We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love
"If you and your prospective partner adopt the principles and skills I describe here, your relationship will be successful—not just for starters, but for the long run."

An indispensable guide for any couple ready to set the foundation for a loving and lasting union

Committing fully to a loving partnership—a "we"—can be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling experiences you’ll ever have. Yet as anyone in a long-term relationship will tell you, it can also be one of the most challenging. Almost half of all first marriages end in divorce, and chances go down from there. So how do you beat the odds?

"All successful long-term relationships are secure relationships," writes psychotherapist Stan Tatkin. "You and your partner take care of each other in a way that ensures you both feel safe, protected, accepted, and secure at all times."

In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You’ll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love. Highlights include:

Create a shared vision for your relationship, the key to a strong foundation

• It’s all about prevention—learn tools and techniques for preventing problems before they occur

• Understand how to work with the psychological and biological influences in your relationship—neuroscience, arousal regulation, attachment theory, and more

• Numerous case studies with helpful examples of healthy and unhealthy interactions, sample dialogues, and reflections

• Dozens of exercises—the newlywed game, reading facial expressions, and many more fun and serious practices to develop intimacy and security

• Handling conflict—how to broker win-win outcomes

• Build a loving relationship that helps you thrive and grow as both individuals and a couple

Common interests, physical attraction, shared values, and good communication skills are the factors most commonly thought to indicate a good partnership. Yet surprisingly, current research reveals that these are only a small part of what makes for a healthy marriage—much more important are psychological and biological influences. With We Do, you’ll learn to navigate these elements and more, giving your relationship the best possible chance to succeed.

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We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love
"If you and your prospective partner adopt the principles and skills I describe here, your relationship will be successful—not just for starters, but for the long run."

An indispensable guide for any couple ready to set the foundation for a loving and lasting union

Committing fully to a loving partnership—a "we"—can be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling experiences you’ll ever have. Yet as anyone in a long-term relationship will tell you, it can also be one of the most challenging. Almost half of all first marriages end in divorce, and chances go down from there. So how do you beat the odds?

"All successful long-term relationships are secure relationships," writes psychotherapist Stan Tatkin. "You and your partner take care of each other in a way that ensures you both feel safe, protected, accepted, and secure at all times."

In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You’ll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love. Highlights include:

Create a shared vision for your relationship, the key to a strong foundation

• It’s all about prevention—learn tools and techniques for preventing problems before they occur

• Understand how to work with the psychological and biological influences in your relationship—neuroscience, arousal regulation, attachment theory, and more

• Numerous case studies with helpful examples of healthy and unhealthy interactions, sample dialogues, and reflections

• Dozens of exercises—the newlywed game, reading facial expressions, and many more fun and serious practices to develop intimacy and security

• Handling conflict—how to broker win-win outcomes

• Build a loving relationship that helps you thrive and grow as both individuals and a couple

Common interests, physical attraction, shared values, and good communication skills are the factors most commonly thought to indicate a good partnership. Yet surprisingly, current research reveals that these are only a small part of what makes for a healthy marriage—much more important are psychological and biological influences. With We Do, you’ll learn to navigate these elements and more, giving your relationship the best possible chance to succeed.

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We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love

We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love

by Stan Tatkin PsyD, MFT
We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love

We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love

by Stan Tatkin PsyD, MFT

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"If you and your prospective partner adopt the principles and skills I describe here, your relationship will be successful—not just for starters, but for the long run."

An indispensable guide for any couple ready to set the foundation for a loving and lasting union

Committing fully to a loving partnership—a "we"—can be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling experiences you’ll ever have. Yet as anyone in a long-term relationship will tell you, it can also be one of the most challenging. Almost half of all first marriages end in divorce, and chances go down from there. So how do you beat the odds?

"All successful long-term relationships are secure relationships," writes psychotherapist Stan Tatkin. "You and your partner take care of each other in a way that ensures you both feel safe, protected, accepted, and secure at all times."

In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You’ll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love. Highlights include:

Create a shared vision for your relationship, the key to a strong foundation

• It’s all about prevention—learn tools and techniques for preventing problems before they occur

• Understand how to work with the psychological and biological influences in your relationship—neuroscience, arousal regulation, attachment theory, and more

• Numerous case studies with helpful examples of healthy and unhealthy interactions, sample dialogues, and reflections

• Dozens of exercises—the newlywed game, reading facial expressions, and many more fun and serious practices to develop intimacy and security

• Handling conflict—how to broker win-win outcomes

• Build a loving relationship that helps you thrive and grow as both individuals and a couple

Common interests, physical attraction, shared values, and good communication skills are the factors most commonly thought to indicate a good partnership. Yet surprisingly, current research reveals that these are only a small part of what makes for a healthy marriage—much more important are psychological and biological influences. With We Do, you’ll learn to navigate these elements and more, giving your relationship the best possible chance to succeed.


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781622038930
Publisher: Sounds True
Publication date: 12/01/2018
Pages: 224
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, California, and with his wife, Dr. Tracey Tatkin, cofounded the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practices. For more information, visit thepactinstitute.com.

Table of Contents

Introduction Why Should You "We Do?" 1

Chapter 1 The Secret to a Successful Marriage 9

Chapter 2 How Strong Is Your Couple Bubble? 23

Chapter 3 Managing Your Negative Brain 49

Chapter 4 The Troublesome Triad: Memory, Perception, and Communication 61

Chapter 5 What Are Your Styles of Relating? 75

Chapter 8 How Well Do You Know Each Other? 113

Chapter 7 Deal Breakers 135

Chapter 8 Sex! 151

Chapter 9 How Well Do You Fight? 181

Chapter 10 What Does the Future Hold? 201

Acknowledgments 209

Notes 211

About the Author 215

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