intrusive Thoughts and the Cognitive Manifestations of Anxiety 121
Accessing the Choice-Point 124
Developing Discernment: Whatever You Water Will Grow 126
Symbols, Metaphors, and Dreams 129
The Metaphor of Intrusive Thoughts 132
Living with Uncertainty: The Call of Intrusive Thoughts 136
10 The Realm of Feelings 141
Anxiety Is a Placeholder for Feelings 143
A Lifetime Habit of Avoiding Pain 145
Early and Ancient Pain 148
How Unshed Grief Morphs into Anxiety 151
Turn to Face Your Fear 153
Fundamental Human Feelings: Boredom and Loneliness 155
11 Longing 161
Root Versus Secondary Longing 161
The lives We Will Never Live 164
The Wisdom of Longing 167
12 The Realm of Soul 171
The Well of Being 171
The Essential Function of Healthy Rituals 174
13 When Anxiety Heals 179
Anxiety and Emptiness 179
The Fruits of the Labor 181
Part 3 Relationships
14 The Vulnerability of Connection 185
15 The Romantic Connection 189
What Is Relationship Anxiety? 190
What Is Healthy Love? 191
Fear Eyes or Cleat Eyes: Love Is Not the Absence of Fear 197
Key Concepts for Understanding Relationship Anxiety: Projection and the Pursuer-Distancer Syndrome 200
16 Parenting In An Age Of Anxiety 205
Worry Is the Work of Parenthood 206
Three Antianxiety Medications for Parents: Gratitude, Attunement, Taking the Long View 209
Helping Children with Anxiety 213
Teaching Kids to Feel Their Feelings 214
Fully Loved 217
Appendix A Relationship Red Flags 225
Appendix B Two Ways To Journal 227
Recommendations For Further Learning 235
About The Author 239
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
The 21st Century has been labeled by many as the Age of Anxiety. Nearly 300 million people worldwide have received anxiety diagnoses and millions more are undiagnosed. Anxiety, when balanced, is beneficial to us. It alerts us to what we should pay attention to, use caution toward or what to examine for more data. It’s helpful. It’s a natural human response that help us survive and thrive. It’s when anxiety becomes imbalanced that it becomes problematic. The reasons for the rise in anxiety disorders are many. The approach to eradicate it has become mainstream. Author Sheryl Paul proposes that anxiety should be approached first and foremost as a learning tool, stripping away the shame that is often attached to It which leads us on a quest to completely eradicate or hide it. This book offers a holistic, spiritual (not to be confused with religious) and motivational approach to dealing with anxiety rather than a purely scientific approach. Much reference is made to the soul and spiritual healing. The typical accoutrements of anxiety, such as rumination, worry, intrusive thoughts and insomnia are covered alongside the concept of nonidentification (although not explicitly described as such). The assurances that we are not defined by our anxiety, our emotions or our challenges is consistently and comfortingly woven throughout the pages. I recommend this book to those whose self-esteem has taken a hit from their anxiety.