Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now


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ISBN-13: 9781569243732
Publisher: Da Capo Press
Publication date: 03/03/2008
Pages: 192
Sales rank: 76,565
Product dimensions: 5.00(w) x 7.20(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Gordon Livingston, MD, a graduate of West Point and the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine who was awarded the Bronze Star for valor in Vietnam, was a psychiatrist and writer who contributed frequently to the Washington Post, San Francisco Chronicle, and Baltimore Sun. His books include Only Spring; Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart; And Never Stop Dancing; How to Love; and The Thing You Think You Cannot Do.

Table of Contents

1If the map doesn't agree with the ground, the map is wrong1
2We are what we do6
3It is difficult to remove by logic an idea not placed there by logic in the first place12
4The statute of limitations has expired on most of our childhood traumas18
5Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least24
6Feelings follow behavior28
7Be bold, and mighty forces will come to your aid36
8The perfect is the enemy of the good41
9Life's two most important questions are "Why?" and "Why not?" The trick is knowing which one to ask45
10Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses50
11The most secure prisons are those we construct for ourselves55
12The problems of the elderly are frequently serious but seldom interesting61
13Happiness is the ultimate risk68
14True love is the apple of Eden75
15Only bad things happen quickly80
16Not all who wander are lost87
17Unrequited love is painful but not romantic91
18There is nothing more pointless, or common, than doing the same things and expecting different results95
19We flee from the truth in vain101
20It's a poor idea to lie to oneself107
21We are all prone to the myth of the perfect stranger111
22Love is never lost, not even in death115
23Nobody likes to be told what to do119
24The major advantage of illness is that it provides relief from responsibility125
25We are afraid of the wrong things129
26Parents have a limited ability to shape children's behavior, except for the worse136
27The only real paradises are those we have lost144
28Of all the forms of courage, the ability to laugh is the most profoundly therapeutic152
29Mental health requires freedom of choice158
30Forgiveness is a form of letting go, but they are not the same thing162

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Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Hirty True Things You Need to Know Now 3.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 24 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Though the 'things' presented in this book may sound familiar to someone in his/her later life, they have the ring of many discussions I have had with my angst-ridden 17-year-old daughter. The book is affirming to a parent trying to raise a healthy-minded child while still going through his own challenges! I love the affirming quality of the writing, not preachy, not patronizing, but very objective.
RebaTX More than 1 year ago
Makes you look at your life and how you have and are living it. Very worthwhile.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is a wonderful, insightful report of a journey of a therapist's life and his conclusions about our choices and reactions to them. I so applaud his 'the buck stops here' attitude in taking responsibility for our own actions. A total must read--please bring kleenex, you will need it time and time again as this books jogs your own reflections of life!
Guest More than 1 year ago
TOO SOON OLD, TOO LATE SMART is a brief compendium of an experienced therapist¿s accumulated wisdom, honed both by his work with his patients and by his own experiences with extraordinary personal loss. Each short chapter discusses a truth about how to negotiate the emotional and interpersonal dilemmas with which we all must deal in our journey through life. A common thread throughout the book is the author¿s belief in our responsibility for our choices and their consequences. Within this context, he debunks the validity of widely accepted clinical entities such as Dissociative Identity Disorder and Adult Attention Deficit Disorder that he believes are often used as excuses to mitigate responsibility for behavior. While at times opinionated, Dr. Livington¿s work contains enough pearls of wisdom to instruct the lives of any reader willing to undertake the self-examination and self-discipline essential to living a full and satisfying life.
RhydTybyans on LibraryThing 19 days ago
A book containing generally sensible advice, written in an easy but assured conversational style.I am currently re-reading it by means of reading a chapter every evening to my wife.
carterchristian1 on LibraryThing 19 days ago
What can I say but "Amen"
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Every few years I pick up this book and read it again. This should be mandatory reading for everyone before being allowed to graduate high school. So much of life captured in just a few pages.
Smartsloan More than 1 year ago
Thirty chapters on subjects which are nothing new to anyone but still worth exploring. Reader beware:This is just one single person's opinions and these opinions are distorted by unfathomable grief, a look at life that is so dark, unhopeful and full of downright despair, I had to stop reading at page 118 with the most depressing toast, written for his daughter's wedding. After days and days of feeling down-trodden while reading this book, I finally had to put this book down, without finishing it - only the second time in my entire 64 years of reading, to not complete a book - I simply could not muddle through one more page of "life sucks, why bother living successfully?" Yes, it has a somewhat catchy title. If you can't write properly, maybe turn the words around and that will make one look a little more thoughtful? Nice try, but not really. The 30 chapters also have catchy titles but that's where the depth stops. Diving into this book is like hoping you are stepping into a limitless well of refreshing insight that might carry deep thoughts which you can take home to enrich your own outlook and life. What I stepped into was nothing but a sniveling, shallow pothole of depressing muck. Besides the fact that this book is so poorly written grammatically, the morose content may take me weeks or months to extract from my thoughts and return myself to a life of joy and hopefulness. Just because someone has MD after their name doesn't mean they can write properly, and just because someone has experienced unbelievable pain, loss and grief, doesn't mean they learned enough to truly help others come through the journey successfully. How about Chapter 31: Misery loves company and a cute title doesn't change that fact. Misery still loves company. I deeply regret getting sucked into the despair of this book just because it said "National Best Seller." Now I know why so many Americans (the nation) are depressed, thanks to junk being published with a slick cover, just like this book by Gordon Livingston.
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imnotauser More than 1 year ago
with some thoughts that are hard to replicate
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Guest More than 1 year ago
Each chapter of this book talks about about a different area of hardship we all encounter throughout our lives. Taking responsibility for your actions is a theme throughout. I like the writing as it makes you think about causes and effect of choices in life, which is something many of us do not think enough about.